I figured, since I always post when I'm upset at him, you ladies don't hear about the good things that he does, so here's a post about that.
Monday night, he was very cranky and irritable b/c he's been getting these headaches. Needless to say, he wasn't the most pleasant person to be around and he was a little snarky with me. We got into a little spat about money (basically having to do with buying food...I usually am the one who buys it, even though I make no money right now). He went for a walk to blow off steam, came back, and apologized. Then, last night, he came home with juicy steaks for dinner and then he cooked dinner all by himself (usually I cook). I thought this was very nice of him to stop by the store, buy some steaks and then cook them so I didn't have to.
He's also been much better with the idiot ex-roommate situation. The old roommate literally calls every weekend, several times in a row. Actually, he usually starts calling on Wednesday night to try to get my bf to hang out with him on the weekend. He's already called about 5 times this week, three times last night. Anyway, my bf hasn't seen him in almost a month (maybe what I've been saying about him being a toxic friend is finally sinking in...not to mention how crappy he (the old roommate) treated me). My bf has also been avoiding his phone calls and trying not to hang out with him as much. He's been hanging out with other friends, who aren't nasty to me and who don't turn him into a drunken fool. I think this is a big step for him in getting rid of this loser and things have been so much better for us lately. It's back to how it was before that infamous SuperBowl incident.
Just thought I would share and let you know that he's not a complete moron or anything and he does have a very strong good side.
Glad you are sharing something good. This is why I don't share negative things wtih family - they never forget! If you are like me you need to vent when you are unhappy but no one hears the good things. I think the fact that he is staying away from the toxic friend is a good sign. Good luck!
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Hey Nyla, I have to say it's very nice to give your guy some props!! Guys have a tendancy to only think of themselves most of the time and the fact that he cooled off from your spat and did something nice to make ammends is really pretty big of him!
I know how tough the "toxic friend" situation is and it sounds like your guy is growing up and out of that time when you let your friends coax you into things. Maybe from the stalker-esk way the ex-roomate is calling and persuing your guy, he is finally seeing that obviously no one else wants to hang with this guy, so maybe he shouldn't either.
I have to say that for the girl in any relationship getting rid of the "toxic friend" is a VERY tedious and annoying process because it usually causes TONS of fights each and EVERY time your guy is with that person. Getting rid of that toxin is, no pun intended, a breath of fresh air!!
Hope things stay on the up and up with you two! (The $ fights are no fun, but everyone has them) Keep your head up and keep showing love to eachother!!
oh, that is so sweet. i think you're right though, in the midst of relationship problems, it gets harder to see when your SO does something sweet for you, not matter how big or small. i know in the past, i've neglected to see the sweet things that my ex did, just because of the problems we were having and because they weren't 'Hollywood' style attempts at romance. anyway, happy for you!!!
I think him taking a walk and coming back and apologize AND THEN doing something proactive about the situation the next day is a really great quality/trait to have. And it's good he's avoiding that toxic friend, too. Now if only he'd dump all his toxic friends!! And buy you very expensive gifts and take you on fabulous trips to Rome and give you mind-blowing sex every, single time and cook 5-star meals every night and chaffeur to to and from work and... well, I suppose there's no such thing as perfection - although god knows I wish there was!
I think him taking a walk and coming back and apologize AND THEN doing something proactive about the situation the next day is a really great quality/trait to have. And it's good he's avoiding that toxic friend, too. Now if only he'd dump all his toxic friends!! And buy you very expensive gifts and take you on fabulous trips to Rome and give you mind-blowing sex every, single time and cook 5-star meals every night and chaffeur to to and from work and... well, I suppose there's no such thing as perfection - although god knows I wish there was!
good for you! and your boyfriend. it sounded like he handled himself well (and you got a steak dinner out of the deal!) i hope it continues for you!
toxic friends are bad... i had to cut one out of my life in the past year and it is hard to do. good for your BF for continuing to disregard his "friend" calling...