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fashionista L · Coach

What do you do tho keep up the "chase?"

Kelly · Hermes

RE: What do you do tho keep up the "chase?"

lynnie · Chanel

hmm, not reading too much into it, maybe he just wants more flirtatious banter or for you to bust his balls once in a while, maybe make more of an effort to go out with the girls, basically, act more like you did when you were single? I obv. don't know your situation, just throwing it out there because in my past relationship i became too "good girlfriend" and lost a lot of the independence and spunk that initially attracted him. It was just too easy. Now i'm more careful to not lose myself and become "blah girl in a relationship" (though i'm still a very nice and loyal gf!).

fashionista L · Coach

lynnie wrote:

hmm, not reading too much into it, maybe he just wants more flirtatious banter or for you to bust his balls once in a while, maybe make more of an effort to go out with the girls, basically, act more like you did when you were single? I obv. don't know your situation, just throwing it out there because in my past relationship i became too "good girlfriend" and lost a lot of the independence and spunk that initially attracted him. It was just too easy. Now i'm more careful to not lose myself and become "blah girl in a relationship" (though i'm still a very nice and loyal gf!).

I think thta you are completely right! I rarely go out with the girls anymore, my life is mainly about him... I think I need to take a step back, and be more independent

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Um, I dont' want to read too much into it. And I'm not sure what the context of that comment was. What do you think he meant? I like things peaceful too. But I also tend to pick peace over what I really want, and that gets boring for both people in a relationship, real quick.

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

Maybe he means he thinks you're trying to please him too much of the time without voicing your own opinion? I say that beause my BF and I had a similar discussion once -- he said he understood I was trying to be the "good GF" but if I didn't want to do something or didn't agree with something, I should feel okay to say so. Not that I was hiding my preferences, but I probably was putting his a little ahead of mine without realizing it. Busting his balls is a good thing too -- all in good humor, of course. ;)

kittenheels · Coach

I don't really worry about it. DH and I work a ton, so we are always really happy to see each other when we finally have free time, so it's not an issue. I'm not too sure what the chase is, but I defer to the excellent advice in the previous posts!