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poptart · Coach

single girl status

Andrea Julia · Coach

Still single. The guy from VA beach is coming to visit again at the end of October. He would be staying with friends again. However, he wants to come up sooner to see me. Although I do like him more than I thought I did now that I hung out with him again, I really would rather he waited until the end of October. Even if he stayed at a hotel (staying at my place is ridiculously out of the question right now), I don't want to be responsible for him for a whole weekend. I just don't like him nearly enough for that to be appealing.

This was a great idea, Lisa. We should have a monthly update if we can remember!

-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 11:39, 2005-09-27

KaffeeKlatsch · Marc Jacobs

I consider myself single. My estranged husband has not been in contact since March-the last support payment (or rather the only) came in February.

The restraining order will be in place for a total of 5 years (February '05 onward) and I am waiting to file for divorce until a year has passed.

Okay...negatives out of the way! Life is getting better day by day. I've really embraced myseld as a single mom. We've really been blessed lately with a network of new and fabulous firiends.

blubirde · Chanel

An update! Good idea Lisa. I'm glad you found a guy you like. They're so hard to come by, aren't they? As for the grabbing - tell me about it! It's like, "did I give you permission to touch me? Because if you think so, let me correct that mistake right now." Boys. (and their hands!)

As for me, I'm still seeing G. We've found a bit of chemistry although, to be fair, it's not as much as I've had with other guys. But what he lacks in "must have you right now" he more than makes up for in politeness, manners, sense of humor, intelligence, and sweetness. Omg - did I just write all that? I feel like such a goober. So anyway, yeah, I like him. I like him more than I thought I would. And he likes me too. The only problem is that he likes me a bit more than I like him I think - if you can call that a problem. But I'm willing to give it time and see how it works out. Just because I don't have that butterfly feeling after only knowing him a few weeks doesn't mean I won't right? Plus I think about him and he makes me laugh, so I think he's definitely worth the effort right now. We'll see.

On the bad boy side, J and I had yet another fight. About three weeks ago, actually. He said something catty and that was just it. I decided I don't need friends like him so I stopped talking to him. About a week later he called me on it and I let him have it. The thing is though, he's not even worth it. That's what I realized. I mean he's not even worth wasting time being mad at or wasting time explaining why he's a jerk. He doesn't get it and frankly, I don't care. So I'll see him every now and then and vaguely keep in touch (we share mutual friends) but that's about it. I can't believe I didn't realize what a complete and total dumbass he is. Really. I suppose these things are always easier to see in retrospect.

Thanks for asking Lisa!

crystal · Kate Spade

Fab idea, Lisa! I was just thinking the same thing the other day, about updating everyone. Well, I'm still seeing "that rock star guy" aka band manager. He's great, I like him so much. We don't get to see eachother that much, like once a week, cuz we are both really busy. But we went out this past Friday and in the morning (yes, I slept over) he gave me a toothbrush... I don't know about ya'll, but to me this is a pretty big deal. He also made me breakfast (cereal - Kashi Autumn Havest... so yummy!) and called his mom in front of me (she was in Houston hiding in a closet, but lucky for her she never even lost power!). He still makes me really nervous, but I'm feeling less and less panicky about him never calling again. I emailed him inviting him to my cousin's bday dinner (ya, for those who remember, we are talking again - it's a long story) this weekend but I probably won't hear word til later today... I'll update again at that time. Good to hear everyone else's updates too!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Good idea Lisa - and I know what you mean about the grabbing. I find it's a certain type of comes-from-money-joined-a-frat-and-now-preys-on-girls-who-expect-a-boyfriend who does this most frequently. But there are some real creeps out there no matter the group.

As for me, I'm still single and fending off the law school assholes. There's one who seems nice though, he's in teh environmental law society, which is good. And he's asked me out twice so far. We talk in the halls and stuff like that. But um, I'm really not feeling very trusting of ANY law students right now, so the most I've done is let him buy me a burrito. We'll see eachother at a wine tasting Thursday, so maybe we'll see then. But really, I suspect that no matter how nice they seem, any law school guy is just trying to hook up and then dump, for the ego trip.

Oh, and Bluebirde, we had almost the EXACT same relationship - I stopped talking to my last guy too. This is so dorky, but if I'm handling it like you are, then I figure I'm on the right track. It's weird being sooooo new to the dating thing - this board is giving me a "normal" because law school is so weird that I can't use my classmates as a base point. And I feel the exact same way about what a dork he turned out to be! I mean, he has his good points, but he's pretty much just a total dumbass... And you know both of our cute little idiots are going to end up with girls who aren't HALF as good as we are. Because if you treat people like they do, then the only girls who will stay around you have very little self esteem, and a tendency to be a liiiiitle bit nuts. (which I think sets up a vicious circle, based on watching my guy friends date...)

Anyway, good to hear that Crystal found someone to appreciate you - and Andrea Julie, you are too funny! You're so ladylike and "Well, we'll just see if he impresses me.." I need to learn that knack...

And Leah sweetie - I'm so glad things are working out for you - be strong! In a year, you'll be amazed at how much better your life is!'

Love y'all....

lsubatgirl · Gucci

Well I haven't really posted much about my love life. I broke up with the BF of 5.5 years 3 weekends ago. That is still a mess since I know its forever this time and he's still holding out hope.

So now I'm sorta single sorta not. The boy I went to Dallas with is suppose to take me on a real date but a date and time nor activity has been set. I guess Hurricane Rita didn't help anything there. Its been kinda weird -> I met his family this weekend since we evacuated to SA but no date yet. He's a sweetie though but I am so not ready for anything serious and he knows that so its all good.

blubirde · Chanel

Dizzy wrote:

Good idea Lisa - and I know what you mean about the grabbing. I find it's a certain type of comes-from-money-joined-a-frat-and-now-preys-on-girls-who-expect-a-boyfriend who does this most frequently. But there are some real creeps out there no matter the group. As for me, I'm still single and fending off the law school assholes. There's one who seems nice though, he's in teh environmental law society, which is good. And he's asked me out twice so far. We talk in the halls and stuff like that. But um, I'm really not feeling very trusting of ANY law students right now, so the most I've done is let him buy me a burrito. We'll see eachother at a wine tasting Thursday, so maybe we'll see then. But really, I suspect that no matter how nice they seem, any law school guy is just trying to hook up and then dump, for the ego trip. Oh, and Bluebirde, we had almost the EXACT same relationship - I stopped talking to my last guy too. This is so dorky, but if I'm handling it like you are, then I figure I'm on the right track. It's weird being sooooo new to the dating thing - this board is giving me a "normal" because law school is so weird that I can't use my classmates as a base point. And I feel the exact same way about what a dork he turned out to be! I mean, he has his good points, but he's pretty much just a total dumbass... And you know both of our cute little idiots are going to end up with girls who aren't HALF as good as we are. Because if you treat people like they do, then the only girls who will stay around you have very little self esteem, and a tendency to be a liiiiitle bit nuts. (which I think sets up a vicious circle, based on watching my guy friends date...) Anyway, good to hear that Crystal found someone to appreciate you - and Andrea Julie, you are too funny! You're so ladylike and "Well, we'll just see if he impresses me.." I need to learn that knack... And Leah sweetie - I'm so glad things are working out for you - be strong! In a year, you'll be amazed at how much better your life is!' Love y'all....

Girl, law school is all f**ked up. I never dated anyone from law school. Some of my girlfriends did and towards the end EVERY SINGLE ONE of them vowed never to date law students or lawyers ever again. It's that bad. And frankly, I blame the men. I know that's not very fair or PC or anything but most of the guys in law school (and lawyers for that matter) think their sh*t doesn't stink. They were dorks in high school, got drunk and laid for the first time in college, and now think law school is their time to shine. It's not. They're still dorks and have no idea what respect for women is all about. Academically, professionally, or socially.

Okay, that's not true of every one of them but it's true of most of them. I'll go out on a limb and take the stance that male law students are in fact the worst specimens of the male sex alive. There, I've said it and I mean it!!

Geez, thinking about it just made my blood boil all over again. Who has that kind of power over me???

cc · Marc Jacobs

I guess I'll post an update in case anyone is interested, since I was one of the members of the spinsters club going all the way back to the Fashion Hag days. I'm still dating the boy who lives in France so I guess we've been together for about 5 months. He was back in the country for a few weeks in August and I'm going to visit him again in late October. We mainly just communicate by email which I guess is kind of weird but my last serious relationship was a semi-long distance one in college so I guess I'm used to not seeing my boyfriend all the time. Anyway, it's been going well and even though sometimes I get sad because of the distance overall I'm incredibly happy.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

CC- I was starting to wonder if you were still seeing the French guy. Thanks for the update. Share some more pics when you go in October with us!

lynnie · Chanel

blubirde wrote:

Dizzy wrote: Good idea Lisa - and I know what you mean about the grabbing. I find it's a certain type of comes-from-money-joined-a-frat-and-now-preys-on-girls-who-expect-a-boyfriend who does this most frequently. But there are some real creeps out there no matter the group. As for me, I'm still single and fending off the law school assholes. There's one who seems nice though, he's in teh environmental law society, which is good. And he's asked me out twice so far. We talk in the halls and stuff like that. But um, I'm really not feeling very trusting of ANY law students right now, so the most I've done is let him buy me a burrito. We'll see eachother at a wine tasting Thursday, so maybe we'll see then. But really, I suspect that no matter how nice they seem, any law school guy is just trying to hook up and then dump, for the ego trip. Oh, and Bluebirde, we had almost the EXACT same relationship - I stopped talking to my last guy too. This is so dorky, but if I'm handling it like you are, then I figure I'm on the right track. It's weird being sooooo new to the dating thing - this board is giving me a "normal" because law school is so weird that I can't use my classmates as a base point. And I feel the exact same way about what a dork he turned out to be! I mean, he has his good points, but he's pretty much just a total dumbass... And you know both of our cute little idiots are going to end up with girls who aren't HALF as good as we are. Because if you treat people like they do, then the only girls who will stay around you have very little self esteem, and a tendency to be a liiiiitle bit nuts. (which I think sets up a vicious circle, based on watching my guy friends date...) Anyway, good to hear that Crystal found someone to appreciate you - and Andrea Julie, you are too funny! You're so ladylike and "Well, we'll just see if he impresses me.." I need to learn that knack... And Leah sweetie - I'm so glad things are working out for you - be strong! In a year, you'll be amazed at how much better your life is!' Love y'all.... Girl, law school is all f**ked up. I never dated anyone from law school. Some of my girlfriends did and towards the end EVERY SINGLE ONE of them vowed never to date law students or lawyers ever again. It's that bad. And frankly, I blame the men. I know that's not very fair or PC or anything but most of the guys in law school (and lawyers for that matter) think their sh*t doesn't stink. They were dorks in high school, got drunk and laid for the first time in college, and now think law school is their time to shine. It's not. They're still dorks and have no idea what respect for women is all about. Academically, professionally, or socially. Okay, that's not true of every one of them but it's true of most of them. I'll go out on a limb and take the stance that male law students are in fact the worst specimens of the male sex alive. There, I've said it and I mean it!! Geez, thinking about it just made my blood boil all over again. Who has that kind of power over me???

HAHAH, i dont have much experience with this personally, but a guy from my HS that is a year ahead of me who thought he was the shit (1560 SATs, salutatorian (claims he was robbed of valedictorian because the v. took study hall, making his weighted GPA .01 higher), went to UVA, kinda good looking) is now in law school. Last summer, his sister (my lil sis's good friend) told me he got some internship and was making $3000 a week and buys the most ridiculous shit and is so arrogant now. HAHAHAHA, he has a serious gf, who is southern and EXTREMELY wealthy- he lived in her pool house during the internship. I would never date him, but at least he's becoming his definition of successful- I would just consider him an asshole if i saw him today most likely.

laken1 · Hermes

I love this post. I love hearing the good & bad of dating. Makes me somewhat nostalgic for my single days, then happy that I'm not! LOL

On the lawyer front, I have been laughing my ASS off over here. I was a business banker & I swear, they were the WORST about hitting on me, especially the married ones. I wrote it off to them being nerds in a previous life & thinking they were great now, so I tolerated it to a point since part of my job was to pull in new business....but any of them would have taken it to an inappropriate point & I always thought that was funny. Also, there was a nerdy guy in high school that hung out with us sometimes - i hate to say we "let" him because he could always get booze, but anyway, he went to law school & is a tax attorney & I remember thinking what a great catch he turned out to be...until one of my friends went out with him & said he was a complete ass & thought his shit didn't stink now. I just think it's funny how universal the male attorney thing is. And I don't say that to be ugly to the people with attorney husbands/dads/ boyfriends, my FIL is a very good attorney & my only hope for riches is our inheritance so....

bumblebee · Coach

you guys are funny. i work in an office full of lawyers (entertainment lawyers--the worst!) and i have to say you are on to something. i have one good male friend who was way cool before going to law school and he wasn't ruined by it, but most of the rest fall into the category bluebirde describes.

lynnie · Chanel

laken1 wrote:

I love this post. I love hearing the good & bad of dating. Makes me somewhat nostalgic for my single days, then happy that I'm not! LOL On the lawyer front, I have been laughing my ASS off over here. I was a business banker & I swear, they were the WORST about hitting on me, especially the married ones. I wrote it off to them being nerds in a previous life & thinking they were great now, so I tolerated it to a point since part of my job was to pull in new business....but any of them would have taken it to an inappropriate point & I always thought that was funny. Also, there was a nerdy guy in high school that hung out with us sometimes - i hate to say we "let" him because he could always get booze, but anyway, he went to law school & is a tax attorney & I remember thinking what a great catch he turned out to be...until one of my friends went out with him & said he was a complete ass & thought his shit didn't stink now. I just think it's funny how universal the male attorney thing is. And I don't say that to be ugly to the people with attorney husbands/dads/ boyfriends, my FIL is a very good attorney & my only hope for riches is our inheritance so....

..and theres always Sandy Cohen, hottest lawyer EVA! He's not real though

Andrea Julia · Coach

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-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 22:22, 2005-09-27

honey · Gucci

i'm currently seeing a guy named gmat. he's kind of a pain in the a** and requires large amounts of my time, but i plan to break up with him on 10/27 and start seeing other people. that is if he lets me go on my terms.

excuse my poor attempt at humor, but seriously studying is sucking up all my free time. i did manage to make out with my friend's brother -- not the best idea, but i blame that on excessive alcohol consumption. plus i needed a distraction from learning about data sufficiency.

dc · Dooney & Bourke

Aw, you're sweet to ask! As for the guy who admired my bulga, alas, it was not enough. He is aka "handshake guy," details in this thread:

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=44784&subForumID=102176&action=viewTopic&commentID=3904994&topicPage=1

Shame - cute and funny and good taste in music.

But all is not lost: have a date tomorrow night with a new guy. (Uh-oh... he's a lawyer! LOL...)

As for guys being grabby... who knows. Obviously, I have had quite the opposite as well (see above re: handshake), but I had two dates with one guy (back in July) who announced on the second date that, basically, if I wouldn't sleep with him, that was it. So... that was it! Needless to say, he'd been a bit grabby.

P.S. Lisa, glad to hear you've found a promising candidate - keep us posted!

-- Edited by dc at 01:05, 2005-09-28

janey831 · Kate Spade

dating is exhausting. and i'm only 23. i know it should be fun, but it's just too hard to meet someone that makes dating "fun". i feel so discouraged when it comes to dating, although in order to date i probably need to actually go out on dates.....which are hard to come by.

bumblebee · Coach

this is so funny. i started reading it and i was like "what are the chances that she would be dating someone with this name while actually studying for the GMAT--how ironic! i wonder how you pronounce "gmat"? as if it has a silent "g" like "matt"?" LOL--in the dictionary under "gullible," there's a picture of me!

honey wrote:

i'm currently seeing a guy named gmat. he's kind of a pain in the a** and requires large amounts of my time, but i plan to break up with him on 10/27 and start seeing other people. that is if he lets me go on my terms.

excuse my poor attempt at humor, but seriously studying is sucking up all my free time. i did manage to make out with my friend's brother -- not the best idea, but i blame that on excessive alcohol consumption. plus i needed a distraction from learning about data sufficiency.

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

bumblebee wrote:

this is so funny. i started reading it and i was like "what are the chances that she would be dating someone with this name while actually studying for the GMAT--how ironic! i wonder how you pronounce "gmat"? as if it has a silent "g" like "matt"?" LOL--in the dictionary under "gullible," there's a picture of me!

hahahaha, lmao at this! i was a little confused about the name gmat too- but what really threw me was when honey said that she was going to break up with him on october 27. i was thinking, "wow, she has a specific date in mind? why not just dump the guy now?" hahaha, i'm right there with you as the living definitition of gullible, bumblebee!

anyway, as one of the terminally single girls on this board, i thought i'd give an update on my status too. i'm technically unattached right now, but i've been talking to my ex-boyfriend a lot lately. (i know, i know! tsk tsk) he and i reconnected this summer and i saw him when i went home 2 weeks ago (we currently live on opposite coasts). i'm not sure if you guys remember my situation, but i decided to cut off contact with him for a while last winter. i'm still really glad that i did that, especially since he seems really different now. like he knows that he almost lost me, so he's showing/telling me how much he appreciates me now. anyway, we had such an amazing time together when i went home for a visit and we've been talking almost every day. i'm not sure what's going to happen with us (if anything), but i'm trying to just enjoy it for now. and i'm trying not to beat myself up for throwing away all the progress i made when i stopped talking to him for 7 months! ahhh, the vicious cycle! i think the difference now is that i know that i can be fine without him in my life. i don't prefer it, but if sh*t hits the fan again, i know that i'll be strong enough to walk away from him. i think he knows that too, so he doesn't have the upper hand anymore. whatever happens, i'm just enjoying the attention for now because it makes me feel good and i don't have any other boys to distract me right now! haha...

-- Edited by sfcaligirl at 18:33, 2005-09-28

-- Edited by sfcaligirl at 18:36, 2005-09-28