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Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Venting... Happier update :smile:

Metric · Gucci

RE: Venting...

Kari · Dooney & Bourke

I know it isn't what you want to hear, but I know how you feel. And, I have no advice for you other than "hang in there!"

What year are you? Are there any activities that you can cut back on? Are you going to be able to relax a little on Spring Break?

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

The circus sounds awesome Metric! And Kari, cutting back could help if it were possible, but I'm a 2-L, and basically I'm just not cut out for this - for example, with the clinic work I say things like "This was really hard and I did this and this and think I found what we're looking for here..." My partners are much more authoritative and never admit anything was difficult or that any of their research might be less than solid. So I hate them and they look down on me for showing weakness. It's a culture thing. Plus, I am a person who needs a certain amount of rest and a certain amount of fun and a certain amount of grooming to be able to be a productive member of the human race. I am NOT getting any of it, so it's just wearing. And I hate that no matter how much I do, there's always this little sneer from the profs "Oh, is that all you can do..." That motivates some people. But not me.

Anyway, spring break will be more of the same, but I dont' have to remember to go to class in the middle. So, venting's done. And I made my deadline (with a little help from lexis - yay!)

Metric · Gucci

Sweetie- do you want to be a lawyer? What do you really want to do?

small fry · Chanel

Well here is a (((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))) Oh and tell those partners of yours to go to H***

Okay Iam no help but I just wanted to say we(s-t friends) could give them a big kick in the ass

(kidding) Sorry for the ranting

Kari · Dooney & Bourke

Dizzy -

You sound a lot like me. I never feel really confident in my legal research because of course there is hardly ever that "holy grail" out there that says exactly what I want it to. And, I am a bit of a perfectionist so I keep searching and searching, then I turn things in and make excuses or apologize for not finding it.

I have learned thought that almost always...the work I have done is exactly what they were looking for and that all they ask is that I do a dilligent search of the existing law. I don't know why we are so insecure about it, I guess because we get NO positive feedback at all.

You are almost finished with your second year!! And for me, the third year is SO great! I am definitely burned out and ready to get the hell out of here, but the super busy, loads of work days are gone. The third year is just boring, but easy.

I have MANY days that I would just quit...even though I only have 2 months of school left. Sometimes I have mini panic attacks thinking that I don't even want to be a lawyer. Then I realize that I do want to be a lawyer, I just don't want to be the kind of lawyer that I am often around. I don't want to be an asshole with no compassion or no willingness to help others along. I can't wait until the day that I have an intern working for me and I can take on a mentor role and help shape their learning.

Try to keep a positive outlook. Realize that YOU are expecting way more from yourself than anyone else is. You can pm me if you need to vent further or want to talk.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

RE: Venting... Happier update :smile:

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

so happy to hear you're getting the recognition you so richly deserve!

laken1 · Hermes

Dizzy wrote:

Well, I'm Oscar the Grouch, and probably smell bad.

Awww, I have an oscar the grouch tee that syas "Have a Rotten Day" - I wish I could send it to you!

Sorry it's been so rough for you but it sounds like you are good well! Positive feedback always help.

small fry · Chanel

well you know what I think ? I think you are going to make one hell of a lawyer and you are going to kick some butt

blubirde · Chanel

Oh, Dizzy. The memories you are bringing back to me. *wistful sigh*

Listen, what is it they say about law school? First year they scare you to death, second year they work you to death, and third year they bore you to death? Something like that. It's completely true. Especially during interview season. Ugh. So. Horrible.

And how many times did I show up in school wearing the same clothes I'd worn the day before and having no time for a shower? Well, okay, none but that's just because I had to work at the same time and I couldn't have gotten away with wearing sweats to work. But I assure you that clothes were sometimes the only things that got changed. I can imagine that I could have gone 3-4 days without a shower at some points. (Gross!)

Don't go getting all philosophical and shit. Of course you don't want to be a lawyer. No one actually wants to be a lawyer. That said, it's better than being a janitor, don't you think? Generally pays better too. I'd also like to point out that being an actual lawyer is nothing like law school. The closest thing you'll get is clerking in the summer. That's like law school/work party! (The exclamation mark is meant to be facetious.) You won't know how you actually feel about law and being a lawyer until you're doing it. No sense wondering if this is what you're meant to do because you hate law school. Everyone hates law school. That's just the way it is. It sucks and if you don't want to quit, you're not human.

Here's another little pepper for you to stick away somewhere: if I can do it (and I assure you I'm way less motivated than you are), then you can definitely do it. Good luck and hang tight!