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Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

Boy Question

shopgirl82 · Chanel

maybe he doesn't want to put your job at risk. he might not know that your company allows you to date customers. i think in this case he probably likes you and he is shy and could be worried about making a move on someone he does business with. i'm not exactly sure if that's something that you can casually drop into a conversation, "yeah, so, um, we can date customers...". it seems to me the best thing to do is to make the first move (if you know for a fact he doesn't have a gf, wife, etc..). that's a tough one.

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

This reminds me of that movie "Office Space" -- have you seen it? This guy has a huge crush on a waitress, but is afraid to ask her out because he thinks she must get hit on all day long and he doesn't want to be one more jerk trying to get her number. Maybe this guy you like feels the same way. I don't know what your job is, but if you're in contact with the public a lot he could feel shy about making the move. To me it does sound like he likes you. If he just wanted to help you professionally, I think he would have given you his work number and not his cell. How about you call him to talk about needing the service in his line of work? You can just say you have some questions about it, needed his opinion, and then see where it goes from there. Also, call after work hours so it's more of a personal call. It gives him the perfect window of opportunity to ask you out.

blubirde · Chanel

You should mention needing to get a drink after work the next time he's around you. You know, "gosh it's been one of those days. I can't wait to get off today and go have a drink. Do you ever have days like that?" To which he'll reply "yes, yadda, yadda, yadda." And then you say, "you know, you should come with me. You wouldn't let a girl drink alone, would you?"

Just suck it up and do it! You can do it. Shopchicago's probably right. He probably has no idea he can ask you out or that you won't get in trouble for going out with him. Set him straight, girl!

laken1 · Hermes

aw! This is so adorable. I can see both of you sitting there wanting to...awww....

I agree with the girls above & I like the go have a drink option. If a couple of drinks don't loosen him up & start a conversation, I don't know what does.

I can't help but mention i was in a very similar situation but when he finally hit on me I found out he was MARRIED. so then it was creepy. Just keep that in mind!

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

Thanks ladies, I feel like such a dork. It is strange but it really helped to write it out and hear your opinions. I have really been trying to find a way to casually get coffee, or a drink. It seems like the forces are conspiring agianst me or something. I feel like I am just short of stalker here. This is such a wierd feeling for me. I am not generally this obsessive, but when a girl knows what she want...she knows.

Oh and I am sure he is not married and almost positive there is no girlfriend. We'll see what happens.

Maat · Kenneth Cole

Similar to what blubirde was saying: what if you got him on the topic of movies and mentioned a movie in the theater that you want to see but NONE of your friends wanted to see? See if he picks up on that one and says, "I'll take you." I think that is a really easy in for him.

I would think he definitely likes you. He is not stuck there like you, he is choosing to stay and chat. You probably could just directly ask him out, but it seems like that makes you nervous.

Do you work someplace he has to go? Or do you work someplace where he could potentially be thinking of excuses to go to just to see you?

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

I work in a bank. I am not a teller but the first time I helped him, he had a problem and I took care if it for him, nothing special. Now anytime he comes in he waits for me, even if other people are free. And of course I am more than willing to help. So I guess he kinda has to come in, but we have lots of branches he could go to.

joy0302 · Kate Spade

I think blubirde had a great suggestion. I agree with the others that he is probably just afraid to ask you out because either he is shy or he is afraid he will get you in trouble. Most people in line at a bank are tired of waiting and would be happy to be helped out ASAP. If he is waiting and turning down help from others when you are busy I would say he is interested in more than just his money matters. Good luck!!

Maat · Kenneth Cole

Deuce wrote:

I work in a bank. I am not a teller but the first time I helped him, he had a problem and I took care if it for him, nothing special. Now anytime he comes in he waits for me, even if other people are free. And of course I am more than willing to help. So I guess he kinda has to come in, but we have lots of branches he could go to.

Wow! He waits for you even if other people are free? He is definitely into you!

luckyclover · Dooney & Bourke

I've worked in a bank and had people wait for me specifically. A lot of us had "our customers". People who have had bad customer service like to stick with someone who they have had good experiences. That being said- I'm not sure him waiting for you is a sign he likes you BUT him blushing and all that does. I am with the other girls...I think he is just shy. From what you are saying he sounds interested. Scheme up a way to get coffee or a drink and hopefully that will be enough for him to take it from there. Good luck and I hope it works!