STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

That's a hard situation.  My husband has a 20 year old son, and he asks Josh to let him know if he'll be late or not home, or if he's leaving town, a general idea of where he's going and when he'll be back, just so he won't worry about him.  I think it's okay to let a parent know for courtesy, so they won't worry, but past 18, parents shouldn't be telling you what to do even if they do support you.  I don't think financial support through college should have strings attached.