I know I shouldn't judge, but part of what I love about this board is the ability to rant about stuff that just gets under my skin. My mom is SO lazy. She gets off work and comes home and sits on her ass the rest of the night until she goes to bed. My dad (who is 21 years her senior) cooks, cleans, takes care of the money, goes grocery shopping, takes care of the dog, runs errands, etc. My mom literally does nothing. I think she feels she should be taken care of by my dad who happens to be the sweetest guy ever.
I especially hate weekends like today. She sits in the same chair and watches 'This old house' all day. Sometimes she'll read the paper which she leaves stacks of all over the house. She does nothing productive. Then she complains about being overweight. Well, maybe that's because she does nothing about it.
I just hate seeing a person waste away. I don't feel people reach their full potential in life by sitting around all day having someone else do everything for you. I just thank God that I took after my Dad and not my mom. I'm a very hard worker because of him. So that's my rant, it may be childish of me but that's how I feel.
It kind of sounds like she may be suffering from depression of some sort. Is this something anyone has discussed with her? Be prepared for denial, but that's what it sound like to me.
MissMee wrote: It kind of sounds like she may be suffering from depression of some sort. Is this something anyone has discussed with her? Be prepared for denial, but that's what it sound like to me.
That's my thought too. My mother gets like this, only instead of watching tv she locks herself in her room and presumably stares at the wall or something. Depression is hard, though, because the disease makes you not want to bother with treatment. And it is VERY frustrating to watch someone you care about go through this. Good luck sweetie! Hugs!
No, actually, I'm the one with depression in the family. If you knew her, you'd know she's just lazy. She sits there and chats with my Dad or on the phone, she doesn't isolate herself. I guess what bothers me is more the fact that she makes my Dad do everything. I just feel bad for him although he doesn't seem to mind. Oh well, just my observations...
The first thing I thought is she is suffering from depression. It can manifest itself in many ways and it is not always clear-cut. Also, since you suffer from depression, it doesn't surprise me that your mother may as well, because such illnesses can be familial.
I gather from previous posts that you may not get along super well with your mom. Maybe you can talk to your dad and see what he thinks...if he thinks she may be suffering from depression, he could bring it up to her.
Try and convince your dad not to "enable" her to be this way. He is being taken advantage of and he needs to stop this. Does it bother him that she is this way?