STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

For the most part I agree with atlgirl.  I usually just figure people are busy or don't really have a suggestion.  I don't mind if people try to solicit responses by bumping up the post and asking one more time.  Sometimes I miss posts and I only see them if someone bumps them up and then I'll respond.  But no, I don't take it personally. 

I have to say, silly as it is, sometimes I do feel this way.  I think it's because we are so excited to post something or get advice that we want it right away.  Sometimes in the morning when I post about maybe a show that was on the night before or something, If there aren't many comments, I will be like "where is everyone??  I know people watched this?"  Like all people have to do during the day is post about lost or nip tuck, I have to take a step back and be like, um people are probably working. (I am working too, but ST is very important to get to as well!  lol) I never thought about it that way, but it's really interesting! 

Another example is like when I email friends that I know check their email right away don't respond that day I will think they are mad at me, even if there would be no good reason for it.

I agree with you luckylily, and others. Normally I am checking in periodically during the day, and assume others are too, so I don't really take it personally.

But I do totally get insecure with email and voicemail, like Luv2Shop, if I know a person is constantly checking their email and they don't respond right away. I think that's why the article stuck out to me in the first place, because I'd never thought of ST that way, really. But it's the same idea. I can totally understand bumping a post if you really need a response. That's what we're all here for, right?

I'll be honest and admit that it does piss me off if someone doesn't respond. I don't mean right away, because I know people don't just sit around staring at their phones or email waiting for someone to send them something.

However, and especially if there's actually a question and not just a comment, it really does bother me if I don't get a text back from someone within a day or an email response within 2 days. I find this to be completely rude, especially when I know that person has their phone on them all the time, or they leave their email open and get notification that they have new mail.

I realize there are always circumstances that will prevent responses even within my time limits that I prefer.

I think the reason it does bother so much, is that I prefer email, AIM, or texting as my forms of communication, so not responding to them gets to me.

Yeah, I'm a little weird

Lisa wrote:

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Sometimes I have a moment of paranoia if I post something and no one responds right away, but I don't really feel overly stressed about it. Thoughts?

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I sometimes feel this way....ignored. Mostly I don't answer a lot of questions because I think that maybe my opinion won't really matter or that somebody will think I'm stupid.  Yeah I know, I'm very self-conscious.

-- Edited by rosie_the_riveter at 22:10, 2005-10-07

To be honest, I don't post as much as I'd like to. I don't respond to most of the outfit ideas and such because I kind of feel like if one of you read a suggestion I made, you'd think "oh that's just the new girl, what does she know?"... that kind of deal. I'll bet it's not true (I'm just a wee bit self-conscious). I feel like the threads I start don't get many responses... In reality I know it's because nobody has anything to add to what I say, but (because I'm crazy ) I take it as everyone thinking "oh shut up, Stephanie, we don't want to talk to you." Although, I do love it here, and I'm hoping to break through the "new girl" thing and post as much as I want to soon. Oh, and as far as email, texts, and voicemails... I'm not nearly as weird about them. If someone doesn't respond, I just shrug it off, probably because I know for sure that the people I talk to want to talk back to me (for the most part).

ETA: Also, sometimes I feel like I stop discussions... like, if I respond to something, nobody says anything else about it. Then I feel bad because I don't want anyobe to stop talking about something just because I interupted the conversation, you know

-- Edited by Stephanie at 22:05, 2005-10-07

First off I just want to say that I don't hate/find myself annoyed by ANYONE on here and I'm pretty sure 99% of the other girls feel the same way.  That's why I love this board.

I don't really feel ignored when my post goes without comments.  I just figure that no one knew the answer or didn't have anything to contribute.  When I don't answer in response to a post, it's not because I dislike the person or anything, just I didn't have any suggestions or felt the ones there answered the post sufficiently/better than I could.  I take things in real life WAY more personally that tech things (like this, texts, emails). 

haha i used to feel this way (new girl complex, i had it too), but after getting to "know" everybody, i don't feel like i'm being singled out if i have no response- i would respond to every post if i could, but i can't or don't know the answers. Sometimes i do get impatient though, like if i want to order something five minutes from now, and there aren't yet 20 million insightful comments and opinions. Hahah i've found, if anything, i can't buy ANYTHING without feedback of sorts (even if i don't listen to it!)- i post things here, research restaurants to eat and whats good there, check makeupalley before buying $3 lipgloss...