I don't know what is wrong with me lately, but I am starting to dislike jeans. I have been wanting a pair of skinny jeans, but I haven't been able to go anywhere to try any on, but I sort of dread it when I do. Lately, when I wear jeans, they make me feel fat. I am not fat--I am 5'6" tall and weigh 123 lbs (size 6). I am happy with my weight and size, although I do wish my stomach were a little flatter sometimes. I guess everyone has issues with themselves. But, when I wear jeans, they just make me feel fat and are not comfortable. They make me feel like my stomach is sticking out. Some of it could be because I wear alot of dresses and skirts. I don't want to dislike jeans, because they are very stylish. But, I am starting to think I am going to have to find a different type of casual wear. Does anyone else feel this way about jeans? I just needed to vent a little. Thanks for listening (er, reading )
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Jeans are so tricky. When I find some that work well, I feel great in them. But there are a LOT of duds. The worst is when I pull on a pair that I *thought* were awesome, then see myself in the mirror or in a picture and realize they are NOT that great after all. I find skirts to be much easier to find some that fit and flatter how I want them to.
One thing that I've found that has helped me look more reliably good in jeans is to wear longer tops, ones that are more tunic-length. It seems like with shorter tops, I feel like my hips, butt, and gut are all accentuated in ways I don't like. With tunic-length tops, the line just looks cleaner or something.
(and since I wear longer tops now, I almost always wear an invisibelt too - gets rid of that fake stomach bulge that some belts can give under tops.
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Maybe experimenting with different fits would be a good idea, bloomie. For example, if you have a longer torso, it might be better to look for jeans that have a little higher rise. Another thing is looking for jeans made in that lightweight denim, instead of super thick or hard washes. More comfy, still jeans. Finding the right store/label is super important too. Good luck.
I went many years without wearing jeans at all. I didn't even own a pair. They are durable and practical, but I agree, I don't think they're all that comfortable either. They are heavy and often stiff. And it's hard to find a pair that looks great and doesn't cost two weeks' worth of groceries.
I think it's entirely possible to live a full life without jeans. Khakis (in whatever color) are a great alternative and almost always look more polished than jeans. In the fall/winter there's soft corduroy.
The worst is when I pull on a pair that I *thought* were awesome, then see myself in the mirror or in a picture and realize they are NOT that great after all.
Oh man, I hate it when that happens. And then you're back to the drawing board, over and over again. Bah!
Jeans are really tricky all the time, but especially when there are trends pushing jeans in the exact direction that doesn't suit you at all. I'm with Su - look into some denim-alternatives while you continue to look for jeans you like. I've got a pairs of navy and tan khakis that I often wear instead of jeans - it's less boring that way!
Are there specific issues you're having with fit we might be able to make suggestions for? Or brands you've already tried that haven't worked?
-- Edited by Elle on Sunday 26th of September 2010 03:42:18 PM
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I can relate - I think the important thing is that not everyone looks good in every pair of jeans. It takes me a year to find a pair I like on me, then they get worn in and they are perfect and then they sag out and I start my new quest.
My fave was the skinny that Banana Republic makes but now they're revamping the line and I've heard crappy things about the new styles.
I'd say the trick is just KNOWING that it is hard and not expecting to like the first 5-10 pairs you try on.