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This guy is: [24 vote(s)]

pathetic
29.2%
persistent
70.8%
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Coach

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Update I need a tie-breaker. My friend who got the message thinks I should call him, so now I'm confused again. Sorry and thanks for voting!


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I had a brief conversation with a guy over the weekend at a bar. He gave me his card and asked me to call him. I wasn't overly interested and hadn't decided if I would call. He seemed nice, but I'm not sure I'm in the mood for dating. (See whiny horrible week thread) Today, he left a voicemail for my friend (I had called my friend from his phone at the bar, b/c I didn't have mine and couldn't find my friend in the packed bar) leaving his number and asking my friend to ask me to call. Umm, hello!? I have your number! Pathetic or persistent?


I'm thinking pathetic ...



-- Edited by Lisa at 13:10, 2005-11-02

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lynnie


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it depends- if he was charming and you liked him more, it would be persistent and you could potentially be telling your future kids this story.  But what were your impressions of him?  Slightly off?  Then probably pathetic..

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lynnie wrote:

 But what were your impressions of him?  Slightly off?  Then probably pathetic..
Good point. I should have included that. We had some unusual things in common, so in that sense he was appealing, but it was so hard to tell his true personality b/c he seemed a little nervous about talking to me. And with it being Halloween, I couldn't gauge from his clothes and manner whether he was my type. (You know how people almost "act their part" on Halloween.)

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esquiress


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my initial reaction:


if he's cute, it's persistent.


if he's not, it's pathetic.


i know, i know, how horribly superficial of me...but you know it's true.


seriously though, i would've veered on the side of pathetic but i recently talked to a guy friend about this new phenomenon of guys giving out their business card and not asking for a girl's number instead and i was like, so I'm the one who has to call now?? and to his work??  and my guy friend was like, nah...when i give a girl my business card i'm really not holding out any hope that she'll call.  so if that's the case, maybe this guy was wishing he'd asked for your number  but since he hadn't, he did the next best thing by calling your friend.  so maybe he's just persistent.


however...when in doubt, see my above initial reaction. 



-- Edited by esquiress at 16:55, 2005-10-31

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esquiress wrote:

and my guy friend was like, nah...when i give a girl my business card i'm really not holding out any hope that she'll call.   Edited by esquiress at 16:55, 2005-10-31

Hee hee! I think he was actually hopeful I would call. He first tried to ask me to reach him through his work, and receiving no response from me he resorted to the card. I was actually trying to leave the bar when he first started talking to me, and I left somewhat abruptly, leaving him fumbling for some way to maintain contact. Ha ha ha ha. I am so mean.


As far as his looks, it is sad but so true. The problem is that I couldn't really tell! Damn costumes.



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dc


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Lisa wrote:

As far as his looks, it is sad but so true. The problem is that I couldn't really tell! Damn costumes.


Does it make me an awful person that this is a reason why I can't be bothered to go to H-ween parties? I've had too many letdowns and weird experiences (like a guy I dated in college who dressed as a woman... and looked hotter than I did. Also it freaked out a number of his friends that he made such an attractive womam).

Anyway, I digress. I agree that it's sort of cute if you were attracted to him. Otherwise, a bit much. It's funny how that is true of a lot of things guys do - wildly romantic in guys you find hot, off-putting in guys you're not sure about. And then guys you're not sure about who leave you hanging, you get a bit more interested (or is that just me?)...

-- Edited by dc at 22:38, 2005-10-31

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JoceyBaby23


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I think you have to go with your gut on this one.. I voted persistance because I think that it is pretty cute.. but if he creeped you out in any way, then obviously run the other way.

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I voted pathetic, I know it sounds mean, but some guys just really don't pick up clues as well as others.  This guy would be in the persistent category if you had put some charm on him, but it sounds like you were just being nice to him....am I wrong? 

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Well hey, the guy went to all the trouble to make sure you know he's interested, right? You're not sure if he's cute or not, so why not find out? Hit him up for coffee on a work break or during the day or something. Worse case scenario, you wasted half an hour. Best case, he looks hot and he suddenly becomes adorable.


I'm all about giving things a shot. Keep us updated with what you decide to do!


Oh and I totally agree with the stalker rule. If he's cute, it's sweet. If he's not, he's a stalker. Sad but true.



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What happened??? I'm just reading this so I'm dying of curiosity now....

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I think you need to ask yourself what you have to lose by calling him... nothing ventured, nothing gained...

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laken1 wrote:
What happened??? I'm just reading this so I'm dying of curiosity now....


Well, I ended up actually deciding pretty much what Detroit posted. I figured, at worst, that it was a couple hours of not having fun. When I called we did the usual "How are you ... how are you?" thing and his response to my how are you was that he was "better" now that I'd called, and that he'd been "kicking" himself for not asking for my number instead of giving me his. I couldn't decide if that was cute or dorky either.

So ... we are going out next week.

I will keep you guys posted on how it goes. Thanks for thinkin of me and for the opinions!

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