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Collette · Chanel

Feeling bad/loserish

valenciana · Dooney & Bourke

i think that's perfectly normal. while trying to cut the guest list down, i had been telling my mom over and over that i was fine with there being less people. in fact, even if there were only 30, as long as they were people i truly liked (vs. all the ones she wanted to invite), that would totally cool with me. then we started getting responses and i was like, oh my god, we only have 70 people coming so far! it was freaking me out and i was starting to get all secretly annoyed with these people. but then more people rsvp'ed and it was perfect because for the most part, everyone i wanted there was there. and everyone there really wanted to be there and was happy for us. if they would have spent the whole time going out to their car to listen to the game on the radio or whatever, who needs em?

but don't give yourself a hard time...your feelings are normal.

cc · Marc Jacobs

Does it make you feel any better to hear that I don't think I know close to 200 people? I think even if I tried to come up with a list of 75 people I'd been including a lot of relatives that I never see and don't care about so I think you should feel really popular!

jj · Kate Spade

200ish out of 250 is great! There will always be those people who decline for the strange reason, like a football game, and the ones who give you weird gifts.

I remember my mom INSISTING I had to invite a distant cousin and her husband, and I caved. They RSVP'ed no, saying they weren't comfortable flying after Sept. 11 (I got married in 2002). A month after my wedding, they flew to Hawaii for a vacation But I got my way and had fun teasing my mom about it!!

Escrime · Kate Spade

Don't feel bad at all! like jj said, 200 out of 250 is a great number!

It could be worse: My mother in law from hell gave me her list at the beginning of our planning process, and she assured me that these people were coming. Combined with my family's list, mine and DH's list, and her list, we had about 275 people (100 for hers).

Guess how many people from her list showed up? FOUR!! Including her and her husband and DH's grandparents, there were EIGHT PEOPLE from her list of 100!! even though she SWORE up and down these people were coming so I would have to cater to their needs, as well as my other guests (she didn't like the idea of Vietnamese food at the reception).

ILoveChoo · Hermes

I think that's a fantastic number! And now I feel loserish because I didn't even have close to 100 people I would consider inviting (if I really wanted to, I might be able to come up with 100 but even that would be a stretch...)

nunzi182 · Kate Spade

I invited 187 people (including my family and such). We just sent the invites out so I'm not sure how many of those are coming. I'm in the opposite situation, I wish people would decline because our list got way out of hand for what we wanted! I wouldn't feel bad about it though, just be thankful that you know the people that are there want to be there.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

Don't feel bad at all!! Sometimes people have conflicts, but all of the people that reall matter to you and Jim will be there. That being said I have been to weddings with 150 people and ones with 600 people and I always like the smaller (100-200 people) weddings because they seem more intimate and you get to know people that you may not have ever met. You also get more time with the bride and groom. I know when my day comes I like 150 sounds like a perfect number (although most of those people will have to come from my bf's huge Italian family seeing as how I don't know enough people that I would want there).

Of course, if you just want some bodies in the seats I am a big fan of the Sofitel...maybe Vanessa and I can stop by, hee-hee:).

Collette · Chanel

Farrah wrote:

Don't feel bad at all!! Sometimes people have conflicts, but all of the people that reall matter to you and Jim will be there. That being said I have been to weddings with 150 people and ones with 600 people and I always like the smaller (100-200 people) weddings because they seem more intimate and you get to know people that you may not have ever met. You also get more time with the bride and groom. I know when my day comes I like 150 sounds like a perfect number (although most of those people will have to come from my bf's huge Italian family seeing as how I don't know enough people that I would want there). Of course, if you just want some bodies in the seats I am a big fan of the Sofitel...maybe Vanessa and I can stop by, hee-hee:).

OMG Farrah I know you were sort of joking but we actually do have a ton of space left. We have to pay for a minimum amout of people anyhow may as well have people there enjoying the food we paid for! If you guys would really want to come I would love it! Seriously. IM me if you don't think I'm completely nuts.

Claudia · Gucci

Don't feel bad the same thing happened to my sister. I prefer intimate weddings.

For my wedding, I only want 60 people! My very very good friends and immediate family. (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents) If not, my list would be like 200-300. I hope they dont think I'm snotty if theyre not invited. :S

but thats a long way from now. *sigh*