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Gucci

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I realize that this sounds horribly pathetic, but my brother's gf told me that I am not likeable. I am usually selfconfident enough not to care what she thinks but that really hurt my feelings. Its no secret that we get along like two cats in a sack, so I wonder am I really not likeable or is this just some new form of psycological torment?


I hope that I'm likeable. I don't have a huge group of friends but I have some very close ones. My workmates and classmates seem to like me. I have a fairly bizarre sense of humor and can be shy in big groups- maybe that comes across as being unlikeable?


I don't know why this upsets me so much- she told me in a very "I'm being so helpful!" kind of way and she didn't think I would get upset about it.


Arrgh! I know I shouldn't get upset but *sheesh!* who says things like that?

(I wasn't actually fishing around for people to tell me they like me- that would be a little too needy!)

-- Edited by BrazenCanadian at 19:03, 2005-11-26

-- Edited by BrazenCanadian at 19:08, 2005-11-26

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oh my gosh, how mean. from what ive seen on here, you are a wonderful woman, so yes, i like you. besides, anybody who like shopping/clothes can't be all that bad.


i have been told that im a snob, and mean to people i don't like. (by my mom, no less). and i haven't let it bother me. im okay not being nice to people that i don't like. i think its pointless. i must say though that a person has to do something really wrong for me not to like them, but after that, im not gonna waste my time being nice. argh, like this boy (who happens to be gay) in my behavioral assessment class (im in a masters program for public health) who talks ALL the time about meeting guys and hooking up. his whole freaking life revolves around sex and hooking up. it just peeves me that someone who is in school for public health (and who has spent time in africa working on condom usage/aids programs) is so vocal about sex and hooking up.


anyway...sorry to ramble, i wouldn't take it to heart what your brothers girlfriend said. if you and her already don't get along she prolly said it to be mean. are they a long term, maybe forever thing? does your family like her?



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Aw, BC, I like you!  I really do.  I wish I knew you IRL.  You are funny and nice and honest (but in a nice way).  Totally likeable.  I'm sorry the gf hurt your feelings.  Don't listen to her.  Give yourself a hug from me. 

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OF COURSE i like you!  you're a total sweetheart!  and you are absolutely likeable!  i like your awesome sense of style, your wicked sense of humor, your generous spirit--remember your idea to get jmr and karina baby shower gifts?  you cared enough about the impending motherhood of two women you've never even met--if that's not totally likeable, then i don't know what is.


now everyone has faults and when someone says a nasty comment like the one your brother's girlfriend said to you, it's natural to question yourself, but seriously your first reaction is correct, as in who says something like that?  an unlikeable person, that's who.


anyway, the only person whose opinion really matters is yours.  do YOU like yourself?  if so, that's awesome.  and if not and there are certain things you'd like to improve about yourself, that's cool too, just make sure you're doing it for you. 


to quote carrie bradshaw a la sex and the city:







"The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous."



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i like you. your brother's gf is a bitch.

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Nobody normal says that to someone that's basically family.  Could she be jealous of you??? 



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I think you're perfectly likeable!  I think your brother's gf probably said that to get a reaction out of you.  I wouldn't let it get to you.  The fact that you don't have a huge group of friends isn't a big deal--the ones you do have are very good friends (I'm kinda the same way), so I don't think that has any bearing on whether or not you're likeable or not.  And neither does shyness in large groups--I think most people are shy when around large groups of strangers.


So, to wrap it all up, I think your brother's gf is full of shit and she probably said that just to instigate something.  Poo on her. 



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I like you! Your sense of humor is awesome, you're genuinely caring (I'm basing this on the caring responses that you post when people are having relationship/life issues), you're smart ... and I don't even know you IRL! I don't know what this girl is thinking. And, unfortunately, I don't know what to tell you other than that Esquiress is right - her opinion doesn't really matter. You're fantastic!


And, I promise I am not making this about me, but it's so strange that just today I was telling one of my friends that I don't think I'm likeable. And I used that exact word! Maybe there is something in the air this week that's making people wacky. ...

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People usually have other motives when being that evil to someone else. I agree with Cricket she is probably just jealous of you and trying to make you doubt yourself. Don't let this rude girl get you down!!

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You are very likable. Don't listen to her. I like you. Your funny, intelligent caring and have great fashion sense. Don't let her bother you. If she doesn't think your likable that her problem. Just ignore it.

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Aww, thanks you guys- I am really touched.


I think she may be jealous, although I don't really like to say it. I would hate to seem like "oh she so jealous of me b/c I am just so perfect!" y'know? She totally seeths when I talk about clothes or beauty stuff or anything like that. She believes using products (ie hair stuff or lotions) is disgusting and has never plucked her eyebrows...or um.. eyebrow. Also she hates my whole family but she absolutely can't stand my cousin, who is stunning. So who knows?


Its just the way she said it...she said "I'm not trying to be rude....(which, of course, means "I'm totally going to be!" ) but you're just not a likeable person". She just made it so matter-of-fact, like everyone knows it but me.



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Don't you just love it when people who don't know you well decide to judge you? Ugh. What a beeyotch. You are awesome and very likeable!

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first off, i would like to say, what a f$!@#$@ing "c u next tuesday." (trying to be polite!)

i hate when people try to make their passive aggressiveness seem ok by prefacing something with "no offense but..."

you seem totally likeable! you should comment next time she tries to make an insult fly by saying, "really? i was JUST thinking the same thing about you!"

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I like you too. I agree with what everyone has said. You are sweet, caring, and funny. Don't listen to your brother's gf, obviously she doesn't know better. I also think that she may be jealous of you. She wouldn't say something like that unless she wanted to get a reaction out of you or she wanted to intentionally hurt your feelings. I hate back-handed comments like that!



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Why is your brother with this girl!  He's a little hottie and can totally get someone better (I remember him from that group picture you posted).  And you are totally likeable, I like you!

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what a total b*tch! I like you a lot Brazen.  I think you have a great sense of humor and you love pinups.  TeeHee, what more could you ask for? And FP is right, your brother could do a lot better than  a witch like that

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What a terrible thing to say to somebody. Honestly someone who would even think of saying such an awful thing to another person is not an opinion I would hold very highly. I think you are very likeable and personable and sweet! Mean people suck.

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I know how you feel. My legal professions professor told me I wasn't likable after my oral argument last year, and I don't think I'm over it yet. But all iit really means is that someone you don't like, your brother's girlfiend, does not find you to be the type that she likes. Since she's not that type for you, it sort of makes sense, right?

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Dizzy wrote:

I know how you feel. My legal professions professor told me I wasn't likable after my oral argument last year, and I don't think I'm over it yet. But all iit really means is that someone you don't like, your brother's girlfiend, does not find you to be the type that she likes. Since she's not that type for you, it sort of makes sense, right?
That's the exact same thing I was thinking.  If you don't like her, and she doesn't like you, then isn't that some weird sort of back-handed compliment? 

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That's just a really mean, immature & patronizing thing to say to anyone.

I won't go into how great I think you are because I think it's been said & you know that we mean it, but I say screw her! I'm sorry you have to waste any time in your life being around her at all.

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