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blubirde · Chanel

Ouch - I got rightfully slammed.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

are you kidding me?? that's not offensive- I probably would have cracked up laughing!

wicked · Coach

I think your friend needs to lighten up. Yee-ouch!

Drew · Gucci

I think I can relate. Last weekend while visiting my brother-in-law's apartment, I said some rude things about his apartment, things along the line of it being nice for a bachelor pad, but it needing a woman's touch, etc. I didn't realize that he is quite proud of his apartment and took offense (rightly so) to my comments, even though I was just giving my BIL a hard time in an effort to be funny.

People have different frames of reference so even though a person might say something to another person with one intention, the person receiving the comment may take it a whole other way, and trying to explain yourself doesn't always work (I apologized, then tried to explain why I said those things, but my point/joke didn't really come across to him).

I had a really hard time that evening and for a couple of nights because I hate the thought that I could lose even an ounce of BIL's respect or have him think I am a mean spirited person. I wanted to send BIL a plant with an apology, but DH felt my initial apology and BIL's response of, "I've already forgotten it." to be enough, and thought I would be making a bigger deal out of it than it is, and I do agree. My point is, you just have to move on now. You said your apology, and decided you won't make those jokes in the future, and we'll never be able to control what others think or feel about us, so you just have to go on and be yourself and that's all.

Hopefully, you'll never hear about it again, it's not a big deal.

blubirde · Chanel

Y'all don't think it was offensive? I'd be much happier to chalk it up to hyper-sensitivity on her part than offensiveness on mine, that's for sure!

I already feel better, although I'm still not going over to her office area today. Or tomorrow.

ETA: this was in response to ILC and wicked's responses. I posted before I read Drew's. (I feel the uber-need to explain myself in everything I do now!!) Drew, I agree. I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it is. My world is infinitely bigger to me than anyone else. smile

-- Edited by blubirde at 13:43, 2007-04-12

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

She's not your friend. And writing you and NOT TELLING you what she was upset about says, to me, that she's looking for maximum drama and otherwise trying to jerk you around.

Maybe she feels threatened because you are funny and awesome. Maybe she doesn't like it when it seems like the joke is on her. And maybe you've been joking with her as the punchline and she has been holding back from telling you. But I don't think it matters. Because I dont' think she's seriously hurt. It sounds more like she's competing with you. And since you apologized, sincerely, and won't do it again, there's no real problem. Don't let her keep it going.

Starstuff · Kenneth Cole

maybe she was having a rough day and wasn't in the mood for joking around? Maybe she honestly didn't get the joke and thought you were making fun of her? anyway, you've apologized and I think if you avoid her today and tomorrow it will blow over by Monday.

Karina · Chanel

wicked wrote:

I think your friend needs to lighten up. Yee-ouch!

I totally agree!

ILoveChoo · Hermes

maybe her mother died when a huge cake fell on her and she was squashed? So that by saying the cake was her mama, she tought you were makign a creul joke about her mother actually being in the pan, under the cake.... wink

If not....she needs to lighten up.

squishy · Coach

... she's never been the butt of a 'yo mama' joke? where was she during the 90s?

kabe · Nine West

maybe her mother passed away

Mandy · Kate Spade

I think she is being way too sensitive. I would have laughed. Maybe she is super insecure and is afraid that you guys talk badly about her behind her back and that there was more to it than a classic yo mamma joke. Maybe she thought you were somehow laughing at her.

littlebean · Kate Spade

ILoveChoo wrote:

maybe her mother died when a huge cake fell on her and she was squashed? So that by saying the cake was her mama, she tought you were makign a creul joke about her mother actually being in the pan, under the cake....

If not....she needs to lighten up.

ha, agreed. don't worry!

kealoha · Kate Spade

Dizzy wrote:

She's not your friend. And writing you and NOT TELLING you what she was upset about says, to me, that she's looking for maximum drama and otherwise trying to jerk you around.

I couldn't agree more.

Cortney1982 · Chanel

The only way she could be offended is if her mother died and was cremated and possibly could have been sprinkled in the cake. Otherwise, get over it!

Rica · Kenneth Cole

Yer mama.
Ha!
You were funny, totally not in the wrong, and wayyy to nice with that apology. Kudos to you, though. That hooker needs to lighten up.

atlgirl · Gucci

DH says "your mama" to me all the time in response to things. We laugh about it. I can't even begin to conceive how this person was offended by that...???

bluediamond · Dooney & Bourke

how close are you to this co-worker? is she someone you consider a friend? if not, i would probably be offended that some random co worker just talked to me like that. if we dont get along like that i would be pissed.
if it were my best friend, i could care less.

Kitty · Hermes

OMG, I started to crack up uncontrollably when I read the "your momma" thing. I don't know why, but it struck me as insanely funny...i guess that's because I never would have guessed that's what you said to offend her! too funny.

She needs to chill.

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

Uh, I don't think you were "rightfully slammed" at all. This girl is way too sensitive and obviously has no sense of humor. Who the hell hasn't heard of "your mamma" jokes? I think it speaks to your character that you apologized to her; I would have told her to lighten up or something to that effect. ;)