STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

gruiz wrote:

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Ugh. Whether or not he's "doing anything" with this girl is irrelevant at this point. You don't trust him, and THAT'S what matters. You'll never have a good, healthy relationship if you don't trust him.

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i completely agree with this.  trust is everything- and you obviously can't trust him.  you don't need this grief, nylabelle.  please break up with this loser. 

blubirde wrote:

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I've officially caught up now, Nylabelle. And man! What a catch up! I've been where you are right now and I have to tell you, it's not going to get any better. Even if this girl goes out of the picture (doubtful unless something does happen between them and then he gets bored with her), there will always be times when he doesn't answer his phone, stays out too late, or goes out with "friends." You're always talking about being stuck in bad situations and I completely get how there are some situations that are harder to change than others (job, for instance). But you are completely in control of this one and I think you owe it to yourself to be good to you. I also think you know what that means. Let him go. It's hard, I know but it's the only way to be happy and don't you think you deserve that? I do! And hey, worst case scenario, we'll get our posse of STers together! I can give a wicked verbal lashion.

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Thanks, blubirde and everyone else for your thoughts and suppport.  We aren't together anymore.  I haven't really talked to him and I don't really care.  He's a little boy and he can't handle a relationship once it passes out of the new and fun stage.  I deserve better than that crock 'o crap.  He's the one who's going to end up sad and lonely b/c he can't get it together and any girl who would actually marry him needs her head examined.

I am so happy for you. I think you made the right decision. You deserve so much better.

thank god!

you are so smart, obviously beautiful, funny, and motivated - this piece of crap doesn't deserve anyone like you - he's going to end up alone as each girl he dates realizes what a loser he is.

did that sound harsh?  just everything you've said about him in the past months - and now this?

ugh!  stay strong, sweetheart - with your upcoming move, new job and whatever new opportunites yuo have coming your way, new and fabulous dating prospects will come!

Nylabelle--I know I didn't respond earlier but I just wanted to give you my support and tell you that you made a sound decision in dumping him.  You can do so much better and you don't deserve to be with that loser.  Hang in there, Sweetie.  Some days will be hard but it WILL get easier.  We're here for ya!  

BrazenCanadian wrote 
Nobody hurts our Nyla and gets away with it! Just say the word and we'll get a bunch of ST girls to go kick his ass.

 

Iam with her on that! I was ready for some butt kicking myself , that one thing @ girls we will stick up for each other !

I hope eveything is better and you keep us updated!

So So happy to hear that you are doing well without him in your life, Christie! you deserve sooo much better!

Nyla,

I am soooooo proud of you!  I know how hard that is.  I lived in Chicago with my boyfriend who was older then me and we dated for 3 years.  He was a deadbeat!  It took a lot of strength to say, you know what, I am unhappy and I am moving out.  But once I was out of that dead end relationship, I was truly happy and eventually met the man of my dreams.  I am glad you are getting a fresh start and had the courage to leave him!!!

Go girl!!!!!