STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

I just read your article. I had been looking forward to seeing it since you told me about it and it was awesome. I really want to talk about this part: "Which begs the question, when your heart's already involved, do deal-breakers really exist?" This is an interesting question. In my case, the answer has always been no, which is so strange because it's basically saying I want a guy to hide the potentially negative things about him until he "has" me. One of my top deal-breakers is a guy who has children. Baby's mama drama, trying to win a kid over, not being able to see him on the weekend b/c he's with the kids-no freakin' thank you. However, I was once dating a guy with a child for about 2 months before finding out. Then when I found out, I was so into him already that I was so accepting of it. I actually wanted him to see more of his kid and couldn't wait to meet this little person who was part of him. Crazy, right? And if he was just honest in the beginning and told me, I would have never gotten involved. That's probably a problem.

You are totally justified in not wanting to date the guy who doesn't read. If that is important to you and you try to ignore it, you will probably find yourself frustrated with him or look down at him, which is no way to start a relationship. Deal breakers don't have to completely make sense; they just have to make sense to you. Some of my deal breakers are just strange. I basically want the guy that no one else wants. Based on my experiences, I don't want a guy who's too rich, too popular, too good-looking, too intelligent, or too successful. I've just had bad experiences with all of those types of guys. I just want a nice guy who is pretty average in other ways, but treats me really well. That just appeals to me.