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Elle · Hermes

Harumph

nunzi182 · Kate Spade

My wedding was on a Saturday, but I can tell you that no matter what day you have your wedding on, every bride can tell you that she's had nightmares/thoughts that nobody would show up. Mine started with a dream and then that spawned daytime thoughts that no on was going to show up and all the preparations would be a waste. I think it was about six months before that I started getting scared that the only people that were going to show were my immediate family members. It all worked out in the end, which I knew it would, I was just irrationally thinking the worst.

I understand you're worried because it's Sunday, but I'm sure that your family/friends have had enough notice to take the day off. In your uncle's case, work got in the way, but that won't be the case with everyone. Just take a deep breath and try to put it out of your mind, which I know is impossible at this point!

Chic · Marc Jacobs

OK first off you can never please everyone and I know that it is annoying to hear that, because I hear it all the time too. Since my wedding is out of town, most guests will have to take Fridays off work to get there. I was really worried at first, but it seems that most people are coming. I also just found out that 2 of my cousins can't come because it is exam time for them, so oh well! See you really can't please everyone. We are here to vent to during what I call these crazy bridal times!

ILoveChoo · Hermes

ok, breathe. People will come! I was worried about the same things and almost everyone I invited came (except for like 3 families- one of which had a work thing that was a huge deal, and two that were old and couldn't travel). And that was on short notice, after we had been engaged for 3 years and everyone had given up on the idea of us actually ever having a wedding.

The thing with your uncle sounds like something he really can't get out of- even if other people have to work I'm sure they'll be able to take the day off or go in late. Your wedding won't be lame!

gruiz · Kenneth Cole

Don't fret! I've scheduled my wedding on a Sunday as well. The way I see it is family should be willing to take Monday off to be a part of your wedding day. If they can't for some reason, that's okay too. Just make sure that if you have out-of-town guests, you book your block of hotel rooms for Sunday night as well. That way, folks can stay over and leave on Monday morning.

Take a deep breath. It'll be fantastic.

valenciana · Dooney & Bourke

first, I think smash got married on a Sunday...you could try PMing or emailing her to see what her experience was. i know for a fact that her wedding was lovely and that people did attend. also, i'm pretty sure JMR got married on a Thursday...so non-Saturday weddings *can* be done.

but no matter what day/time/year you plan your wedding, someone's gonna have a problem with it. my grandparents told us, "you know we just don't travel." and it's true, they don't travel, but it's not because they can't, they just don't want to, even though they live like 3.5 hours away. i was kind of hurt by that, but...life goes on. one of my aunts was all worked up because our wedding was a week (a full *week*) before her kids went back to school. and how inconsiderate was it of me that i picked that day, and how inconvenient it was for them and blah blah blah. then she told me that we should have waited a year, because 2006 was better for them because of x,y, or z...i don't even know, i stopped listening to her after that. i'm sorry, but i'm not postponing my wedding a year for one person's convenience (unless that person is the groom). we scheduled our wedding for, quite literally, the *only* saturday in 2005 that worked for both my husband and i. and we were the ones who really had to be there.

and actually, as it got closer to my own wedding, i started wishing that less people would come. somehow the big to-do i envisioned started to turn into a circus, and something more low-key seemed nicer...

now...repeat after me..."no matter what happens, at the end of the day on July 23rd, we will be married"

Elle · Hermes

Thank you so much girls . Nobody knows quite how to quell the anxiety like another bride, ya know?

I'm sure it'll all work out fine, and what's important is that we are (finally) getting married that day - as long as the guy that's marrying us shows up too, we're golden .

And, my uncle is just one less person we have to feed !

/end freakout #187

halleybird · Hermes

Poor Elle! I got married on a Sunday, too -- don't worry! Everyone showed, and it was a fabulous time. At least half of the crowd was still there until the DJ packed up!

PS and minor hijack: I enjoy the word "quell." Thanks for using it.

-- Edited by halleybird at 21:36, 2006-01-24

laken1 · Hermes

send me an invite - i'll come to your sunday wedding

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

I don't usually read the wedding section, but I'm kind of looking around now because I may be engaged soon (that's another story). I've been to some Sunday weddings and don't worry, people do show up and they still have just as great a time as they would on a Saturday! Smash did marry on a Sunday and there were a lot of people there and it was one of the best weddings I've ever been to. I didn't hear anyone say a word about Sunday being inconvenient or anything negative. The thing to remember is, you can't please everyone -- it's just not possible to pick a date when everyone will be able to attend -- and like you said, the two most important people, you and your FH, will be there. I am sure you will have a fabulous day!