STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

janey831 · Kate Spade

RE: NEW ST'er of the week: LILYKIND!

shopgirl82 · Chanel

wow, it's great to know more about you...

i never knew i was surrounded by such intelligent people (GATEstyle), i knew you all were intelligent

here's my questions:

what do you think are the challenges of dating such an older guy? (i'm all for the older men, my bf is 5.5 years older than me, so you definitely have me beat!)

what is the most romantic thing that he has done for you?

what are your nicknames (why'd you pick Lilykind as your name?)

gypsyfreak · Coach

Who is your style icon?

What is your favorite song right now?

Describe your perfect day.

Lilykind · Hermes

what's your favorite childhood memory?

My sixth birthday was the best ever. My parents let me invite all my friends from kindergarten to my party. I got so many presents...we had the best entertainment ever in the form of Bozo the Clown. My mom made a three layer cake with a fountain underneath...it was soooo gorgeous. I also got a bright, shiny new swing set that was the coolest thing ever back then. I loved it...it was one of the best days of my life. Life was so much more simple and easy....ahhh nostalgia.

best vacation you've ever been on?

Montreal when I was 16...so many first experiences were there...my first drunken exploit, for one. We were there to study Quebecois culture and learn more about the demographics of Quebec. It was so much fun...there was lots of drinking, pub crawling, shopping, sightseeing...and since I was 16 it was that much more fun.

do you have any recurring dreams?

They are not interesting and I never remember them after I wake up. They're different every time, though. Sorry to dissapoint.

favorite ice cream (blue bell) flavor?

IMO Blue Bell is so perfect there is no need to mar vanilla with cookies, chocolate, or candy or whatever they put in every other ice cream to make it taste good. But I love Cookies and Cream and Blue Bell does make the best one I've ever tried. How can Oreos and ice cream not co-exist in bliss? It's like cookies and milk for when it's hot outside.

Fave Ben and Jerry's flavor is Half-Baked but if I ever try that Mint Chocolate Cookie flavor that I've been banning myself from that will probably change.

Sooo... Garden State - best soundtrack ever right

One of the best. But zach Braff has great taste...he did such a great job putting together these songs that just work so harmouniously. He would be a great music supervisor if he wasn't so brilliant as an actor/write/producer/funny blogger. Mandy Moore is so lucky to have him.

Please elaborate (I know you've already been asked) on sex being overrated. Because I'm of the mind that it's underrated. More people should be doing it and people should be doing it more often. Hell, I should be doing it right now.

I'm inexperienced and I have a low sex drive, mostly due to dusigusting amounts of unneccessary stress I put myself through. So Crystal's issue also applies to me.

First album/tape/cd?

Celine Dion, Falling Into You...no I really iddn't admit that, did I?

I wasn't allowed to have very many CDs growing up so I played the heck out of the ones I had. I didn't get good ones until my brother and I secretly joined the BMG club where they mail you CDs with that 12 CDS for the price of 1 thing or whatever. My mom would've flipped if she found out we were spending money on CDS, but that's my mom for you. We didn't even try to get the hardcore stuff...

Television show you watched as a child that you still have warm fuzzies for?

I want to ride the Neighborhood Trolley in Mr. Rogers! But I want it to go to more stops than the Land of Make Believe...because I thought they were weirdos.

Also, my enthusiasm for life peaks whenever there is a Surmfs special on. They're making a movie to be released in 2008 and I am SO EXCITED!

Having also grown up in the GATE program, didn't you think it was a load of crap?

Yeah it was...but it was fun at the same time. By the time I was in 6th grade it was like a tween girl fest of boys, periods, and silly dirty things we knew very little about. We would talk over breakfast or ice cream provided by out teacher and do silly things like make bridges out of toothpicks.

I co-wrote a play during GATE with a good friend of mine in 4th grade and we won honorable mention when we entered it in a competition.

Oh and to top it off...6th grade independent study was on FASHION. The History of Fashion and Social Issues in fashion. I started my research in the 1600s and finished around the Victorian era. I also did a "special case study" on sweatshops, most notably the Kathie Lee Gifford and Kathy Ireland scandals (this was 1997...bear with me)

Who is your style icon?

Coco Chanel because she was so independent and groundbreaking...she thought to do things when no one else would. Plus her design talents are nonparalleled.

What is your favorite song right now?

Crazy Frog - Axel F.

Describe your perfect day.

It's in New York or London.

Start with a lovely breakfast early in the morning after having a most restful night's sleep so I'm ready to face the day ahead. Then I will be at a museum (any will do, really) and spend time there until a lunch out with friends (very...uhhh...'ladies who lunch'). Then the afternoon will be spent shopping and in a perfect world, there would be no traffic as I would be teleported between stores. Dinner would be at swanky place nearby the theater where I will watch a great play or musical. After that there's drinks and dessert.

NCshopper · Hermes

Hey, I was a GATE kid too! I don't remember much about it except that every day the GATE kids went outside to do math while the other kids did math inside. It was kinda weird.

Anyway, what is the coolest place you've ever been to?

sfclinevandy · Coach

What would be your perfect meal?

Your top 5 favorite movies?

dot · Marc Jacobs

Everyone asked such good ones already.

Dream vacation destination
Dream job
Most embarassing moment

poptart · Coach

To: Crystal and Lilykind
Re: Good news about sex

I think you might find that sex seems less over-rated when you hit your later 20s. Can anyone back me up?

Just thought I'd encourage you to, um, carry on.

crystal · Kate Spade

Lisa wrote:

To: Crystal and Lilykind

Re: Good news about sex

I think you might find that sex seems less over-rated when you hit your later 20s. Can anyone back me up? Just thought I'd encourage you to, um, carry on.

haha, ok good, well i'm almost there then.... just turned 24 & i've only been at it for 6 years so thank you for giving me hope!

HeatherLynn · Gucci

crystal wrote:

not wanting to hijack the post in any way, but just wanted to add 2 things: 1. i actually agree w/ lilykind on the sex thing, but i have a feeling i know why & it has to do w/ a certain key element that i have NEVER experienced... (i know i need to work on that & i've got no one to blame but myself!) 2. as a GATE kid myself, i wanted to say i totally agree w/ you, blubirde!

Not to hijack this thread either but I agree about sex being overrated. I am also in my early 20's which may be why and the fact that I am still missing a certain key element too. Glad to know I'm not alone Crystal!!!!

Lilykind-

What is your favorite outfit to wear?

Lilykind · Hermes

what do you think are the challenges of dating such an older guy? (i'm all for the older men, my bf is 5.5 years older than me, so you definitely have me beat!)

Honestly, I think it's easier to date my BF than it would be to try and date someone my own age. All the guys my own age either don't like me because I'm not a lollipop or I'm so smart I scare the shit out of them. They all seem to have inferiority complexes or something, so I generally stay away from them.

But it's very hard for us to not be able to go to lots of 21 and up venues, because I certainly don't do things most 20 year old's do and I have a lot more respoinsibility than most of my friends who are the same age as me.

Also, a lot of our friends don't understand it. I think this is the most difficult thing. His friends believe I'm older than I actually am and I don't want to ruin the illusion...again, it's really frustrating to explain to people that yes I went to college early and then have the obligatory "OMG you're like a genius/prodigy right?" discussion which would then turn into a let's-accuse the BF of dating a 16 year old four years ago. Some of my friends don't get it because he's in the same age range as some of their parents (in one case I was 17, my friend was 14 and telling me that her parents were 31...at the time my BF was 30). I think age is just a number and not something that people should bind to so many landmarks in life...like you don't have to go to college at 18, you don't have to be married by 25, you don't have to have kids by 35 or something.

It was much harder when I was 16/17 and he was 28/29 though because at the time our relationship was for all intents and purposes statutory rape. I think that may be one of the dumbest laws ever created though.

what is the most romantic thing that he has done for you?

My BF is an inverterate (sp?) dork, as am I...his attempts at romance are cute but they don't always work out. I need to think because he's never been a super-romantic person. I mean, I'm dating a huge comic book geek.

what are your nicknames (why'd you pick Lilykind as your name?)

Nicknames through the years have pretty much amounted to

Sandy (You can ask my mom why she wanted to name me after Sandra Day O'Connor)

Daisy (My best friend and I wanted to give each other alternate names...more reflective of our personalities than our given ones. Plus my mom grew flowers outside our house and they always were at the peak on June 15, my birthday...they're really one of my favorite flowers)

The Walking Encylcopedia/Walking Dictionary (I was and still am a treasure chest full or random factoids and have a knack for spelling. Unfortunately, I don't really have a knack for typing, hence the amount of typos that riddle my posts. I apologize)\

I created Lilykind as a sort of 'alter ego' when I was 15 for Internet purposes. My best friend Holly introduced me to this online game called Utopia where you had to create a kingdom and defend yourself against hostile kingdoms and. I wanted to have a sorta-medivalish and clearly feminine name. My favorite flower at the time was the calla lily (hence Lily) and I just tried to add something to make the name fuller...so I added 'kind'. And there you have it.

what is the coolest place you've ever been to?

There is a national park located somewhere in Thailand that I went to on a road trip with my relatives. It is the most brilliantly green place on the planet...with the most luscious bright fuschia flowers and a waterfall that is like the scene in the Lion King where 'Can You Feel The Love Tonight' is playing...just the most romantic, breathtaking place on Earth. Of course, I was there with my FAMILY at the ripe old age of 13. So...uhhhhhh

When and if my BF will ever be able to deal with the plane flight, we are going back and I will find that place again.

What would be your perfect meal?

It would start off with lovely wine...I can't match wine to food for crap (haven't had much practice...bear with me) but whatever works with whitefish will be fine. So the main meal would be whitefish in a light sauce (maybe lemony-citrusy) with whipped potatoes and sauteed veggies.

Dessert would be something truly rich and luscious like this chocolate hazelnut torte I had once with ice cream...mmmmm...But I would happily take a cannoli if nothing else is available.

Oh yeah...and eating dessert would mean losing weight.

Your top 5 favorite movies?

Sound of Music

Network

A Walk To Remember (ok you can laugh! I promise! But every time I watch this movie I am crying uncontrollably halfway through!)

Shrek (really IMO one of the most well-disgusied corporate disses ever)

When Harry Met Sally

Dream vacation destination

Can't I just say around the world? It's too hard to pick!!!!

But if I can only pick one place, I want an island all to myself and BF somewhere in Fiji or Tahiti. We'd be able to explore all around the island and swim in the gorgeous water and see the pretty palm trees. I guess I could see them in Los Angeles...but the ocean water and the beaches aren't nearly as pristine.

Dream job

There has to be a job out somewhere in which I get paid to talk to kids about the funniest things ever. Like I want to be Bill Cosby talking to the kids from 'Kids Say The Darndest Things'. All of my favorite kids are just the funniest things ever...I could talk to an outgoing kid about hte mnost random things for hours and hours and play with their toys and yeah I really would like to be 9 again because this time around I think I could have more fun than I did during ym own childhood.

Most embarassing moment

I am a dork/klutz/ditz and I embarass myself on a daily basis.

But the most embarassing one was in 6th grade...bad year socially for me...I was too awkward and smart and pimply and my clothes were from Caldor and Burlington Coat Factory...

One day I was running late and I didn't know what to wear so I just picked up a faded pair of jeans off the floor to wear with my sweatshirt. And I was trailing a piece of dirty underwear all the way from my house to the bus stop onto the bus all the way to school and all the way into the classroom until someone called me out on it right before the Pledge. Then they told the whole class and...well when you're 11 and shy and try to avoid people at all costs, to have people seeing your dirty underwear is...well yeah that's the only bad one I can think of.

What is your favorite outfit to wear?

I like a good 65 - 70% of what I own so that's hard! Right now I'll pick what I wore last Friday because I really like that outfit. But I'm a Gemini and my mood changes all the time, so as that happens my taste changes along with it.

kenzie · Chanel

HeatherLynn wrote:

crystal wrote: not wanting to hijack the post in any way, but just wanted to add 2 things: 1. i actually agree w/ lilykind on the sex thing, but i have a feeling i know why & it has to do w/ a certain key element that i have NEVER experienced... (i know i need to work on that & i've got no one to blame but myself!) 2. as a GATE kid myself, i wanted to say i totally agree w/ you, blubirde! Not to hijack this thread either but I agree about sex being overrated. I am also in my early 20's which may be why and the fact that I am still missing a certain key element too. Glad to know I'm not alone Crystal!!!! Lilykind- What is your favorite outfit to wear?

Not trying to highjack the thread either, but I'm with Lisa. I'm heading into my late 20's and it's much better now than it was before.

Lilykind, how did you find FH (I would say ST, but I know you were on FH)?

Lilykind · Hermes

NylaBelle wrote:

how did you find FH (I would say ST, but I know you were on FH)?

I was just surfing the net Christmas break of my junior year in college. I got bored of all the music site I frequented and decided to take a mini-romp over the to Lucky message boards, which I read when I was bored but never posted because of the snarkfest. I read so much stuff about how FH was so great and all the girls were awesome that I lurked around for a couple of days and joined. It wasn't a habit at first but once I got to know everyone and saw how nice and helpful and fashionable everyone was, how could I not become totally hooked?

And thanks to all the girls reassuring me that my sex life isn't doomed!

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

NylaBelle wrote:

Not trying to highjack the thread either, but I'm with Lisa. I'm heading into my late 20's and it's much better now than it was before.

well, i'm only 23 and i definitely don't think that sex is overrated- but i'm aware that i haven't hit my peak yet, so it's encouraging to hear that it will get even better!

i think that in order to really enjoy sex, a variety of factors need to be working in your favor: it needs to be the right person, you need to relax and just let yourself enjoy the moment (it's no fun if you're always worrying about the end result- or lack thereof! ), and you can't be afraid to, ahem, explore things on your own every once in a while so that you know what works for you. (is that getting too graphic? sorry!)

i think that worrying about having that "end result" is the main thing that prevents it! (does that make sense?) i have a lot of friends who used to put waaaay too much pressure on themselves and then they'd get frustrated and start to think that it would never happen. and it always did eventually- once they stopped trying so hard! so relax.... and have fun in the process!

ETA: sorry for officially hi-jacking this thread!

ETA again: lilykind, i know you have a long-term boyfriend- i wasn't implying that he wasn't the right person for you in my post! i think it's completely possible to be with the right person but still not be able to... you know. it's a very personal thing that a lot of women have to figure out on their own. sorry, does that make any sense? i just didn't want to offend.

-- Edited by sfcaligirl at 14:46, 2005-08-12

-- Edited by sfcaligirl at 14:56, 2005-08-12

Lilykind · Hermes

sfcaligirl wrote:

ETA again: lilykind, i know you have a long-term boyfriend- i wasn't implying that he wasn't the right person for you in my post! i think it's completely possible to be with the right person but still not be able to... you know. it's a very personal thing that a lot of women have to figure out on their own. sorry, does that make any sense? i just didn't want to offend.-- Edited by sfcaligirl at 14:46, 2005-08-12 -- Edited by sfcaligirl at 14:56, 2005-08-12

It totally makes sense...I've been thinking about this seriously since BF and I have always had a very strong emotional connection and we're very attuned to each other in every way but sexually. Although I do attribute a lot of it to my total lack of experience (he's my first, gimme a break), and that's partially my own fault for not taking the initative to explore my sexuality.