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halleybird · Hermes

Initial pendant -- advice?

Ritz · Dooney & Bourke

i voted to change it to your maiden name initial...i can see why you would want to keep the P, but really, i'm sure your dad would rather you wear the present than just let it sit in a jewelry box... and if you already have other E jewelry, you don't need more... so this way you can have a pretty piece of jewelry you don't need to explain and will still remind you of your dad.

calico · Kenneth Cole

I voted for getting the E, but now that I think about it, it would be really nice for you to kind of "honour your dad" by getting your maiden name initial, as long as you don't think you will have to explain it all the time. I think that if you keep the P (which had the most votes, which suprised me) then you won't want to wear it as much because you won't want to have to explain to everyone why you have a P when clearly you do not have any names that start with P. So I saw go for the E or for the maiden name initial, just make sure that you won't need to explain it all the time (I've been there and it's soooo annoying, especially when you are talking to someone and they are looking at your necklace and you know what they are thinking and then they ask). HTH!!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I know you can't wear it, but something about having a special thing like that with your dad really gets me. It's so sweet that just you two would know what it means... But if you wear it in public, every time someone notices it, they will wonder if they're calling you by the wrong name. So it isn't at all practical. It was just incredibly sweet of your dad, though. Um, maybe your stepmom will get you a whole new present? Or this could be the year you dont' get anything you can use, just a really good memory....

Anyway, it sounds like initials are a hassle for you no matter what. Too bad, it's such a cute necklace...

atlgirl · Gucci

I actually think you can keep it and wear it - but probably only to places that no one will be asking your name. I do this with jewelry all the time. I wear my own because I know I'll be asked "What do you do?" in certain situations / events, and once I say I'm a jewelry designer, the inevitable follow up is "Did you make *that*?" (with the questioner pointing at my ears / neck / wrist). Saying "no" really shuts down a conversation, so I either wear my pieces or mix them with other jewelry. BUT when I go to dinner with DH, or am just out running errands, or in a situation where everyone already knows what I do for a living, I will wear jewelry that's not my own design, because I'm unlikely to be questioned about the jewelry I'm wearing.

What I'm trying to say (not very clearly, I think!) is that you could wear the "P" in similar situations, right? I actually think it's very sweet of your dad, and I personally wouldn't be embarrassed if I had to explain the "P" occasionally. Though I agree it would be annoying if you had to explain it all day long, like at work or something.

It doesn't really sound like you wear initial jewelry much at all though, so if you really would prefer to have something else you can use more, then as long as your dad wouldn't be hurt or offended, I don't see any problem with exchanging the gift, either for your maiden name initial, or for some other type of jewelry that you will wear more often.

Either way, your dad sounds like a very nice man, and it's sweet of you to be so considerate about his gift.

lynnie · Chanel

i like the nickname one. i think its cute, plus he picked it out that way. you can always say, its my dad's nickname for me- you don't have to share what it actually is. its not anyone's business unless you want to tell them. so i say, keep the P!

halleybird · Hermes

thanks for the advice, girls! I do want to keep the P, but I am afraid I'll never wear it. I will keep thinking about it.

nicoley · Coach

Personally I would probably keep the nickname initial, just because it was incredibly thoughtful and in years to come it will remind you of your dad... But if your really unsure about it, I think the maiden name initial is a great way to still remember your dad without the embarrassment of explaining your nickname.

HTH!

Sounds like such a Beautiful charm necklace by the way...

rosie_the_riveter · Gucci

I would keep the nickname one. It was very sweet and a reminder of the closeness that you and your dad share.

Eurodaisy · Dooney & Bourke

I vote for keeping it, too. Wear it out shopping or with friends/family, where no explinations will be required.

NCshopper · Hermes

I also vote for keeping the P. There are plenty of situations when you'll be able to wear it without people asking you what it stands for: shopping, going out to dinner with your husband, family gatherings, hanging out with close friends, etc. I really think work or large social gatherings would be the only times when it would be impractical. Plus I think it's nice to have something that your dad picked out just for you--I like the sentimentality of it.

I'd test drive it for a few days and see how it's working for you. If after a few days you feel like it'll sit unworn in your jewelry box, then see about exchanging it for something that you'll get more wear out of.

I like the idea of your maiden name initial, but I think it's more common for people to wear their first name initial as a necklace, so I'm thinking you'll probably be getting just as many questions on that one.

Tati · Chanel

lynnie wrote:

i like the nickname one. i think its cute, plus he picked it out that way. you can always say, its my dad's nickname for me- you don't have to share what it actually is. its not anyone's business unless you want to tell them. so i say, keep the P!

ditto!

its so sweet your dad picked that out for you!