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itsapinkthing


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Ok so I know I have a lot I should be grateful for but I'm falling into a funk...

I am having a very hard time dealing with losing my figure during this pregnancy. It seems to be happening so much faster this time. I've heard that's typical with second and consecutive pregnacies. Last year I worked very hard to lose 40 pounds. I'm almost 15 weeks, and I've gained 15 pounds. This kind of gain should happen in the last trimester, not the fist two. I feel like I have no control over my body! My current condition does not allow me to excercise, which brings me to the next topic...

Everytime we see a doctor they tell us more things that need to be monitored or are concerning. The blood disorder I have requires daily injections, I hate needles. I'm taking 7 pills a day for various reasons. I am going for my 4th ultrasound tomorrow to monitor a cyst which may require surgery in the next month. I feel like I have less energy ever consecutive day, by this time I thought this would pass.

Then I worry all this, and my feeling down regarding it is affecting my daily relationships. My poor husband has dried more tears in the last 4 months than the whole time we've know each other. I hardly socialize with family or friends because I just want to hide.

I really want to feel better. I want to have a 7 month hard round belly and a normal pregnancy. I want to not worry about the health of my unborn child due to all the pregnacy complications. I want to have the energy to enjoy walking to the park and playing with my daughter without my whole body hurting. I want to feel good enough about myself to wow my husband behind closed doors again.

Sorry I guess I just needed to vent, thanks for listening.

-- Edited by itsapinkthing at 22:01, 2005-08-25

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I am sorry for all you're going through. I have known a couple of people who had difficult pregnancies, and it can be rough.


I don't know a lot about pregnancy, so take this with a grain of salt, but do you think your hormone levels might be affected by the pregnancy and all the medication? (Obviously pregnancy affects your hormones, but I mean more so than usual?) Weight gain coupled with feelings of sadness sounds like a hormone imbalance to me -- maybe your doctor can help.


Whatever happens, I hope you feel better.



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Aw, {{{{{hugs}}}}}}} to itsapinkthing!!  That's so rough.  I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time.  Vent all you want here!  Pregnancy can do weird things to you, even it's a completely stress-free pregnancy, so I can't imagine all of the stress you are under right now. Hang in there and definitely talk to you doc, like Halleybird said.

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((hugs)) i'm sorry you're going through all this. i'll keep you and my family in my thoughts.

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poor thing!! i'm so sorry sweetie!  feel free to vent all you want.  you and hubby and gabby and baby will be in my thoughts and prayers.  and remember--we are here for you!!



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((((hugs)))) I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this, that's so rough. Know that we are all here for you whenever you need to vent. I'll keep you and your family in my paryers.

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I can really feel your frustration coming through your post... I am so sorry. 


Never having been pregnant, obviously, I don't know how that feels, but we are here for you and it sounds like you have a wonderful husband.  It's got to be so hard to have a baby - something not all of us can take on - and you should be proud of how strong you are, even if you don't feel so toguh right now (you are!).  I am sure that you look beautiful, but I know that it can be hard to process that when you're uncomfortable and suffering complications.  You definitely need some "me" time - do not feel like you are being selfish or letting anyone down by wanting to hibernate.  Do some nice things for yourself - be it a pedicure, facial, or a pregnancy massage... or mustering the energy to get out of the house & sit on a park bench and chill with a fruit smoothie and a good read.  (Is pregnancy yoga out of the question? I don't know how limited you are physically, but it mgiht help you to relax and to feel in control of your body - even if you just get a DVD and do whatever movements you can manage).  Don't be afraid to ask your dear husband to help you by going out for a treat or watching your daughter while you decompress, take a bubble bath, or whatever. 


Sending positive vibes your way - Keep us posted!



-- Edited by dc at 14:21, 2005-08-26

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Hugs baby.  I do understand what you're going through but try to focus on the issue at hand, and that the sacrifices you are making now are for your little girl to come into this world happy, and most importantly - HEALTHY.  Worry about losing weight later. 


Look at you - you're already in the 2nd trimester! That means a lot.  You and the baby will be fine.  Please try not to worry so much.


XOXOX



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  I'm so sorry you're having a rotten time lately!  But you definitely shouldn't feel bad about having a little pity party--I have one every now and then and I'm not even pregnant! 


I agree w/  dc--go out and do something that you enjoy just for you.  A manicure, a pedicure, facial, haircut, massage, just do something that will make you feel good. 


Also, since you hate injections, is there anything you can do to reward yourself afterward so you don't dread them as much?  I'm thinking like you know how when you're a kid and you go to the doctor and you get a shot, you can get a lollipop or a little toy afterward?  You could associate something fun with getting your injections--like you get to watch Oprah afterward, or read your favorite magazine, or have your husband take care of your daughter for an hour--that way you don't dread them daily.


And definitely don't worry about the weight.  You'll get it off later. 


Feel free to vent any time!  Hope your day gets better! 



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iam sorry you are having a hard time just remember we are all here when you need a women to talk too, i gained my weight fast with my son 6 years ago and i felt like the blimp- lol not sure why but it was probley because i ate three meals a day and drank more milk and all that and I never ate like that before. Yes d/c is right treat yourself and get pampered being a mother and carrying a baby is something i think is a mirarcle  in its self and  you desrve it. i think pregrant women are beautiful in my book- and having alone time is perfect for anyone heck i still need it and iam not ashame to tell my hubby- lol- i hoe this helps keep us posted- hugs and kisses

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