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mikacat


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Okay- I think I am finally ready to write about what happened at work 12 days ago. As most of you know, I was pregnant twice last year and work freaked out about it. Since I was in a Fast Track Program at work they told me I could only have 6 weeks maternity leave and it would affect my career. This was a Senior VP-- what an idiot. He even called me at home the day I came home from the D&E and asked me when I was going to get pregnant again so they could plan my career. I complained to the President and he told me he would fix everything and make it right and that if I ever felt like I couldn't work here any more to come to him and he would help me find a new job.


Anyway, then I asked about maternity leave for adopting and was told I wouldn't get any paid leave but could take FMLA b/c adopting was different than having a baby. At this point, I felt I had nothing to lose and called the President and said I wanted to take him up on his offer to help me find a new job. He met me right away to convince me to stay and we discussed it....then 4 days later he presented me with a severance package. I feel scared and sick and relieved all at the same time.


If I don't have a job in 14 weeks when my severance runs out, my adoption could fall through b/c I will be on unemployment. I feel depressed about this but I am trying to stay positive b/c I know in the long run this will be better. I also feel good that I did what was right for my new daughter and that she is out there waiting on me to bring her home.


So I am networking, have an appt with my placement office at school, the monster thing, have contacted former professors, and classmates.


any ideas, advice, hugs or encouragement?


I have 18 years of work experience in retail(food-grocery and clothing), marketing, CPG, and sales and an MBA in Marketing from Wake Forest. I will post this in the career section but if anyone has any leads or ideas about jobs, we will move anywhere---and I mean just about anywhere, even overseas. I just can't lose this adoption. I would mainly be interested in marketing, Project Management, Consulting or Strategy positions, even buying or procurement.



-- Edited by mikacat at 12:49, 2005-10-18

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OMG Mikacat!  I can not even imagine how you must be feeling right now.  I'm sooo sorry .


FWIW, IMO it is doable in most places to find a job in 14 weeks even with the market as bad as it is.  Hopefully this is all happening for a reason and it will all turn out better in the end.


Hugs.



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Hey, I'm PMing you right now.  I didn't know you have a Wake MBA!  I went to Wake for undergrad!  Anyway, I'm PMing you.

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*Big hug* I'm so sorry you're going thru all of this, hang in there, it will all work out.  If you want, I could get my hubby to get an internal job listings from Walmart Corp. and also if you're interested I can ask him about any contact info for the vendors (you can usually make better money for the vendors instead of actually working directly for Walmart).  Let me know, I'd be happy to help in any way possible.


PS You're going to be a great mom!



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I am so sorry for you. I really don't have any advice - it sounds like you are really on top of things. I hate to be the one to say this, but isn't that blatant discrimination against a mother? And I don't mean ethically which is obvious, but legally? Maybe i'm off base since I'm not a lawyer - but I didn't think they could legally say things like that to you or fire you for this...

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that is horrible - so sorry that happened to you.  it definitely sounds like grounds for a lawsuit to me...

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Sending you a PM.  Hugs.

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detroit wrote:

that is horrible - so sorry that happened to you.  it definitely sounds like grounds for a lawsuit to me...

I agree.  I would definitely talk to an attorney about this. 


I'm so sorry this happened!  I know everything will work you.  Where are you located at again?



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oh my god.  i can't even begin to express...mikacat, i am so sorry.  i cannot believe all you've had to go through, it is just blowing my mind thinking about it.  my thoughts and prayers are with you.


with regard to the lawsuit, under the law you're allowed 4 months pregnancy leave, all the stuff they threatened/said before you lost your job would definitely have been grounds for a pregnancy discrimination/harassment/retaliation lawsuit.  however, since you went to the president asking him to help you look for a new job, if you were ever to file a lawsuit they would likely try to make it look like you voluntarily resigned and were not terminated.  so that could be tricky.  if you want to pursue it, you should definitely consult a good employment lawyer in whatever state you live in. since i work in california, i can't be of much help but if there is anything at all that i can do to help, all you have to do is ask.


(((((((((((((((extra-tight superlong hug))))))))))))))))))))))))))



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I'm so sorry to hear about this situation, Mikacat. I agree this is all for the best in order to bring your new daughter home.....she'll be such a lucky girl to have a mom like you. Best of luck in finding a new position where you will not be discriminated against for wanting a child. I will be thinking about you!

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I am so sorry this happened. I wish I had some advice to give. But don't worry everything will work out somehow or another. Just keep positive.



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You have PM!

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mikacat -- i'm so sorry that this happened to you. if you see anything on the lizclaiborne.com website, let me know and i'll submit it for you -- i know some recruiters here and i'll tell them how great you are :)

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Oh Mikacat - I am sending you a huge, HUGE hug!


You are already a wonderful mother for doing what is best for your baby. Your Adoption will NOT fall through - I am going to pray every single day that everything that is going on right now is really a blessing in disguise and everything will be even better than it was before!!



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oh my gosh, mikacat, i'm so sorry this happened to you!  unfortunately, i don't have any advice/leads on the job front, but i just wanted to say that i hope everything works out for you!  and i totally agree with the other ladies who said that you are going to be such an amazing mother.  good luck!!!!  ((((hugs))))



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Oh, I'm so sorry mikacat--that's terrible!  I wish I had some leads for you but I'm sure you will found something, you seem to be well qualified!  I'm not an employment lawyer, but it wouldn't hurt to go talk to an attorney about what happened.  If you do that, I would explain that your most important concern is the adoption.  Maybe he/she could recommend a course of action  that would avoid putting the adoption in jeopardy (i.e. not taking unemployment until after the adoption or something??).  Please let me know if there is anything I can do.  Hang in there!  

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That is terrible. I wish you the best of luck with everything. You're in my thoughts an prayers that you are able to bring your daughter home regardless of the job situation.

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sfcaligirl wrote:

oh my gosh, mikacat, i'm so sorry this happened to you!  unfortunately, i don't have any advice/leads on the job front, but i just wanted to say that i hope everything works out for you!  and i totally agree with the other ladies who said that you are going to be such an amazing mother.  good luck!!!!  ((((hugs))))

 


ditto.  i would consult with someone to see what your options are in dealing with your company.  it just seems really fishy.  i'm sorry sweetheart, it seems like you've been through a lot and i just hope that this has happened for the best.  in my experience things happen for a reason....



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I am so sorry that is happened to you...I hope everything gets better and you find a job and adopt the baby....I wish you all the best

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I feel sick to my stomach.  How could they do this to you?  I hope you can sue them.  I can't believe a company in this day and age could be so discriminating of mothers. 


I truly hope everything works out.  You and this baby are meant to be together.  Good luck with everything.



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