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Kate Spade

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I don't even really know how to start this...


My boyfriend's little brother P is 17. I posted about him a while back under a "secret" username (but I don't care if the whole world knows about his issues now) ineedhelp, or something similar, I forget. Long story short, he has a lot of drinking and disciplinary problems. Since I posted, he's gotten a little better. Most weekends, my boyfriend, his sister, and I try to keep him in or at least come home early. Sometimes it works; sometimes it doesn't.


Today while my bf was at work, his friend R (who is 20) stopped by his house. P was home, and they ended up going out together. P came home really stoned, and his mom noticed. She flipped her wig, and when my bf came home he got a piece of her mind. My bf had nothing to do with it... but since R is his friend, it's automatically my bf's responsibility .


R knows all about the problems that P has. We've all talked about it together and how we can/can't help him. R does not care. This is not the first time R has taken P out and brought him home stoned... it's happened several times. Once, he took P to the liquor store to pull a "Hey Buddy" so P could get some beer (Hey Buddy, I left my license at home, can you get me a 30 rack? just incase that's not common lingo elsewhere ).


I didn't like R in the first place. I didn't dislike him; I just didn't like him. Now I can't stand the SOB. Who does he think he is?!?! I want to call him out on this so bad, but I don't think it's my place. My bf said something to him along the lines of "P has so many bad influences in his life; I'd appreciate it if you weren't one of them." I just want to scream at him!


Thanks for listening, vent over. Go on about your business...



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yuck.  If I were your bf I would quit R as a friend.  Because he's not being a good friend to your bf's brother or your bf.


I'm glad P has people around him who are looking out for him.  Even though you feel like you can't do anything, caring about him is something--probably the only thing--you can do.



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Marc Jacobs

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Ew. I don't know what to tell you, but wow. Sorry you're going through this...

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Kate Spade

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Now that I've had a little while to let the whole thing settle... I'm still super pissed. Is that bad? Thanks for feeling for me, girls... unfortunately, my bf woud not be willing to end it with R. They've been friends since early hs days (football buddies and all), and they've really bonded through their love of Mustangs. Since R recently moved 40 minutes from us and transfered schools to near where he lives, my bf is certain that he won't be hanging out with P too often. I disagree. Ugh, I don't even know what else to say... I wish I could calm down about this

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poor steph.  i'm so sorry, this sucks.  here's the thing though, if P wants to continue f*cking up, he'll find another R, so to speak.  i 100% agree that R is a bad influence on P and i 100% understand where you're coming from because you're trying so hard to be a good influence on P.  but at the end of the day, it's really on P, don't you think?  yes he's 17 and impressionable and yes he needs all the support he can get right now but imo the person that really needs to be held accountable for his actions is P.  he's the one deciding to behave in this manner and focusing your attention on R is kind of like treating the symptom of a condition instead of the condition itself.  i hope that makes sense?  if i were you, i'd do as much as i could for P but keep in mind that the only person that can really save P is himself. 


((((((((hugs)))))))))))))



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