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tara t · Marc Jacobs

mad at my friend.

laken1 · Hermes

seriously, i'd be smart ass right back & say something like "you always complain because we never invite you - this is why" - I guess that's a knee jerk reaction, but that's a really jerky thing to say.

Cortney1982 · Chanel

Now that is immature! He didn't have to come in the fist place. Ignore it, we will feel stupid for his IM.

blink · Coach

what a bitter dude. my husband has some friends exactly like this. interesting to me how men like this are almost as childish as the children they complain about, they resent when things change, when friends of theirs settle down, have kids, quit hanging out and drinking late at night, whatever. If it were me, I would say, "no sweat, you're off the list."

Maddie · Coach

That's so obnoxious. I would defintely be rude right back and say something like, "Don't worry, I won't." I wouldn't call him and yell at him, because then it looks like you care too much, but I have no problem with responding like a smart ass in these types of situations.

NCshopper · Hermes

I like what the other girls suggested. "Don't worry, we won't be inviting you" is fine. That's really shitty of him to be like that. I agree that he's probably totally immature and hates the fact that people are settling down, having kids, and he's not.

blubirde · Chanel

My usual response to people like this is "you're an asshole." But I'm not sure that's the most productive thing to do... But seriously, I'd totally call him on it. He wants invites, you give him an invite. He doesn't enjoy himself, fine. Keep it to himself. I'd straight out tell him that it's an asshole move to complain about not being invited to parties and then to bitch at you about them afterwards. If he doesn't like it, screw him. He's the one with the problem.

Just my two cents!

bumblebee · Coach

to borrow someone else's phrase--sounds like someone is jealous. that's super-lame. i think i would do what the others have suggested and say "yeah, that's why we usually don't invite you."

Collette · Chanel

That's seriously really crappy of him to say. Whether he's being sarcastic or not it's just rude. You incited him to your home, obviously if he's friends with you DH he's got to realize that it's not going to be a bunch of single guys chilling watching the game. My respose would be...

"That's fine I'm sorry your being single made you feel uncomfortable in my home. I'll be sure next time to not extend an invite so as not to make you feel out of place." The end. and then add "PS you're an ass xoxo"

shopgirl82 · Chanel

i would say something like, "yeah, butthead and i didn't know if you would feel comfortable at the party, now we know to hold the invites"

turn it around on him, like he's the one who has the problems.

NCshopper · Hermes

shopgirl82 wrote:

i would say something like, "yeah, butthead and i didn't know if you would feel comfortable at the party, now we know to hold the invites" turn it around on him, like he's the one who has the problems.

Ooooh....that's gooooooooooood! I think that's the best way to handle it. Definitely. It's kinda snarky without being super snarky.

Maat · Kenneth Cole

Well, you are friends with this guy and usually, he is a nice person. Right? While saying "you're an ass" or "fine, I won't invite you anymore" is probably warranted, I think a better approach would be to make him feel even more welcome to the parties since it seems that he felt like the odd man out at the party (or maybe abandoned by all his friends who have taken the next step in their lives when he hasn't) and he reacted in an emotional way. It is totally normal for a SuperBowl party to be a family affair and you should be able to invite whomever you would like to YOUR party anyway. I would say, "I'm sorry it wasn't really your scene. We enjoy having you at our parties and would be incredibly disappointed if you stopped coming. However, you have to understand that we also want our other friends and their families to attend. We will continue to invite you to our parties (we love you and can't accept that you won't be coming!), but if you don't want to come or just want to stop in for a little while, we'll understand."

I know this is completely opposite to what you are feeling, but I think if you snap back at him, the situation will just get worse.

shopgirl82 · Chanel

NCshopper wrote:

It's kinda snarky without being super snarky.

my specialty.

-- Edited by shopgirl82 at 19:28, 2006-02-06

MissMee · Kate Spade

You could say "if you didn't come to the kids and couples party, it would just be a couples' party." and leave it at that. Cry baby.