STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

bumblebee wrote:

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contrarian opinion, but FWIW...
did he say that it's over, or that he doesn't want to continue seeing you? because from what you wrote, it sounds to me like it's not over in his mind yet, especially given the fact that he spent the rest of the evening being sweet and trying to show you that he cares about you.  i think maybe you shouldn't take it too seriously. 
sometimes early on, boys freak themselves out when they like someone and they back up a little because they feel in over their heads.  it really sounds to me like maybe this guy just had a little panic moment, but that he's not saying that he's not into you.  in fact, it kind of sounds like he is, but we are not to blame for taking them at their word, of course.  i don't know your situation that well, but what seems to be helpful is to pay more attention to what they do and less attention to what they say.  it seems like he just has to tell himself that he's not having a relationship, while he is currently having a relationship, until his brain catches up with his heart.  -- Edited by bumblebee at 14:41, 2005-08-15

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I don't know bumblebee... Part of me would love to look at it from this point of view but the thing is (and this is the thing), I can't take that chance. I can't put more into something that I've been told, point-blank, isn't reciprocated in the same way.

But the other part of me knows that things have changed now. He may ACT like it's more than he says it is but his words are already out there. He already said things he can't take back. I can barely imagine the types of things he'd have to do and say to make me honestly believe he felt differently than he said he did.

So as much as I'd like to believe the different pov, I'd probably just be setting myself up for more heartache and then who would I have to blame? Me. And I don't do self-responsibility very well.