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kenzie


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I guess it's time for an update on the Nyla dating scene.


Since N has been gone, I've talked to him every day.  I just found out yesterday that he's not going to be home for spring break (sniffle, sniffle).  He's going to visit his dad in Florida (which we had previously talked about as a possibility, so it's not completely shocking).  We talked for about 2 hours yesterday, which was great.  And he definitely misses me and wants to pursue something when he gets back. He's all worried that I'm going to find someone else in the interim.  It's so adorable, I can't even stand it!


As for T, I'm pretty much over that.  I really want to be friends with him, but emotionally, he's just way too over the top for me. He's a nice guy and I feel bad, but it's just not there.  He got all upset at me the other day for 'not giving this a fair chance.' But really, when you know, you know, right?  I'm still hanging out with him for fear of 'not giving it a fair chance,' but I'm pretty sure I've got my answer. 


And other than that, I'm just making new friends and having a good time.  Life is good.  Oh, and mom has come around.  She sees my point of view now that I have explained things better to her. 


**Here's my addition (I was cut a little short before since I'm at work)**


I'm a little weirded out by T b/c he seems to be suddenly taking on all of my interests.  It's one thing to be genuinely interested in something, but quite another to be interested b/c you like someone who is interested.  A few examples for you:



  • Sushi is my favorite food ever. I'm always on the lookout for people who like to go out for sushi.  (N, by the way, loves it.)  T had never had sushi before and so we went out the other day for it.  Now he's claiming that it's his favorite thing and he talks about it all the time. But when we were eating it, it didn't really seem that he liked it.  Another thing that's weird is that one of his co-workers has been harassing him to go out for lunch and get sushi for years (literally) and he never would go with her, but in less than a month, he went with me.

  • Most of you know of my obsession with Broadway Musicals. I have a vast collection of Broadway CD's.  He had never really heard any of these cd's, so he asks me to play some for him. So, I did.  Broadway is now one of his favorite genres.  He's obsessing about going to a Broadway show now and buying Broadway cd's.

  • I love Vegas and Cali.  He's never been there.  Now he's obsessed with taking a vacation there (obviously, he wants to go with me, but I'm planning on going to Vegas with N this summer). 

  • Same situation with Atlantic City. I go down there all the time b/c my best friend lives there. He is now obsessed with AC. 

  • Moving away from where we live: This is obviously something I plan to do eventually (preferably to the West Coast, but you all already knew this).  He's suddenly talking about moving there, too.

WTF??? Am I right to be a little creeped out by this???  With N, I really do have all of these things in common with him (we found out just through conversation. It was normal, you know).  I feel like with T, he is just into it b/c I am, like he doesn't have his own identity and he's latched onto mine!!


Sorry, that was long.  Had to vent.


 



-- Edited by NylaBelle at 11:46, 2006-01-18

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Oh good! Sounds like your having a good week!


I almost want things to work out with Tim.. for selfish reasons though.. just because I would probably see you more then.. being as Jack and Tim are both in similar music scenes/area..


See ya Saturday at the show! :)



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JoceyBaby23 wrote:

Oh good! Sounds like your having a good week! I almost want things to work out with Tim.. for selfish reasons though.. just because I would probably see you more then.. being as Jack and Tim are both in similar music scenes/area.. See ya Saturday at the show! :)

Haha!! That's great.    I'm sure we'll still see each other regardless of whether or not things work out with Tim. 


By the way, my mom and Tim's whole family are going to be there on Saturday night (just for his band's performance, then they're leaving). No pressure there, right?



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NylaBelle wrote:

JoceyBaby23 wrote: Oh good! Sounds like your having a good week! I almost want things to work out with Tim.. for selfish reasons though.. just because I would probably see you more then.. being as Jack and Tim are both in similar music scenes/area.. See ya Saturday at the show! :) Haha!! That's great.    I'm sure we'll still see each other regardless of whether or not things work out with Tim.  By the way, my mom and Tim's whole family are going to be there on Saturday night (just for his band's performance, then they're leaving). No pressure there, right?
OMG! wow! So that's why its important that I'm there early.. I can help you escape from the madness! :)

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JoceyBaby23 wrote:

OMG! wow! So that's why its important that I'm there early.. I can help you escape from the madness! :)
Yep, pleeeease be there early!! And help me refrain from drinking heavily.

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Goody - Nylabelle is having fun! All right girl

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um, nyla, yeah, that's totally creepy.  he sounds a little desparate/ obsessed over you.  i think you need to wean him off you!


if you don't want a big scene, maybe start blowing him off a little bit or being kinda bitchy till he starts slowing his roll!


otherwise just tell him it's not working and cut him off!


weirdo!



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That's good your mom's coming around to seeing your pov. 


To be honest, it sounds like T is trying to convince you to stay with him.  If you guys "share" the same interests, then you should be perfect together, right???  No need to break up.  That's what he's thinking.  I had a guy do pretty much the same thing to me and it just drove me further away.  If there's any way you can bail on going to the show together, I'd do it.  It sounds like it's going to be really awkward.  I'd say you should try and make as clean a break as possible and not see him any more.  It sounds like by hanging out with him you might be giving him some false hope of you two working out.   



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I agree with Hermione...seems like he has that obsessive, close to being a stalker thing going on. Now that things are better with your mom and you are positive T is not for you, I'd tell him "things just aren't working out...Buh Bye!"

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NCshopper wrote:

That's good your mom's coming around to seeing your pov.  To be honest, it sounds like T is trying to convince you to stay with him.  If you guys "share" the same interests, then you should be perfect together, right???  No need to break up.  That's what he's thinking.  I had a guy do pretty much the same thing to me and it just drove me further away.  If there's any way you can bail on going to the show together, I'd do it.  It sounds like it's going to be really awkward.  I'd say you should try and make as clean a break as possible and not see him any more.  It sounds like by hanging out with him you might be giving him some false hope of you two working out.   

Actually, I'm not going to the show with him (technically). I'm meeting JoceyBaby23 there, so technically, I'm going with her.  


Yes, very glad that Mom is seeing my pov.  She actually said that now that she knows more about T, she understands why it probably wouldn't work (whether N was in the picture or not). 


As for the clean break, I've told him that I really think that we are better off as friends and he got really upset (not mad upset, sad upset).  It's hard b/c I don't know that many people here yet, so I don't want not be friends with him, but at the same time, I'm getting annoyed/creeped out.  I'm sure as my social circle expands (which it seems to be doing by the day), it will get better for me. 



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