STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

jacL · Coach

It never fails (BF gripe)!!

shopgirl82 · Chanel

i feel that way about the toliet paper roll. just toss it. that cardboard roll is not aesthetically pleasing to look at, is it? am i missing the beauty in it?

Kel · Coach

Yup, that is how I feel when my boyfriend leaves drinking glasses everywhere, instead of putting them in the dishwasher.

Cortney1982 · Chanel

OMG! Mine leaves milk cartons out too! He set them in the damn sink with a little milk in it. If we bought a new carton of milk, he won't drink out of the old one if it has less than an inch left even though it's perfectly good! I don't understand why he can't empty it and toss it since he is big on keeping counters clean.

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

I like to say that DH does things "half assed"!!! He clears the table and puts the stuff ON THE COUNTER NEXT TO THE SINK, puts things NEXT to the garbage can, laundry ON TOP of the basket. Men are just a different spicies all together!! Even though he will probably never change, I still get mad about it all the time! And I promise you you won't see many posts after yours with advice on how to make men change this about themselves, but if so, PLEASE TELL ME!!!

blubirde · Chanel

OMG, you girls are describing ME! The boy was just around this weekend, picking up glasses I'd left all over MY apartment and helping me pick up the mass amounts of crap I manage to leave around (instead of so elegantly putting away like you girls do). And I never replace the roll. I just set it on top of the old cardboard roll. Are you all cringing now?

(Imagine how my old roommate felt!! )

-- Edited by blubirde at 16:01, 2005-11-22

member · Hermes

blubirde wrote:

omg, you girls are describing ME! The boy was just around this weekend, picking up glasses I'd left all over MY apartment and helping me pick up the mass amounts of crap I manage to leave around (instead of so elegantly putting away like you girls do). And I never replace the role. I just set it on top of the old cardboard roll. Are you all cringing now? (Imagine how my old roommate felt!! )

Haha - I'm the same as blubirde - my BF actually picks up after me. I always leave the milk carton out on the counter and he throws it away. I'm not a dirty person by any means, but he's a clean freak. I leave kleenex all over and he has to throw those away. LOL - I bet now you girls are really cringing!

blubirde · Chanel

shopchicago33 wrote:

blubirde wrote: omg, you girls are describing ME! The boy was just around this weekend, picking up glasses I'd left all over MY apartment and helping me pick up the mass amounts of crap I manage to leave around (instead of so elegantly putting away like you girls do). And I never replace the role. I just set it on top of the old cardboard roll. Are you all cringing now? (Imagine how my old roommate felt!! ) Haha - I'm the same as blubirde - my BF actually picks up after me. I always leave the milk carton out on the counter and he throws it away. I'm not a dirty person by any means, but he's a clean freak. I leave kleenex all over and he has to throw those away. LOL - I bet now you girls are really cringing!

Hee! We can never live together! Well we could be all piggy and messy together but I think that would get old really fast. (I'm also not a dirty person. I'm slightly fanatic about cleaning the bathroom and kitchen but I'm all about leaving stuff everywhere.)

NCshopper · Hermes

blubirde wrote:

shopchicago33 wrote: blubirde wrote: omg, you girls are describing ME! The boy was just around this weekend, picking up glasses I'd left all over MY apartment and helping me pick up the mass amounts of crap I manage to leave around (instead of so elegantly putting away like you girls do). And I never replace the role. I just set it on top of the old cardboard roll. Are you all cringing now? (Imagine how my old roommate felt!! ) Haha - I'm the same as blubirde - my BF actually picks up after me. I always leave the milk carton out on the counter and he throws it away. I'm not a dirty person by any means, but he's a clean freak. I leave kleenex all over and he has to throw those away. LOL - I bet now you girls are really cringing! Hee! We can never live together! Well we could be all piggy and messy together but I think that would get old really fast. (I'm also not a dirty person. I'm slightly fanatic about cleaning the bathroom and kitchen but I'm all about leaving stuff everywhere.)

Count me in on being messy too!!! It drives my husband CRAZY!!! I leave water glasses on my nightstand and every time we run the dishwasher he asks me to go get all the glasses out of our room, and there are usually....oh....about SIX!!! And I leave my wet towel on the bed too after I shower. It's funny because those are the same things that drove my dad crazy about me in high school and I still do it.

My husband has a thing about mail and dirty dishes though. He puts the dishes on the counter instead of in the dishwasher and he will spread unopened mail throughout the house. Seriously, I find credit card offers EVERYWHERE!!!

TheLovelyLady71 · Hermes

Joe EATS ME ALIVE when I leave drinking cups on my nightstand, but he PISSES ME OFF when he leaves beer bottle tops on the counter, when the trash can is RIGHT OVER THERE; and the toilet paper roll - NEVER ENDING STORY! He'll WAIT for me to change it, or put a new roll on the side of the damn tub! UGH!

-- Edited by TheLovelyLady71 at 16:35, 2005-11-22

BargainQueen · Marc Jacobs

I have another one to add, I hate it when my hubby puts napkin or banana peel or empty snack wrapper inside his empty glass & puts it in the sink to wash! Um the trash can is one foot away! I hate doing the dishes and finding gross trash in there!

luckylily · Gucci

LOL...These are cracking me up because I can so relate.

The one that really gets me is that my husband will NEVER change a lightbulb. We could be sitting in complete darkness and he wouldn't get up to change them. It drives me nuts because we have a high ceiling and I have to stand on my toes on a wobbly chair in order to change them.

That said, I am much more of a slob than him.

small fry · Chanel

yes i can relate to this, my hubby just wants to put his dirty dishes on the counter next to the sink-

damn this gets to me, how hard is it to put it in the sink, it is right there

or even just put them in the dishwasher , how hard can that be. Another one is going to the toliet in the middle of the night half asleep and falling in- after living with two men I should learn to check before i sit. What @ when emptying the toliet paper roll and not putting a new roll on there for the next person - i hate that

Okay i can think of alot more but i will stop now

atlgirl · Gucci

JacL, have you actually talked to him about this? I don't know if my DH is just an aberration, but usually when something like that happens, and I don't say anything but silently fume instead, it will come out to him in other ways (via my behavior). I've learned (the hard way) that if I just mention it to him - and sometimes I have to mention it more than once! - he will eventually get the picture and not do things like leave the milk jug on the counter...which actually DH does, and I'm okay with it. It's part of our "kitchen agreement". I think a lot of times women think that men should just automatically "know" what we want, and they don't have a clue. So if we can just explain to them what we want, many men (though not all!) are willing to make small changes in their behavior to accommodate us.

Sometimes, though, we just have to accept that certain people will never do certain tasks. For example, I will never take out our kitchen trash. Yes, I used to take out the trash when I lived alone, but I don't like it and so DH does it. And he will never dust. Never has, never will. I learned that early on when we were first dating and I went to his apartment. So I dust. And he doesn't do any of the laundry, and I don't do any of the lawn stuff (except for weed-pulling occasionally).

That works out fine for us, as long as we're clear (verbally) about this stuff. Maybe you could try telling your BF that this really bothers you and see what happens? You might be surprised.

halleybird · Hermes

I think all men should have a mandatory housekeeping class once they turn 18. Mine likes to do laundry, and then leave his clean laundry IN the laundry room instead of putting it away. Apparently walking all the way downstairs anytime he needs socks or a shirt doesn't bother him as much as walking it upstairs ONCE.

NCshopper · Hermes

halleybird wrote:

I think all men should have a mandatory housekeeping class once they turn 18. Mine likes to do laundry, and then leave his clean laundry IN the laundry room instead of putting it away. Apparently walking all the way downstairs anytime he needs socks or a shirt doesn't bother him as much as walking it upstairs ONCE.

Mine likes to leave his laundry in the dryer. So, when he gets dressed in the morning, he walks to the laundry room in his boxers, opens the dryer and finds the least wrinkled thing to put on. It's ridiculous. However, the upside of this is that because his clothes are practically NEVER in the closet, I get more closet space!

jacL · Coach

atlgirl wrote:

JacL, have you actually talked to him about this? I don't know if my DH is just an aberration, but usually when something like that happens, and I don't say anything but silently fume instead, it will come out to him in other ways (via my behavior). I've learned (the hard way) that if I just mention it to him - and sometimes I have to mention it more than once! - he will eventually get the picture and not do things like leave the milk jug on the counter...which actually DH does, and I'm okay with it. It's part of our "kitchen agreement". I think a lot of times women think that men should just automatically "know" what we want, and they don't have a clue. So if we can just explain to them what we want, many men (though not all!) are willing to make small changes in their behavior to accommodate us. Sometimes, though, we just have to accept that certain people will never do certain tasks. For example, I will never take out our kitchen trash. Yes, I used to take out the trash when I lived alone, but I don't like it and so DH does it. And he will never dust. Never has, never will. I learned that early on when we were first dating and I went to his apartment. So I dust. And he doesn't do any of the laundry, and I don't do any of the lawn stuff (except for weed-pulling occasionally). That works out fine for us, as long as we're clear (verbally) about this stuff. Maybe you could try telling your BF that this really bothers you and see what happens? You might be surprised.

Oh yes, I have told him many times how this bothers me and he says he will try to remember, but those types of things just are not very important to him. I have resigned myself to pick up after him because I love him (and of course, there are many things he does for me), but it does bother me from time to time.