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laken1


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Luv2Shop wrote:
Where to begin???  I am just having a rough week.  Sorry this is so long.
1.  I am getting my period in 2 days so multiply my emotions about all these things by like 200!
2.  Hubby and I have been fighting about just about EVERYTHING this week.  I hate my job and am trying to find a new one and he seems to think he knows everything about finding a job and about my field.  He has NEVER had to go through the process of getting an entry level job or sending resumes and cover letters and working you way up.  He has always worked at a restaurant or for his dad.  I make squat and am looking for any job that will pay a little bit more.  He seems to think that I should be making $75,000 as a graphic designer with like 2 years experience.  Ummmm I don't think so!!! 
Also, he is starting to not like hanging out with my family.  He loves my dad, but he is always annoyed with my mom and my brother.  My brother is a pot head, and for that my hubby seems to think he is like the worst person in the world and has to comment about it to me every chance he gets.  He also thinks that my mom enables him to live that lifestyle, I agree, but It's not a quick fix problem so we don't talk about it much to avoid conflict and fighting.  Hubby seems to think that since we do this we are avoiding reality and everything else is fake and bullshit as he so kindly put it yesterday while we were fighting about it.  My family is my comfort, I love being around them and my mom is my best friend.  I finally thought I found someone who understood that, but now after a year of marriage, we are fighting about it and he doesn't want to go there as much.  This weekend we were fighting because my mom likes to have "Sunday Dinner"  and she assumes that every Sunday we will be over for dinner.  Well, this past weekend we went out to dinner on Saturday for my birthday, so when my mom assumed we would be over Sunday night as well, he like flipped out!  Like, they already "used up" their dinner and we shouldn't go over there.  He also wants to be notified on wednesdays if we will be having sunday dinner.  My family doesn't PLAN things like that, we just aren't like that (his family is, but that's a whole other bowl of soup!!)  He is just being REDICULOUS about the whole thing.
3.  I am so stressed about $.  When I think about it I feel like I am suffocating.  I take care of all the bills on top of all the other housework and I don't think it's fair.  (again, a whole other bowl of soup)  We called Comcast yesterday to cancel digital cable to save $ and just have basic and it's more expensive then digital (because we still have the special rate on digital for a few more months)!!!  WTF?!?!?!?  So basically if I want ANY kind of tv it's like $30 a month or more???? That's way too much!
4.  Hubby and I are  supposed to be trying to loose wieght.  You all know it's harder for women to loose weight so I am trying to cut back on junk food.  Sure.  We are broke so the cheapest things to eat are pizza, pasta, and cereal.  Great.  Not to mention hubby is a sweets junky so he sits in front of the tv and eats ice cream and candy and cookies and then does some sit ups and thinks he's being healthy.  When I come home and deal with all the above stress the LAST thing I feel like doing is jumping around to some work out video and eating lettuce.  Yesterday hubby came home and I was on the couch wallowing over all I am stressed about and he said "well maybe if you got up and did something active you might feel better"  AHHHHHHHHHH
I just want to cry and cry and cry and cry, someone please wallow with me.-- Edited by Luv2Shop at 12:11, 2006-01-10



Ok, I can't help on the pity party cause I'm having a pretty good day. Especially after I read that hysterical smelly leek story! LOL

But I have a few suggestions, although unsolicited I realize! And you may get mad at me in your current state - I know I probably would. #1 - yes, everything is multiplied by like a trillion cause of the PMS. I have to recommend these stupid vitamins - I call them happy pills & I swear by them. Like I will be ready to kill someone & take them & they make me feel better. Apparently they are loaded with iron or something that you are lacking when you PMS, so they help stabilze your mood. I have used them for years & they are the only thing that works for me. They are called Optivit & you can get them at Walmart but you may have to ask the pharmacist for them. ETA: i just found them online cheaper - they aren't cheap.


The second thing that struck me was about your family / your issues with your husband. I am not taking his side because I know you feel strongly about this, but I get enough of my in laws as well sometimes, even though I love them. So on the whole Sunday dinner thing, does he have to be there every single time? I guess my point is that if it's really really important to you & it irritates him to have to go every week, could he come with you every other week? To be honest, I wouldn't want to see my in laws Sat & Sun on a weekend - I'd be irritated & I'd say so. But maybe it's a compromise you both could make? Just a suggestion.

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OMG BargainQueen that is so stupid and how scary is it that you can't even see or talk to your hubby!?  And they haven't told you anything about when he's getting out?  I had a friend get pulled over for speeding in high school and was arrested for the same thing, but they were very nice to me and gave me a ride home and were very informative!  Good luck!


And luv2shop, I have a similar situation with my fiance - his parents are in town and mine are out of town, so he's always dragging me over there, and frankly it gets old.  Then when I say I don't want to go, he gets upset.  So my hangup is that I miss my parents and hardly ever see them, so I get a little upset when we go over there all the time.  Perhaps this is the problem??



-- Edited by tina242 at 16:50, 2006-01-10

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tina242 wrote:


The doctor yesterday gave me a different antibiotic and cough syrup with codeine.


I used to get bronchitis all the time! And I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the cough syrup with codeine. It really knocks you out and keeps you from coughing. Use it as soon as you can go to sleep. Your body will thank you for it. Also, when I had trouble breathing (my dr. always gives me an inhaler when I get bronch but I refused to use it), going into the bathroom and turning on the shower full blast, hot, hot, hot, really helps open up your lungs and allows you to breathe a little better. I've been to tons of ERs in the middle of the night from not being able to breathe because of bronchitis. The shower thing has helped tremendously. And it's not a bad facial either!


I'm sorry you're sick.



-- Edited by blubirde at 17:00, 2006-01-10

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Tara


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Ok, I am joining the pity party, but this is a really really lame reason:


I am having my FIRST EVER cavity filled today at 4pm.  I am SO freaking upset with myself (for having a cavity) and scared (I am a giant giant baby).  Anyway, I am such a freaking baby I am making myself nauseous just thinking about it.


BUT, my b/f has volunteered to go with me b/c I am so scared (awwww, how sweet).


Ok, I admit I am very lame.  I am just SO mad that I have a cavity!!!!!



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Tara...I'm the biggest baby ever I swear. I cry/pass out when I get shots. I had to get 3 cavities filled last year after never having one before in my life. I was sooooo freaked out beforehand, but even for me it was TOTALLY fine. Quick, painless, not a big deal at all.

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Maddie wrote:

Tara...I'm the biggest baby ever I swear. I cry/pass out when I get shots. I had to get 3 cavities filled last year after never having one before in my life. I was sooooo freaked out beforehand, but even for me it was TOTALLY fine. Quick, painless, not a big deal at all.
Thank you SO much Maddie!  We are very similar - I faint EVERY single time I have blood drawn - I am such a baby....I am really really freaking out about my cavity.  I know I need to get over it, but I cant.......

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I've decided just to act like it's adorable. Haha. It is...right?

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Laken, I am going to HAVE to try those pills!!  It seems that lately, for the past couple years, my PMS makes me want to kill someone, it's never been so bad!  Thanks for the advice.  As far as my fam and hubby are concerned, I understand that he doens't want to hang out with them all the time, but it's that the main problem is my brother and he can't just ignore it and have a good time, he has to get all moody and then lecture me all the time about it.  I just wish he wasn't such a baby when my bro is there, cause we both really like being with my parents.

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Tara


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Maddie wrote:

I've decided just to act like it's adorable. Haha. It is...right?
It IS adorable....very Scarlett O'Hara.  Let's try to put the back of our hands to our foreheads the next time we swoon....I will keep that in mind today....

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oh, you poor girls! Mine isn't as bad, but I'll play:


-I tried to make cookies from scratch last night and they are awful. They were just the Tollhouse ones that I have made a million times, but I can never get them just right (usually I burn the bottom b/c I forget to watch them). I didn't follow my husband's advice (should have...he's an amazing cook) and they are terrible. I will never live them down


-I have to fill out my staffing request next week...basically they are going to set the teachers' schedules for next year. I am sad because I really want to teach a 60% day (3 classes instead of 5) and go back to school the rest of the time, but I can't function on a 60% salary. Booo. And even if some miracle does happen, once I turn in the request, I am locked in until May 2007 -- I can't change my hours or classes. Boooo.


-I have a cold sore. Bleh.


-Oh, and I am back at work after 2 weeks off. I haven't adjusted to the schedule yet, and I am SO TIRED.


-It's hot here. In January.



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BQ- hugs to you and i hope everything works out please lets us know what happens

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Wow, BQ, I think your day takes the cake in shittiness!!!  I can't believe that they've had your hubby since SATURDAY!!!!  For a speeding ticket when he was 18?!?!?!?!  That's INSANE! 


Geez, I hope things get better for you quickly!  That's awful!



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BargainQueen, I CANNOT BELIEVE they've had your DH in custody since Satuday. I'd be pretty pissed off too!


My bank account is overdrawn...thank goodness I start work next week or I'd be f**ked for money.


I'm tired and lethargic and I've failed my BF completely because today is his birthday and I have nothing to show for it becuase I'm in between jobs and I'm too exhausted to do anything but post on ST.



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group hug. if you had posted last week i would've written a short novel, so the good news is that it'll get better with time.


BQ can you contact a lawyer? actually tomorrow i'll ask one of the attorneys in my office if he has advice, b/c that is insane. it might not be that helpful since it's ny not ca, but i'll see what i can do.


all i have to add to this is that i'm dead tired and have no motivation. i'm in the home stretch as far as submitting applications, three down one to go, but i just don't have the energy. i literally just have to piece one more essay together. super simple, i already have the structure, i just have to write about why i want to go to x school and i can't do it. to make matters worse it's for a program that i really want to get into b/c if i'm accepted it would mean a full scholarship, so i think i'm psyching myself out.


my house is filthy. that is the only way to describe it. i am currently staring at a pile of laundry that is two weeks old. it's all clean, but i've been to lazy to put iway. so i just dumped everything on my couch.


i'm so over my job it's not funny. it's taking everything i have to suck it up for the next couple of months, but seriously i have daydreams about collecting unemployment. how sad is that.



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Whoa. I had no idea y'all were going through all this. The dean of my law school told me he thought I was wasting my time and money on school. And I have a light case of bronchitis too. But my apartment doesn't smell like leeks, which honestly would bother me more than anything else. So I'm doing ok. Hope everyone's week gets much, much, much better soon. Love you guys - stylethread IS the best.

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My boss came back from vacation today a chewed me out for something that I do not feel was my responsibility (its long and complicated, I won't get into it). I was just trying to do my best with the resources I had.


Then I came home and told my mom about it and cried and she said "I think your dog needs to be fed" (the dog was whining) THANKS FOR THE COMPASSION MOM!


And I have to go over to my inlaws for dinner- bleh



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