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I thought I'd better post an update on whats happening in the exciting world of me (haha).


First, let me thank everyone so much for showing me support during my break up with C. I can't express enough how much I appreciated all of those who pm'd and emailed me. Our ST girls are truly the best and I you all.


Anyway, things are well at the moment. C got the last of his stuff out of our place last Sunday and it was fine. We didn't fight, I didn't cry or anything. However, Saturday (of this week, the 22nd) some well-meaning but extremely misguided friends made a feeble attempt at getting us back together. Obviously it didn't work out but it made me really happy because when I saw him I knew that it was well and truly over- I had absolutely NO feelings for him. No left over doing-it feelings, no anger, nothing. He was just another face in the crowd. So I am absolutely done. Not to mention the fact that he has suddenly, at age 29, taken up smoking- no thanks.


The only issues we had were that he changed his mind about Ness (our dog, who I have custody of after he said he doesn't want to have anything to do with her) and wants to come see her. Ness is having a really hard time with him being gone and stairs forlornly out the window waiting for him to come home. So I actually told him no b/c I think that seeing him sporadically would make it worse for her and I know for him it was just a passing thought, he doesn't actually want to be responsible for her. So there was that...


And so Sunday, Xmas eve, rolls around...C parents call to wish us a merry Xmas and talk about the plans for dinner Xmas day. C had not called his parents so I get to ruin Christmas by telling them that we have split up and won't be attending dinner the next day. Great. Like that wasn't an awkward conversation at all! I felt kind of bad about that but I really thought that it was his responsibility to tell his own parents. I just hope it didn't spoil their Christmas.


Sooo...in my dating life....
Kenzie and Dizzy, I'm sure you'll appreciate what I've been going through. I have been single for all of 5 minutes and already I have guys sniffing around me like horny dogs. I had my work-neighbor (whose name I don't even know) bring me a lunch the other day "just to say hi"- yet, neither of the other 2 girls in the office got lunch. I got asked out for coffee by a friend-of-a-friend who apparently (we have met at parties and such) has had a crush on me for 3 years. But I bailed on that b/c I just wasn't interested. And the fact that he was sooo desperate to take me out was really unappealing (not to mention that he is 39 and almost completely bald.)


And then there is M. M is the guy that is taking my my bff to Mexico. remember this?http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=44784&p=3&topicID=9351053&topicPage=1 So she was trying to play this guy a bit and he had a huge crush on her. Since then BFF has met a great guy and is falling in luuuurve. But is still going (actually is currently in) Mexico with M. M is mad at BFF for falling in luuurve with great guy and ruining the potential for play in Mexico. So M takes it upon himself to find my email address from an old forward or whatever and sends me an email message. Keep in mind I have never actually met or spoken to M. Message reads..."I know we don't know each other but out mutual friend is fucking nuts". Niiiice. So I get pissed off and send him back a little tongue lashing telling him that she is a doll and he had better respect her and watch his ass or he'd hear it from me the second they got back. His reply? "Would you like to go out when I get back?" WTF???


Weird. truly I have a feeling this guy is not quite right. Aside from being deaf. I think he's trying to play me to make BFF jealous and I refuse to be a little pawn in that game. That wouldn't even work since BFF has her guy and is completely not interested in M. So strange.


Anyway...I saved the best for last.


There is a cute cute cute guy at one of the companies I work with who I have a big crush on. I've mentioned him before. Thursday was my last day there until the new year. I really wanted him to ask me out. So he came by to chat and we were talking about Xmas and I "happened" to slip in that I was separated just to make sure he knew. We chatted for about 10 min then he wished me a merry Xmas and went on his way. So I was bummed but I figured I'd wait until the new year then actively pursue him. Welll...20 minutes later he came back and asked me out! We have a date this week after the Christmas craziness is over. I am so excited. I will definitely post an update when it happens.


So that's me...Its been crazy lately but I'm actually enjoying my new-found singledom and I'm pretty excited about what the next year holds.



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i'm really glad to hear that you're doing well. i know i'm evil for thinking this, but it's so gratifying to see your ex slide down the unfortunate slope of all-around foolishness. i'm sorry for your dog, though. poor ness.

have fun with the boy!

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ohhhh congratulations on the date with the new guy! Can't wait to hear how that goes. Sorry for your puppy and the conversation with his parents, though. That's rough.

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Poor Ness I'm glad that things are going well. Have fun on your date with the hottie. Let us know how it goes.

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Thanks for the update. Poor Ness. But yay for you and hot guy! Perhaps I'll have to pass the Hamburger Diaries torch to you, since mine seem to be coming to a close.

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Damn!!!  Good for you!  It sounds like you're doing really well.  That's good you didn't let C get his way on the Ness issue--that would just make it harder for her in the long run.  And good for you for not getting in the middle of the whole M situation.  That's unfortunate that you had to tell C's parents, but that's really his fault for not doing that himself.


Have fun on your date with super hot guy!  You'll have to give us an update. 



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Ohhh I'm so happy that guy asked you out! How fun, can't wait to hear about it!

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I can't wait to hear all about your date with this new boy!  And congratulations on handling this whole situation with your ex so well, its safe to say you have come out of this whole thing the better person.

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Yay for cute boy!!! He sure didn't waste any time... And I'm so sorry about Ness, but I think you're right in being honest about what your dumb ol' ex is willing to do. I cannot believe he didn't tell his parents!

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*hugs* to poor Ness.


It sounds like you're handling everything really well and enjoying yourself! Can't wait to hear about the date with cute cute cute boy!



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I can't believe he didn't tell his parents either!  It's a shame you ended up having to break the news, but this only makes him look bad (not you).  I'm sorry he's being so back and forth about Ness -- you are doing the right thing by her.  And squeeee about cute boy asking you out so fast!  Let us know how it goes! 

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Poor Ness .  But you're the bestest doggy-mama she could ask for, and I'm sure she'll get used to the new normal.  Dogs are resilient creatures .  Give her a pat from all her ST aunties, 'kay?


 


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IThere is a cute cute cute guy at one of the companies I work with who I have a big crush on. I've mentioned him before. Thursday was my last day there until the new year. I really wanted him to ask me out. So he came by to chat and we were talking about Xmas and I "happened" to slip in that I was separated just to make sure he knew. We chatted for about 10 min then he wished me a merry Xmas and went on his way. So I was bummed but I figured I'd wait until the new year then actively pursue him. Welll...20 minutes later he came back and asked me out! We have a date this week after the Christmas craziness is over. I am so excited. I will definitely post an update when it happens.



Saved the best for last indeed!  I got that little EEEEE!!!Thecuteboytalkedtome!!!  Jumpupanddownwhenhewalksaway!!!  giddy/excited feeling in my chest for you when I read that.  Here's to a fresh start at the new year!

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Wow, you've been busy   Congrats on a date with the cute boy, we expect a full report afterwards. 


And that definitely was the best decision for Ness, it can be really hard on a dog to go back and forth. 


Good luck with everything!



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I'm so glad things are going so well! It sound like you've got a great head on your shoulders, regarding having to deal with seeing exbf and deciding what's best for Ness... must have been a difficult decision for you to make, but I think it was a good one. I can't wait to hear what happens with the cute boy!

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poor Ness,you made the right decision though. Seeing him now and then would only confuse her more and make it harder on her.


Yay on your date with the hot guy.I hope it goes great!



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