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Bastet · Kate Spade

RE: Missed opportunity

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

I regret:

1. Losing touch with old friends.

2. Staying with a very abusive guy through college. I missed out on a lot for fear that he would beat me up if I came home too late.

3. Spending money I shouldn't.

small fry · Chanel

Wow I have a alot of regreats but lets see if I can narow them down some

getting married at a very young age to my first husband and staying with him for all the wrong reasons

not be able to speak my mind and be strong with my first husband

not finishing college and getting a degree

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

esquiress wrote:

i missed out on talking to this oh so cute boy last friday. so frustrating. the night's over, we're walking to our cars, up this hilly sidewalk (oh reference for the cali girls: we were @ hermosa beach), and he's walking down the sidewalk and we just connected and stared at each other for a good minute but then the moment passed, i walk up, he walks down and not a word was spoken. i've been calling him "eye contact boy" and bothering my friends about him (asking stupid q's like do you ever think i'll see eye contact boy again? jeez leweez, i am such a cheeseball!). the thing is i was out w/ work friends (as opposed to my friends i usually go out w/) and by that time of night i was just not really on top of it so that probably contributed to it all. oh well. if it ever happens again, i'll ask for directions, what time it is, whatever. so it's a lesson learned. c'est la vie and au revoir to eye contact boy!

lol, i didn't realize how old this thread was until i saw my post! i've been racking my brain for the past five minutes trying to remember who the heck "eye contact boy" was! So maybe the opportunity wasn't worth experiencing since I couldn't even remember it. I gotta say I think I missed the call of the question with this one. Maybe because I don't really think like that, like life's not like a Choose Your Own Adventure book, you know? You can't have an experience, see how it turns out and then go back to the same moment in time to pick something else. Imo, if there's some experience that I feel like I really want to have, there's no reason I can't recreate it. For example, I never studied abroad, but I'm spending a month in Paris this fall that's going to be so fabulous and I don't have to study while I'm there! woohoo!

Renee · Kenneth Cole

I regret breaking up with this boy at 19. I still wonder how it could have been... And I know he's still single

Also I love my husband but feel I didn't date enough. We've been together for 7 years!!! I feel like I've only become myself in my mid-20s and by that time I was already married

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

I was with an abusive guy in College and I missed out on dating 3 really great guys because I didn't want to leave the "psycho" I thought I could "change him". We ALL know how that works out.

1. A really cute, sweet guy I went to college with. He always asked me to go out and I always said no because of psycho. Later, he ended up dating one of my college friends and I was always so jealous and wondered "what if".

2. One day I was driving and almost hit this hot guy in a corvette. We stopped to see if everything was ok, and he started flirting with me and asked for my #. He even called and asked me out, I said no because of psycho.

3. This one is the worst because I hurt my family. It was my Uncles 40th birthday party (my family is very close and we always celebrate birthdays, especially the big ones) I decided to stay home with psycho because he didn't like my family. It made my mom and grandma cry and I will forever have a sad, guilty feeling in my heart when I think about that. But on the lighter side of this event, my Uncle has these friends that are brothers and the youngest one is a little older then me and I had always had a crush on him. My mom told me that at the party he was asking about me and was bummed I didn't come because he wanted to hang out. I think she might have just said that to make me feel guilty about not coming, but again I always wonder "what if"

But, in the end, I ended up becomming such a strong person and learning so much about abuse and how to treat people and be in a relationship. And now I am happily married to my soul mate. But there are always the "what if" moments.

-- Edited by Luv2Shop at 13:44, 2006-06-29

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

My biggest regrets right now are:

1) I didn't really want to go to law school, I wanted to get an MBA, but my ex and I talked about it and decided law was more family friendly, and would allow me to stay in the area where his family lived. Then he moved out the first damn week of law school.

2) I REALLY didn't want to go to school in Indiana, but my ex wouldn't move away from his family. Did I mention he moved out the FIRST DAMN WEEK?

So those are my two biggies, but every other regret I have also involves doing something for someone who didn't feel obligated to take care of or consider me at all. And it's funny how women just sort of feel like we have to, like it's so normal that of course our sacrifices will be rewarded because everyone else would do the same for us in a minute.