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Metric · Gucci

friends and their dates

blubirde · Chanel

I think you should tell him what you told us, that you want to get to know her and you miss him and see what he says.

FWIW, I hate when friends do that also. I go out of my way to make time for my friends, no matter the boy situation. I usually devote at least one weekend night and a few weekdays to just girl time. It's what I would want from them, so it's what I try to do.

But seriously, just tell him you miss him and see what he says. Good luck and I'm sorry he's acting like such a goober.

Mandy · Kate Spade

I hate it when friends do that too. It seems that guy friends are worse than girl friends too. I would say something too. Like blubird said, just say that you miss him and want the chance to spend more time with her.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I think Bluebirde nailed it, as usual. Sorry he's being weird.

Kelly · Hermes

I know exactly what you mean. My friends and I have kind of fallen apart the past couple months, because suddenly everyone has a boyfriend or a girlfriend. It's like no one wants to make time for just friends anymore, and I hate it. I try so hard to make sure I don't give my friends the shaft when I'm dating someone, and it really sucks when people are so unaware, or apathetic, as to what they've become when they're half of a couple. When they do hang out, you get the sense that they're only doing it because someone told them to or because they feel like they should be doing it - like homework or something.

One of my good friends J and I barely talk anymore. For months we saw each other seriously every night. When he got a girlfriend, it wasn't like all the sudden there was less time for me. It was like suddenly there was no time for me. Or anyone else. When I finally did get a half hour alone with him or something, all we can talk about is his gf, no matter how I try to steer the conversation. I figure talking about her for 5-10 minutes straight is enough at a stretch, but no matter what I say he always brings it back to her. And I hate to say it, but that's why I don't make more of an effort to hang out with him anymore.

I'm sorry your friend is being this way, but maybe he doesn't even realize it. Talking to him would definitely be a good first step.

-- Edited by ttara123 at 16:20, 2006-10-19

kenzie · Chanel

I hate this!!! So much!! It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I've never been one to act like that and I hope I never will, but I've had so many friends who do this and sometimes, they keep doing it even after the newness of the relationship wears off. Drives me crazy! It really is okay to go out without the SO sometimes.

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

I know its a bummer when this happens. I have had this happen to me recently too, and I miss my friend sometimes. As much as I hate it, I know it is pretty normal to have a friend go MIA when they get a new boy/girlfriend. He will be back before you know it. Once the new wears off he will totally look forward to being around you again and having her get to know everyone better too. I just have to remember to be happy that my friend is happy.