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Kenneth Cole

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I hate going out on weekends. We went to a bar in the meatpacking district last night and got bumped into, stepped on and shoved out of the way by too many people -- mostly men. And, of course, there are the long-haired women who shake or twist their hair so it will cascade down their backs, but inevitably hits people standing behind them.

How hard is it to say excuse me if you bump into someone or if you need to get through a crowded bar? Sure, it might take an extra minute to get where you want to go, but why do people -- especially men -- need to push people out the way.

For instance, some dude totally pushed my friend out the way because she was standing where he wanted to be. He'd just showed up and wanted to stand near his friends and that's where we were. He didn't say excuse me or anything and almost knocked my friend over. Another guy stepped back and landed on my foot and didn't move so I tapped him on the shoulder and asked him to get off my foot. Cripes! Can't you tell that you are no longer on flat ground and the hard floor is now a bit squishy?

OK, back to work. Thanks for listening.

Oh, and I always make sure to stay out of the path to the bathroom and the bar and the walkway. I'm not ugly, dress well and am polite.



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Marc Jacobs

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This used to happen to me. It's because you're polite and small. Push back, but with deniability... sort of with a smile, or a look on your face that sort of conveys 'I'm sure you didn't mean to just push me out of the way..." if they're really out of line, just look offended and absolutely REFUSE to move. They'll find someone else who looks like she won't say anything. And look who learned a few things from law school, huh? huh?



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sorry if this is offensive or an overgeneralization- but i find that a lot of the guys that go to trendy places in the meatpacking district are tools that are either 1) trust fund babies or 2) make way too much money.  It makes them rude and assholes.  I wouldn't take it personally at all.  They are spending $300 for a $20 bottle of grey goose.

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lynnie wrote:

sorry if this is offensive or an overgeneralization- but i find that a lot of the guys that go to trendy places in the meatpacking district are tools that are either 1) trust fund babies or 2) make way too much money.  It makes them rude and assholes.  I wouldn't take it personally at all.  They are spending $300 for a $20 bottle of grey goose.


I totallt agree! Generally, I don't have bad experiences with people at bars in NYC unless I'm in a trendy place like that.

eta: It's not you, Shopgirl -- don't take it personally. They're all just jerks.

-- Edited by scarlett at 21:07, 2006-08-19

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Marc Jacobs

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Hmmm...if I were you, I might start looking for some less crowded bars?


My estranged husband was a bartender for several years of our marriage, so I spent a considerable amount of time at the bar.  I think the worst people were the ones who got so inebriated that they would pick a fight if they thought you looked at them wrong.



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I have ZERO tolerance for people that push at bars.  Being pushed around is the easiest way to ruin my night.  I usually just call people out if they're being rude.  Most guys will at the very least apologize.



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