STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

bumblebee · Coach

hi girls...it's the long lost bumblebee

FashionPrincess · Hermes

Hey! It's good to "see" ya around here again! Sorry you're feeling lonely, just hang in there and give it some time. How's the new job?

bumblebee · Coach

thanks, FP. the new job is also not-so-good. i should have held out for one that i wasn't so overqualified for, instead of just taking this one so i could move right away. i'm looking again already. the people there are super-nice though, that's the one good thing.

carmenb513 · Coach

good to see you back.i moved almost three years ago to a state that I had never even visited. Needless to say I had a horrible boyfriend at the time and he kept what seemed like a ball and chain on me- he didn't even live in the state......I could never just go out an socialize. Needless to say I know this isn't your situation but I finally just said f--- it! EVERY off day I would pick a place, even somethng as silly as Loehmann's, mapquest it, then get missing! I was able to find my way around and find out some hotspots. I also talked to co-workers who were halfway decent and they took me out a few times.

I still get very lonely at holidays because in my line of work I can't take off! I've learned to accept invitations when people invite me over because it just pans out to be the next best thing.

Hope you find a job that you actually like, that was one thing that was in my favor.

Things will get better!

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Aww bumblebee I'm sorry you feel sad and lonely. I know what its like to move to another city and know only a few people who are always busy. Feel free to pm me anytime you want to talk. Things will get better!

I agree with carmen's suggestion. Start mapquesting places and go find them. It helped me. Shoot when I get down or during busy season when I was in a tiny room for 10 hours a day I use to go grocery shopping or to sephora so I could interact with people. Its a nice way to get out.

Ally S · Kate Spade

Glad you are moved in and settled, I know I missed you! Glad you are back!

bumblebee · Coach

thanks so much, you guys. that helps a lot. i know it'll get better--just need some patience.

Elle · Hermes

Hang in there Bumblebee! I was really glad this site was here when I moved each time - you never have to move away from your friends here! It'll all shake out in the end

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JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

I bet you won't feel so lonely now that you are back on ST with us! :)

laken1 · Hermes

So glad you are back.

It makes me sad that you are lonely there. I third (or fourth?) the suggestion to just get out of the house sometimes. It really does help to be around other people, even if you don't know them.

Your nice co-workers- are any of them your age & want to hang out or anything? Do you have any interests that you could join a group? Meetup.com has TONS of categories of people with similar interests - I met a bunch of cool people by going to a knitting group. Knitting may not be your thing but maybe you can find something else that interests you & go check it out. I admit it was hit or miss - some of the groups I went to I liked less than others, but then I didn't go back. People are generally nice & welcoming since they "advertise" as a group like this, so it's not at all uncomfortable.

Maybe you could join a gym or something like that as well just to have something to do & that will also lead to meeing new people? I just think finidng friends was the worst part of moving away because it's so hard to do!

Keep your chin up & keep coming back here - I agree with joycebaby - you ladies helped me through some down times too when my IRL friends weren't available.

dot · Marc Jacobs

hang in there! it takes a lot of guts to move out of your comfort zone and into a new place! once you and your roomie get more settled things will start feeling more like home. do you guys go out together at all? maybe this is weird but i know a lot of people have met thru myspace and things like that.. don't know if that's weird to you but it's an idea! :)

don't worry and once you're settled people will come and visit.. and maybe you'll be too busy to have them over ;)

mikacat · Coach

welcome back BB

Hermes

I was wondering where you were! Well, I hope things fall into place for you soon. I admire you for making such a big move! hang in there, and you know where to find your on-line friends

member · Hermes

I'm so glad you're back, but sad to hear that you're feeling sad and lonely. I agree w/the other girls - start hunting out new places to go see/check out.

It'll work out - you just have to get thru that adjustment period

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

welcome back, bumblebee! sorry you're feeling lonely in SF.

i can relate to what you're going through. i moved out here almost two years ago from boston- and i didn't know a soul in SF so there was definitely a significant adjustment period. i was lucky that i made fast friends with my roommates and coworkers, but SF didn't feel like home for several months. but hang in there! SF is an amazing city- there's so much to do and see. pick up one of the free papers or check out the chronicle's sunday edition datebook- they list tons of events, etc. SF is a great walking city- when i first moved here, my favorite thing to do on the weekends was to pick a neighborhood and explore/wander all day.

PM me if you want some recommendations for fun places/things to do!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

COME HOME! ok i know i just sounded like miranda from SATC when carrie's off in Paris but it was literally the first thought that popped in my head! onto more constructive advice/support--i have a really good friend up north and i know that she would be more than willing to have lunch or coffee w/ you if you ever needed some company. just pm me and i'll hook it up.

honey · Gucci

good to see you again. you've been missed! hang in there. it's always rough moving to a new place.

bumblebee · Coach

thanks, girls, for all of the kind messages. things are getting better...slowly. but i am finally feeling a bit better, so thank you. i don't have that much time to post anymore, but i will keep trying.