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fashionista L


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I talked a couple of weeks ago about Matt, the great guy that I really liked but always wanted me to initiate phone calls,etc. Well we got past that and we have been hanging out all the time, we have been having so much fun together, he treats me really well and I just love to be around him. 


 We have hooked up a couple times and I am overall very happy. The problem is he just got a new job with the railroad as a conductor. He had mentioned there was a possibility that he may move, but didn't think that would likely happen. Now there is a 60/40 chance that he is going to get called up to work next Monday to move to Seattle which is about 2 hours away. I am reallly bummed. Last night, he pretty much asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I didn't want a boyfriend quite yet, because there are still unresolved issues with my ex. I really want it to work out with him because I like him so much. He told me he is really falling for me and I am just so confused about what I should do next. I really want to be with him. This is such a bad situation, I feel like it is really bad timing for us. Uhh!!



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Hey girl. I've been secretly rooting for you to meet someone nice after everything you've posted about your last bf.  I would just see how it goes with this guy.  I wouldn't write him off for being long distance but I wouldn't be exclusive with him either at this point.

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maybe keep the long distance thing going for awhile and then see what happens?  if you still dig him, maybe there could be a move in the future?


i don't want your ex to get in the way of new guy tho.  so maybe tell him you want to keep things going how they are and play it by ear if he has to move.



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Hmmm...that sucks!  I wish he didn't have to move so you guys can be together! 


I had two long distance relationships in college:  1 didn't work, and 1 did (we're married now).  In my experience a long distance relationship takes WORK.  LOTS of it.  Even the best ones take work.  So if you decide to go forward in the relationship, just realize that.  I wish I had a better answer for you, but your heart really has to be in it if a long distance relationship is going to last. 


Keep us posted on what you decide to do.  I'm pulling for you as well!  It sounds like the last bf was pretty shitty and you definitely deserve to have a great relationship.    And whatever you decide to do, you know we're here for ya!



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Andrea Julia


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I think you should still pursue things with him.  I don't think this amount of distance will change things too much.  Two hours isn't really that far.  I've dated someone with this amount of distance before.  You can meet halfway during the week and take turns coming up to hang on the weekend.  And when (if) things become serious, you can stay over at each other's places.  It will be like a mini-vacation every week.


I hope things work out!



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Andrea Julia wrote:

I think you should still pursue things with him.  I don't think this amount of distance will change things too much.  Two hours isn't really that far.  I've dated someone with this amount of distance before.  You can meet halfway during the week and take turns coming up to hang on the weekend.  And when (if) things become serious, you can stay over at each other's places.  It will be like a mini-vacation every week. I hope things work out!

I agree. I think it's definitely worth trying out. If it doesn't work out, well that sucks but at least you can say you tried. It's much better than pining away for one another and wondering "what if."


Good luck and keep us posted!



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Thanks guys!! I really appreciate all your advice and wisdom!! I will definitely keep you posted!!

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