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tri_sarah_tops · Marc Jacobs

Really mad!

honey · Gucci

i'd be upset too. granted i'm a very private person, but i think in general it was not her place to announce it without at least checking with you first to make sure that it was okay.

Cricket · Gucci

Wow. Where does she get the nerve? I, too, would be upset. I think she needs to know that she committed a major faux pas. It was very unprofessional.

Elle · Hermes

I would be pissed!!!

Nobody but you has any right to spread the news about your pregnancy - especially this early in the game! The fact that it was a female officer makes is worse - does she have any kids of her own?

tri_sarah_tops · Marc Jacobs

LMonet wrote:

I would be pissed!!! Nobody but you has any right to spread the news about your pregnancy - especially this early in the game! The fact that it was a female officer makes is worse - does she have any kids of her own?

Yeah, she has two and she's been in the Navy for like 30 years! I can't believe that she didn't realize how unprofessional that was. What's really frustrating is that because of her rank the fact that I was upset about it will never be acknowledged or addressed.

Karina · Chanel

I would be very upset.

Elle · Hermes

Grrr - how extra-insensitive of her!!! IMO women who are mothers themselves have even fewer excuses in situations like this - she can't even pretend like she can't think of a reason that it's inappropriate!

For all she knows, you have had a terrible history full of miscarriages! Maybe you could tell her that, and use it as a reason why she should refrain from references to your pregnancy in the future? At least then it might make her question the stupidity of her announcement and make her feel like an ass!

If you can't tell, I'm terribly riled up on your behalf .

NCshopper · Hermes

Wow, that is horribly tacky of her! I think you have every reason to be pissed! She should have never said anything about it until she cleared it with you. That is especially weird coming from a mother who should understand a) that this is a sensitive issue and b) that you generally wait to announce until you're past your first trimester.

How weird of her. Is there any reason to think she would have said that to sabatoge you for any reason, or was she just really happy for you and couldn't keep the news to herself?

dc · Dooney & Bourke

WTF was she thinking? You have every right to be annoyed. I don't have any kids but even I know that it's not something one does - especially this early on.

Since it's personal and doesn't have to do with work, why can't you say something to her offline, so to speak? Is anything "off the record?" I know zero about the military, so pardon me if that is moronic.

erin · Chanel

i would be pissed!

something similar happened to me at work. i told my coworkers, but with the express thoughts that i didn't want to tell my clients until after i was finished with my first trimester. one day i called in sick, and when i came back my clients were all like "congratulations!" and i looked at them funny because i didn't realize they knew. it really annoyed me, because i was only about 8 weeks along at the time and i just kept thinking "what if something happens? i don't want to have to explain things to people i am not close with." i discussed this with the manager privately, but she still was telling clients! REALLY ANNOYING! thankfully i am almost past my first trimester and i started telling them anyways.

Sunshinegirl · Kate Spade

You can be abit miffed about it but let it go. I guess it's just me but as you get older, things like this just dont bother you as much. Sorry, it's probably not what you want to hear but she probably meant it to be an innocuous, nonoffensive comment.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I would be pissed. That is terribly innappropriate and unprofessional. And something that doesn't happen to men, btw "Dan had a vasectomy last week" is just nothign anyone is going to spread. The fact that she's in the military, with such strict ideas about professionalism just makes it worse. I just can't picture something like that coming up in a professional situation. Is this woman a problem in other ways?

atlgirl · Gucci

It was absolutely tacky and out of line for her to do that. I am angry on your behalf!

Some people are just happy when they're stirring things up for others; she sounds like one of these. I am sorry she did that.

rlutz · Chanel

You have every right to be mad....My boss told one of my clients a few weeks ago that I was pregnant...I was so angry because I was not going to tell people yet....so rude and inconsiderate...
trisarahtops, how are you feeling....

tri_sarah_tops · Marc Jacobs

Thanks everyone for being mad for me!

NCshopper, I think she's just really happy for me. It's kind of funny because she's been acting weird since she first found out. She was like, "Oh, I had a preminition you were pregnant!" WEIRD. Then when I told her my estimated due date she said, "No, you're going to have it on April 16th." Ok. But there is another girl who is also pregnant. She's a couple of months further along than me, and no one ever said anything about her. I've done some work directly for her and I think she really likes me so I know she didn't mean any harm by what she did but I still find it crazy that she would think it was appropriate to announce it publicly like that.

dc, I could probably say something to her offline but I feel that it would be better to let it slide. She seems like she'd be one to mix professional and personal feelings and I don't want to risk starting anything that could affect me professionally. Also, really nothing is "off the record." There are strict rules about how to speak to and address an officer and if I were to say something that she didn't like she'd probably go to my supervisor and I could receive a negative counseling, even if I were very professional about it.

Sunshinegirl, I know she meant it innocently. My biggest concern is just that it's still very early in my pregnancy and if something were to happen I don't want to have to explain it to everyone I know. I know she didn't do it out of spite, but I still feel it was unprofessional.

Dizzy, she is a problem in other ways. She's a micromanager and very involved in everyone's business. She seems like the type who would be the neighbor from hell, you know, the kind who always looks over your fence and then tells the neighborhood that your husband is an alcoholic after seeing him with a beer.

rlutz and erin, how are you guys doing? I am fine so far. I get a bit nauseous if I get too hungry and I'm tired all the time but I haven't been sick at all. I'm sorry to hear that other people were spreading your news too! I don't understand why people feel so compelled to share the information with everyone. I know it's pretty exciting, but there's no need to have to field questions from people you don't care about. Today some guy I never talk to came up to me and was like, "What are you hoping for, a boy or a girl?" I don't talk to him any other time so why should I have to talk to him about this? I just said, "I don't care," and walked away.