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Kate Spade

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I need to write a letter for my sister as a witness to what kind of a mother she is.  She is wonderful, over involved, patient, and caring.  She is the secretary at the elementary school that I work at and is wonderful with the kids there as well.  She has watched my kids numerous times and I trust her wholeheartedly with any and all kids. Her boyfriend is accusing her of negligence and child abuse and seeking sole custody and child support from her.  How do I even begin to word something like this?  I'm at a loss as to where to even start.  Please help...

-- Edited by shpgqueenet at 19:03, 2007-01-07

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hmm... well, I guess I would start it out with "To Whom it May Concern:"


maybe then, "The purpose of this letter is to attest to the quality of parenting my sister, Sally, provides for her children, Joe and Billy.  I am very involved in Sally, Joe, and Billy's lives and have witnessed first hand the excellent care Joe and Billy receive.  Sally is a positive role model, very involved, patient, and caring with Joe and Billy.  Sally is a secretary at the elementary school where I am also employed and is wonderful with and well liked by the kids at the school as well.  Sally has watched my kids numerous times and I trust her wholeheartedly with any and all kids.  I know that Sally's first priority is her children, and I feel it is in the best interest of the children to remain in their current loving and nurturing environment.


Thank you,


Shpgqueenet"


that's just off the top of my head - hope it helps provide some ideas and structure for you.



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In addition to what D posted I think you need to include your name and occupation.

I looked around online and most of the examples I found were pretty short and straightforward.

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To whom it may concern (or Your Honour, or as advised by legal team)

Person's Full Name (heading)

I have known (name) for (number) years as (state relationship - business associate, staff member, socially, etc).

I can confirm that he is a man of great integrity, is extremely dedicated to his family and work, and is entirely peace-loving. (substitute character descriptions as applicable).

Furthermore, (add further character descriptions and/or examples of the person's behaviour and/or history supporting the above testimonial.)

For your information, I am (personal statement building your own credibility - details of position held and any other details that help build your own credibility, particularly any experience in judging the characteristics or behaviour referenced above).

Yours faithfully

Name

Position (if applicable)

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Thank you for the help you guys. Now help me make revisions please.


 


 


January 7, 2007


 


To Whom It May Concern:


 


The purpose of this letter is to attest to the quality of parenting my sister, Sally, provides for her child, Cindy.  I am very involved in Sally’s and Cindy’s lives and have witnessed first hand the excellent care Cindy receives. Sally is a positive role model, very involved, patient, and caring with Cindy.  Sally is a secretary at the elementary school where I teach and is wonderful with and well liked by the kids at the school as well. 


 


Sally has taken care of my children numerous times, and I trust her wholeheartedly with any and all kids. I have witnessed her interaction with her daughter, her nephews, and the children at work.  She is someone that has experience with kids and is involved in all aspects of not only her daughter’s life but also her nephews. Whenever issues have arisen that Sally is conflicted with she has sought the help of others such as Cindy’s pediatrician, myself (a Child Development Major and teacher), Cindy’s teachers, and family members.


 


 Sally has never used questionable force with her daughter.  She has enforced rules and structure for Cindy.  When reasonable she has disciplined her daughter.  Her disciplinary actions have included time-outs, taking away privileges such as television, and having discussions with Cindy to make sure that she understands why certain rules need to be followed and enforced. Sally has always been a loving, caring, and attentive parent from the moment her daughter was born.


 


Furthermore, being my only niece and Goddaughter, I haveCindy's best interest in mind at all times.  Her happiness and well-being is dependent on being able to be with both of her parents who are able to offer support and structure in different ways. I know that Sally's first priority is her child, and it is my personal and professional opinion that it is in the best interest of Cindy to remain in the current loving and nurturing environment of both of her parents.


 


If you would like further information please do not hesitate to contact me. 


 


Thank you,


 


 


 


Shpgqueenet


714-555-5555


 



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how about elaborating on your qualifications to be a good judge of a parent child relationship - the part that cc posted: "For your information, I am (personal statement building your own credibility - details of position held and any other details that help build your own credibility, particularly any experience in judging the characteristics or behaviour referenced above)."


it could read, : "As a teacher and trained child development professional (maybe you should drop "Major" unless that's not a college major? I'm confused by the reference), I am uniquely qualified to properly assess the parent/child relationship and environment that Sally provides for Cindy, regardless of my personal relationship with them.  Furthermore, being my only niece and Goddaughter, I have Cindy's best interest in mind at all times.  Her happiness and well-being is dependent on being able to be with both of her parents who are able to offer support and structure in different ways. I know that Sally's first priority is her child, and it is my personal and professional opinion that it is in the best interest of Cindy to remain in the loving and nurturing environment provided by the current custody arrangement.



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Sally has never used questionable force with her daughter.  She has enforced rules and structure for Cindy.  When reasonable she has disciplined her daughter.  Her disciplinary actions have included time-outs, taking away privileges such as television, and having discussions with Cindy to make sure that she understands why certain rules need to be followed and enforced. Sally has always been a loving, caring, and attentive parent from the moment her daughter was born.


As a social worker, I see these often. I would write it to read more like


 


Sally has enforced rules and structure for Cindy.  She makes certain that Cindy understands why certain rules need to be followed and enforced.  Sally has always been a loving, caring, and attentive parent from the moment her daughter was born.


 


Unfortunately, the part on discipline usually leads authorities reading it to believe the opposite.  Just my opinion of course but I would leave that part out. 


Feel free to PM me if you have any more questions.


ETA:  fix spelling errors



-- Edited by thrillme at 20:44, 2007-01-07

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Thanks you guys.  This has all been very helpful.  I have taken all suggestions and made changes.  I love that this forum has such a smart and diverse group of gals.  Thanks again.

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One quick thing to change: all uses of the word "kids" should be changed to children.  Kids is a more informal term for children and you want to be as formal as possible in a letter of this nature.  Tell your sister good luck during this time.  My sister went through a similar battle with her ex and although everything worked out for her and my nephew it was a very difficult time for everyone involved.

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