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Lilykind · Hermes

RE: Confessions...

member · Hermes

Oh my gosh Lilykind, I hope you're ok!

I called off work today for no reason other than I did not feel like getting up and going - oops.

MissMee · Kate Spade

I am on my second marriage. The first time I got married I was 19. I knew on my wedding day it was a huge mistake. I knew on our honeymoon it was a huge mistake. I knew on our first anniversary it was a huge mistake. I knew after the birth of our son it was a huge mistake. I just wish I'd listened to myself when we were dating so I could have avoided him all together. The only thing that makes it worth the time is my son. But I didn't have any "youth" at all because of being married, so I feel like I missed out.

On a related note, I did enjoy what my hubby calls my "summer of love" just before we met so I got it all out of my system!

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

I just can't stop crying and I have been avoiding talking about it with my bf or my mom because I cry when I talk. It just sucks.

I hate my team at work and I just can't seem to take my bf's advice to try my best and not get upset when I don't know what to do. So I cry every night and each morning over it.

My family came to town this weekend to visit. I haven't seen them in 3 months and it just made me miss seeing my family and cooking with my mom.

I haven't made any really good/close friends since moving here. No one I can call up to go shopping or meet me for dinner or a movie which is making me feel lonely and miss my friends back home. I find it hard to talk to anyone about it and I have my bf anytime I want to go somewhere but I miss having girl friends and I don't think he really gets it sometimes.

I feel fat which doesn't help my crying either. I know I'm not really fat compared to most people but when I see size 0's and 2's walking around all over I just feel huge.

blubirde · Chanel

Aurora wrote:

I just can't stop crying and I have been avoiding talking about it with my bf or my mom because I cry when I talk. It just sucks.
I hate my team at work and I just can't seem to take my bf's advice to try my best and not get upset when I don't know what to do. So I cry every night and each morning over it.
My family came to town this weekend to visit. I haven't seen them in 3 months and it just made me miss seeing my family and cooking with my mom.
I haven't made any really good/close friends since moving here. No one I can call up to go shopping or meet me for dinner or a movie which is making me feel lonely and miss my friends back home. I find it hard to talk to anyone about it and I have my bf anytime I want to go somewhere but I miss having girl friends and I don't think he really gets it sometimes.
I feel fat which doesn't help my crying either. I know I'm not really fat compared to most people but when I see size 0's and 2's walking around all over I just feel huge.

Oh, I'm so sorry, Aurora!! If I lived closer, I'd come hang out and go out with you. Too bad Austin's not closer, huh?

When you say you hate your team, is it a group that changes periodically or are you stuck with them forever?

(((hugs)))

blubirde · Chanel

shopchicago33 wrote:

Oh my gosh Lilykind, I hope you're ok!
I called off work today for no reason other than I did not feel like getting up and going - oops.

Ha! Me, too! And I've only gotten out of bed to go get food. I'm going to become a whale.

And I love it! But in exactly half an hour, I'm going to drag my ass out of bed and either 1) go for a walk or 2) go shopping. I haven't decided which. Maybe both?

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Thanks Blubirdie. I still need to come up to Austin anyways to see the place. Maybe this summer I'll have some time.

Luckily I get to change teams in 3 weeks and I am counting down!!! I told hr nicely I hated them and don't ever want to come back. I think I will re-enforce that point in my next meeting with them.

Lilykind- I'm glad you are ok. Treadmills can be scary pieces of equipment sometimes. There are a few times I am worried I will fall off of the thing and I'm just walking on it when I feel that way.

kenzie · Chanel

Aurora wrote:

I haven't made any really good/close friends since moving here. No one I can call up to go shopping or meet me for dinner or a movie which is making me feel lonely and miss my friends back home. I find it hard to talk to anyone about it and I have my bf anytime I want to go somewhere but I miss having girl friends and I don't think he really gets it sometimes.

Oh, I understand! I haven't made any girlfriends since I moved where I'm at either. It doesn't help that I work in an office full of men. I love my guy friends, but I'm in serious need of some girlfriends here. I'm so miserable without them.

Kincali · Dooney & Bourke

Lilykind wrote:

I fell flat on my face, slid on the treadmill, and skinned my knee trying to do HIIT at 8.5. I had been jumping on the side rails and doing so well until I lost balance and couldn't get on the belt fast enough.

LOL! I had a similar accident on Saturday at an estate sale. As I was coming down some carpeted stairs in my ballet flats(no traction at all), I slipped and shot down the the stairs into a crowd of about 20 people. There was this huge collective "oooooooohhhhh" until I jumped up and said, "I'm Okay!" I kept giggling hysterically to myself(even though I'm sure others heard my maniacal laugher) as I continued to shop, because I was too embarrassd to just leave.

Another secret admission, I don't run on the treadmill for that very reason. So I'm stuck with the same routine everyday using the elliptical machine.

Lilykind · Hermes

Aurora wrote:

I feel fat which doesn't help my crying either. I know I'm not really fat compared to most people but when I see size 0's and 2's walking around all over I just feel huge.

I do too...how irrational can it be to feel fat when one is a size 4? I live in the wrong town to be a size 4 in. I mean, I'm not even fat at all...

Thanks for the concern girls about my accident...I skipped mat pilates tonight because it was raining like crazy and my knee was kind of stinging me but hopefully I'll be back on my game tomorrow.

Maddie · Coach

So many. My life is a mess right now and it's entirely my fault.

My computer broke about two weeks ago and I'm too lazy to get it fixed.
I never go to bed before 3 AM.
I have been hanging out with this boy recently who has a girlfriend and have developed a crush on him. He kissed me this weekend and I can't stop thinking about it.
I have a six page paper due at 4 pm tomorrow and I've written two pages of it. I'd planned on finishing it tonight as I have lots of other work to do.
I'm smart enough to do well in life, but it's becoming increasingly apparent I'm incapable of making myself do work. I don't know what to do. It's horrifying. I am going to waste my potential and I can't stop myself.
My room is an absolute mess. You literally cannot see the floor.
Every day I say I'm going to start eating healthy, but by lunch time I've given up.
I've been smoking too much.

Edited because I was overly emotional at 3 am last night...

-- Edited by Maddie at 10:10, 2006-03-21

ejc423 · Coach

Maddie wrote:

I'm smart enough to do well in life, but it's becoming increasingly apparent I'm incapable of making myself do work. I don't know what to do. It's horrifying. I am going to waste my potential and I can't stop myself.

I am the same way, Maddie. If it helps any, it's been a little easier for me during jobs/internships I like. . . But I do wonder if I will ever be motivated to learn enough so that I am as good as I could be.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Maddie wrote:

I'm smart enough to do well in life, but it's becoming increasingly apparent I'm incapable of making myself do work. I don't know what to do. It's horrifying. I am going to waste my potential and I can't stop myself.
My professor whom I loved (platonically) doesn't like me. I think he thinks I'm obnoxious. He's right.
-- Edited by Maddie at 02:41, 2006-03-21

I can definitely relate to these two. Fwiw, I suck at forcing myself to do schoolwork. But I was good at work. And my profs don't like me either. But most people liked me a lot at work - and even the ones who didn't wouldn't really mess with me. It's possible we're both just in the wrong spot. Have you had an internship, or even a lightweight summer job or something, that you liked and where you were respected?

And you're not obnoxious. You're funny and observant and self-aware. Screw that prof.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

Maddie wrote:
I'm smart enough to do well in life, but it's becoming increasingly apparent I'm incapable of making myself do work. I don't know what to do. It's horrifying. I am going to waste my potential and I can't stop myself. I am the same way, Maddie. If it helps any, it's been a little easier for me during jobs/internships I like. . . But I do wonder if I will ever be motivated to learn enough so that I am as good as I could be.

yep, me too. I am way too lazy for my own good. Even when I think of something that I'd love to do, I usually decide against it because its too much work.

blubirde · Chanel

Maddie wrote:

I'm smart enough to do well in life, but it's becoming increasingly apparent I'm incapable of making myself do work. I don't know what to do. It's horrifying. I am going to waste my potential and I can't stop myself.

Tell me about it. I think a lot of people can identify with this one. This is one of my fears too. In college I worked my ass off (mainly because I wanted too I think) but when law school came, I couldn't muster up the energy to even read an assignment. I think it's because I was a bit burned out and because I hated law school. It could be an either/or situation or both. Now that I'm working, I go through bouts of both - laziness and crazy working. On things I'm interested in, I put a lot of effort into. On things that bore me, I put off until the very last possible second. I think that's just the way it is. There will always be more things that bore you than interest you, at least that's my opinion.

As for your prof situation, I've never had a prof that liked me. Ever. When I would go in for office hours, I could feel them staring at me thinking I was a complete idiot. I'm usually pretty self-aware about those kinds of things, so I'm pretty sure I wasn't making it up. Point is that it hardly matters. Profs are pompous wannabes, just like you and me.

Besides, I like you. I'm not anyone special but I'm not all happy, happy, joy, joy over most people, and I think you're sassy and smart and sarcastic, all things I appreciate. Screw the ones who don't get it.

Maddie · Coach

Thanks for the encouragement. I think I was overly dramatic last night.

I have had jobs and I've always been excellent at them (except lifeguarding, but that's just mind numbing) but I'm worried as to how I will possibly get through grad school.

The professor thing actually sucks though cause I really liked him and he used to like me. But then I think he started to find me obnoxious (which I assure you I am, everyone has faults and that's a big one of mine!). And I can't just brush it off as he's an asshole or whatever cause he's not and I really respect him. Oh well, life goes on.