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ViViDogWear · Kate Spade

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Mandy · Kate Spade

i don't have any experience with this either, but i would take things slow and be careful. make sure that you are going out with him because you like him and you aren't settling for something you don't want just because you want to go out with someone. you deserve to spend your time with someone wonderful (not that he's not), that doesn't involve you compromising too much of what you want.

blubirde · Chanel

Most likely the 40 year-old won't be someone you're with very long anyway (the first ones hardly ever are), so just enjoy your time with him. Use him as a learning experience (and I don't mean that as bad as it sounds). Figure out what you like, who you like, what you don't like, places you like to go, traits you look for in dates, etc. Plus you need someone to break in those lips, right??

Just take it easy and slow and if he doesn't work out, there'll be others. The good thing about match is that everyone you go out with knows you're dating other people and vice versa. So there's not a lot of pressure to deal with that issue right away.

laken1 · Hermes

blubirde wrote:

Most likely the 40 year-old won't be someone you're with very long anyway (the first ones hardly ever are), so just enjoy your time with him.

I disagree with this only because I dated someone older with kids (37 when i was 22) "just for fun" & I ended up marrying & divorcing him over kid issues. I personally think you need to figure out if the whole kid thing is ok with you & if not, there's no reason to even go on one date with a guy with a kid. I don't mean to be ugly, and I guess I'd feel differently if I had kids myself, but I don't so I have the luxury of making this sweeping rule. I just think you can't help who you fall in love with & sometimes you tolerate things you normally wouldn't (kids) because you REALLY like the guy. cause lots of the guys with kids are great. It just wasn't for me & I really wish I hadn't wasted my 22-30 years going through that experience when deep down I knew the kid thing would be an issue. (fwiw, they ended up living with us & it was a MESS).

Just a word of warning.....if you want me to elaborate you can pm me - i've written my story here several times so I'm sure some of the ladies are probably tired of hearing it....

ViViDogWear · Kate Spade

Thanks for the advice guys! Of course I am trying to take my time and have a good time in general. Yes, Bluebird, I DO need someone to break in these lips. :P

Well, comes to this point where I really enjoy talking to him. We were up on the phone pretty late last night and I just have a good feeling. Who knows if it will turn into anything serious (which I probably don't need). But I do need some physical affection soon!

I know I'm not interested in him just for the sake of having soeone, because that is never how I am. I'm really picky actually. Who knows... I look fwd to talking to him and seeing him again (on Thurs.) :)

Lilykind · Hermes

Hold up...how did you manage to find a successful Chinese surfer who's 6' 3" in Los Angeles who's actually nice!

I've had experience dating someone much older...my BF is 12.5 years older than me and we've been going out for almost 4 1/2 years. Our relationship is very stable and as for the age thing, quite honestly, I think it all depends on the maturity of the individuals involved. I will turn 21 this year, and he just turned 33. He's never been married, though, and has no children so I can't comment on those.

I echo the other girls and say take it slowly.