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Sunshinegirl · Kate Spade

RE: would you accept...?

blubirde · Chanel

esquiress wrote:

i would for sure take it and i was just talking to a friend at work and she'd for sure take it too. to a certain extent i understand lorelai's comments but here's the thing: i don't think it's just about you. the person who benefited from your kind action is in turn trying to act kindly. why rob her of that?

I'd take it too, especially after she insisted already. I'd politely decline (like you did) and if she insisted (like she did), I'd take it. You're doing her a favor and in return she wants to give you something. Good for you, good for her. It's nice that she wants to pay you for your time and efforts. Don't feel weird about it. She wouldn't offer if she didn't want you to have it. She especially wouldn't insist. Like she said, go buy yourself something nice. Karma loves you today.

asf · Kate Spade

i think you should take it, too. it isn't as if you expected a reward, and she's insisting that you take it. i don't think that cancels out the good karma of returning the wallet. and since i'm sure she thought she'd lost the entire $220 plus her ccs and whatever else is in there, it'll make her feel good too.

lynnie · Chanel

Ok, i met her, we chatted for about 10 mins...she was in the fashion business years ago. she is around 60 or so, and insisted that i take the money and that it would make her feel a lot better and she'd give me all of it, but i wouldn't let her finish that thought. She kept saying how nice it was that i returned it. So she gave me $100, and I feel okay about it..i said no a few times (not completely like NO WAY though..) but she told me that i was young and to buy something nice. I hope my good karma isnt canceled out ... I just spent $163 on a pair of APC jeans that i love...so.............i guess i did buy something nice. thanks for the help ladies...I understand and agree with both sides.

twinkle · Coach

perfect! i think proper manners dictate that you are only allowed to refuse a gift once, and if someone insists a 2nd time, its rude to deny them.

luckyclover · Dooney & Bourke

Mara wrote:

perfect! i think proper manners dictate that you are only allowed to refuse a gift once, and if someone insists a 2nd time, its rude to deny them.

I agree.

blubirde · Chanel

Mara wrote:

perfect! i think proper manners dictate that you are only allowed to refuse a gift once, and if someone insists a 2nd time, its rude to deny them.

Or at least Seinfeld manners, right?

Good for you lynnie. I'm glad she was nice.

Maddie · Coach

The way that turned out I defintely would've accepted. Yay for you!

doodles · BCBG

i think that if you don't feel comfortable taking the money then you shouldn't. its really up to how you feel about it

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

I'm glad it worked out the way it did. It does not make you any less of a "good person" to accept a reward or gift in that situation. You did the right thing!