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Sandy · Kate Spade

RE: I'm scared.

Elle · Hermes

UPDATE:

It is problems with her and my dad. They've been going on for many years apparently. I heard some things that I wish I hadn't, that I don't think that any child should have to hear coming from/about a parent.

But, I'm glad she came and talked to me before she'd made any decisions about anything. At least not all hope is lost, yet. She promised they'd go to counseling together, which they haven't done in many many years. Hopefully I brought her back down to earth a bit; talked her down from her cliff. I hate that this is my emotional burden to carry. I feel personally responsible for the outcome now, which obviously isn't a good thing no matter how it turns out.

I already have enough things to worry about, I don't need 'suprise' problems too.

I am very glad you all are here. I don't know where else to go. Thank you.

-- Edited by Elle at 22:46, 2007-01-11

jacks435 · Kenneth Cole

RE: I'm scared. UPDATE

rosie_the_riveter · Gucci

Aww...I'm sorry to hear that, Elle. It's hard when your parents are going through tough times and it always feels like somehow you're stuck in the middle or that you're partly to blame, but you're not. At least they have decided to try counseling. I hope that things work out for the best between them. ((((big hugs to you)))

cat · Marc Jacobs

Elle I'm sorry you have to go through this. You are in no way responsible for however things turn out,they are adults. I am often in middle of my parents fights helping them work it out even though I try not to be and I understand the way you are feeling. ((((Hugs)))

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Oh Elle! I know how you are feeling. I get it from my mom. Its more about my younger brother and his illness than her and my dad. It feels like such a burden and when it first started I was the one in counseling. Not anyone else in the family just me because I felt like I was losing it between everything going on at the time.

Definetly pm me any time and I will listen/try to help you through your feelings.

jettie · Kate Spade

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I hope everything works out for them.

Sandy · Kate Spade

I'm so sorry, Elle... I hope that they can work through their problems and everything works out for the best. Please know that you are not at fault or responsible for what happens. Also know that we're here for you. ((HUGS))

kittenheels · Coach

Oh, I am so sorry. It sounds like a tremendous weight on you. Problems among parents are scary, even when you are technically an adult. I hope they work it out! I also hope you are able to find peace with them. Your mom is very lucky to have such an understanding and supportive daughter. I send you lots of hugs and hope that everything works out.

member · Hermes

Oh no Elle, I'm really sorry to hear this. It sounds like a big burden on you, which you don't need. I hope your parents can work through everything. We're here for you!

-- Edited by shopchicago33 at 16:56, 2007-01-12

NCshopper · Hermes

I'm sorry to hear that, Elle, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. But it's good you were there for her when she needed you.

Let us know if there's anything we can do for you. We're here for ya, babe!

blubirde · Chanel

Man, that sucks. I'm sorry, Elle. I'd feel the same way you do if my mom came to me about problems with my dad.

I don't have any words of advice but I feel for you. You can talk here anytime you want.

greendiamond · Marc Jacobs

I hope that as time passes you don't feel as tied/responsible to the outcome.

Try to look at it as though you gave your mom the tools to make the decision that's right (by suggesting counseling, etc.).

The information she has shared, and may continue to share will be a burden. Hopefully once she has a counselor to talk to and better communication with your dad she'll remember that while you may be an adult, you are still their child, and that something you just don't need to know about your folks.

Hang in there!

-gd