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itsapinkthing


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Ok this could go in the relationships forum but I just want to get it out.


So I'm not having a baby shower, no biggie this is my second and sometimes you just don't have one right?!  My daughter is 6 so that means we are buying a lot of stuff I got rid of after her.  Pretty much everything but the crib.  My MIL has been wonderful and has helped me put together a fabulous nursery.  She bought the bedding I picked out and a chair, plus some room accessories, to no small sum I am sure.  My Mom and Dad got us the changer.  Now my hubby and I are trying to get essentials and my Mom is saying "well then no one can give you a gift if you go out any buy that stuff".  I said "I can't expect gifts and I need to know we have what we need".  So she gave me an attitude saying she has some stuff she bought.  Well then why not give it to me?!  My MIL wants to throw a party after the baby arrives and if my Mom is waiting until then to give me things she has to assume I may have thought I'd need them once the baby was here and bought them in preparation.  Am I doing something wrong?!



-- Edited by itsapinkthing at 16:37, 2006-01-06

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Not at all your due date is in less than 6 weeks or sooner?  She needs to understand your need to prepare because when the baby comes, you wont have time to run out and get what you did not buy beforehand.


Maybe your mom is planning to throw you a surprise baby shower?



-- Edited by BargainQueen at 16:40, 2006-01-06

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This made me giggle a little bit because it's such a Mom brain-fart.


Of course it is completely logical to buy things that you'll need once the baby comes if you haven't already received them since no shower is planned!  I think your Mom knows that and understands the logic - she wouldn't expect you to 2, 3, 4 weeks after the baby is born for your Diaper Genie (or some such necessity).  She probably just didn't think through all the logistics when she was having fun buying you 'gifts'.  I would just explain *again* gently that while you'll appreciate any gifts that you may receive after the baby arrives, you can't bank on receiving certain early-day necessities and would prefer to take care of those yourselves beforehand.  Hopefully even though she wants to wait to give you her gifts, she could understand that you don't want to be left in the lurch.



-- Edited by Elle at 16:42, 2006-01-06

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itsapinkthing


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BargainQueen wrote:

Not at all your due date is in less than 6 weeks or sooner?  She needs to understand your need to prepare because when the baby comes, you wont have time to run out and get what you did not buy beforehand. Maybe your mom is planning to throw you a surprise baby shower? -- Edited by BargainQueen at 16:40, 2006-01-06

I am very confident this is not the case.  My mom is the one who clearly pointed out usually with your second child there is no shower.


Thanks Elle - I try very hard to be nice in these cases but my Mom is driving me CRAZY lately.



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