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lynnie · Chanel

when did you know?

nunzi182 · Kate Spade

I met my now husband when I was 17. I knew right away I was going to marry him. I'm 23 now and we are married and never doubted for a minute that we'd be together. I think the thing you have to remember is that it's not about age, it's about when and if it feels right. I don't know if I just "knew" we'd be together or if it was because we loved spending time with each other. Our personalities compliment us so well that we always just "knew." If that makes any sense....

atlgirl · Gucci

After our first date. But I was 31 then. :)

Maddie · Coach

Can I add on a question to this...when did he "know"? Do guys think like that?

member · Hermes

I'm not married to him yet, but I live w/him, and I honestly knew the day I met him.

ETA: lynnie - I was totally open to it. I spent a long time being treated like ass by guys and being a cynic. When I met my bf, I just knew and it was a great feeling - I was totally open to it. He's so different than a lot of guys and he's like the male equivelant to me, so I think that's why I was so open.

-- Edited by shopchicago33 at 21:46, 2006-05-08

-- Edited by shopchicago33 at 21:47, 2006-05-08

lynnie · Chanel

hmm, okay, can i have more specifics? Were you always open to it or were you cynical of it?

FashionPrincess · Hermes

Well, I didn't know right when I met my hubby. I actually liked his friend first and went out on a couple of dates with him and that didn't work out. And then me and hubby started hanging out as friends and I thought I might like him, but we had that we're just friends talk and I think we both really thought we were (although neither of us were seeing anyone else, we spent all our time together, can you say we were in denial!). Anyway, we just continued hanging out and then one day it was like "this is it!". I think it happened when his grandma passed away and all he wanted to do was be with me. From there on out we were a couple and there was no questioning the fact that we'd be together forever

ETA: I was 18 when I met him and 20 when we got married. I am now 26. Oh, and B was 21 when we met and he is now 29.

-- Edited by FashionPrincess at 21:47, 2006-05-08

atlgirl · Gucci

To answer Maddie's question, he knew at the same time. Weird!

luckyclover · Dooney & Bourke

I knew the first time I saw him. I like the reversed question though....I'm gonna have to ask him now lol.

ejc423 · Coach

This might throw a kink in things, but I really thought I knew about a guy. I just knew I would marry him. He's married to someone else now.

jacL · Coach

For most of our seven-year relationship, I have thought that I was going to be with him forever, but I didn't really really "know" until last summer. He basically packed up his things and left all his friends (a lot) to move to a new city with me where I found a job. That was such a huge step and I was afraid the first couple months whenever he was unhappy that he was just going to leave. But he never ever wanted to leave unless I was with him. After I realized that, I knew. So, it was a gradual process for me (and him), I guess you could say, but now I want to spend the rest of my life with this wonderful man!

(I am getting all warm and fuzzy just thinking about it!).

ILoveChoo · Hermes

on out 6 month anniversary. I was only 16 when we started going out, so marriage was the last thing on my mind! But on our anniversary, he said 'well, we've made it 6 months, think we can make it another 6?" and I was just like "yes, I want to make it forever." and then we both started crying becasue we both realized that we both wanted to be together forever.

Elle · Hermes

You guys are going to think I'm a complete nutjob! FH and I have been together since I was 12 and he was 13 . We got together and it was all very junior-high-relationship-ish, but it just ..... never stopped working! We were just kind of together, and that was that. Very "Hey, I'm still into this. You? Yep. Wanna still stay together? Yep." So we've both 'known' we were going to be together for pretty much the entirety of our relationship (coming up on 10 years in October), but we never broadcast it because who believes a 13 year old when they say that?! We're the ones laughing now though !

I honestly don't remember if there was a moment when I 'knew', but I think that's just because it was so long ago .

NCshopper · Hermes

I knew the day I met him that there was something different about him and knew that I wanted to be with him after talking to him at Starbucks for like a week. We didn't start dating until 3 months after we met, but as soon as we started dating it was this immediate feeling of comfort, security, and just overall ease that made me realize that this was it. It's the weirdest and coolest feeling in the world.

On the reverse question...DH had heard about me through my brother and my parents before he even met me and apparently their stories got him interested. There was a mutual attraction the first time we met and once we started dating he says he knew pretty early on that that was that. We got engaged after 4 months of long distance dating--that's how sure we were about it.

wicked · Coach

We both knew right away. My husband slept over on our first real date and we've been together ever since. A week later I told him that I was in love with him and he said that he felt the same way. A few more weeks later he moved his belongings into my place. Now we've been together 6+ yrs and married for 1+. I was 23 and he was 26 when we met.

Drew · Gucci

DH said he knew right away. It took me three years of being friends to figure it out.

FashionPrincess · Hermes

I asked hubby last night when he knew and he said it was when he kissed me. He said "You weren't the first person, but you were the best" How sweet is that!!!

Christine · Coach

FH and I met when we were both 14. We were best friends for 2 years before we started dating. I think it just dawned on me that I wanted to be more than friends, and I hid my feelings for awhile before I told him -- then he told me he felt the same way! After that point, I have never had a doubt that he was the one I wanted to marry....

We've been together for 8 years -- we started dating when we were 16, and we're ~24 now and are still as crazy about each other as ever!

blink · Coach

Soon, and it was a very comfortable feeling, without all the unbalance of other relationships where I had really thought I loved a guy but didn't know if he felt the same kind of nonsense. I can't remember exactly a moment, but it was after dating about a month or less that I just knew this was going to last a long time. I didn't even and still don't consider my husband to be a "soulmate" or whatever some people aspire to, we have tons of disagreements and differing opinions about things, but I knew he was a good match and would be a good husband, and I was tired of so many disappointments in the recent years, so I kept restrained and played cool with him (I didn't commit to him right away) and he proposed within 4 months of dating. We have been married seven years.

tri_sarah_tops · Marc Jacobs

After our first phone conversation. We met online and at first I didn't even really like him but one day he convinced me to let him call. I'm definitely not a phone person (half of the time I don't even answer my cell, even if it's a good friend/family member calling. I just hate it.) but we talked forever and he was just so familiar, like I'd known him forever. Shortly after, we decided that we wouldn't date other people, even though I was in Japan and he was in Florida. It actually worked, even though I didn't get to meet him for another five months. I went to FL and we spent a week together, which pretty much sealed the deal. He proposed right after I left, and we got married as soon as I came back to the States, even though we'd only spent about 10 days of "real" time together. We've been married two and a half years now and I can't imagine being with anyone else. He's my most favorite person.