STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

tara t · Marc Jacobs

i have a confession.

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

I am really not familiar with your situation, but the referring to your SO as "butthead" and referencing a "big fat mistake" that he made flashed at me like big red beaming lights. You may be a really forgiving person, but people who make "big fat mistakes" often tend to make "big fat mistakes" again and again. Hope he's worth it.

Tati · Chanel

I dont know the situation either, but have you heard about Jude Law and Sienna's issue? men like that will never learn! sorry. like I said, I dont know what the "big mistake" is, but it seems to be that. just think about it long and hard, dont get hurt again.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

Tara I vaguely remember what was going on when you broke up with him so that said just remember the past enough to know if you need to get out again but I believe in some second chances and I don't think he did anything that didn't warrant another chance so hopefully things will work out one way or another for you.

Luv2Shop- Butthead was a term that came about after a stupid fight when she posted about it and someone referred to him as a butthead and it just kinda stuck. I don't think she started it but that is how we all know who she is talking about so you don't need to worry.

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

i think i remember--you found some email he sent to an ex right? but other than that one email i really don't remember any "jude law" issues so to speak.

whatever, tara t, i think you should always do what's best for you and if you and butthead can work on it and become stronger for it, then kudos to you both. and if it doesn't work, then it doesn't work, just listen to your gut and you'll be fine.

as for us--it's cute that you feel like you have to give us the scoop, i feel special! just know that all of us here are savvy enough to know that no one knows you and him better than you and him, so never fear, no judgment here, ok?

Maddie · Coach

I would tread carefully. I remember the issue, but I'm sure you know what's going on much better than I do. If I recall correctly it was a little more than just a random email to an ex. But you know what's going on more than we do. Do what you think is right, but try to be cautious and don't throw yourself into something without really thinking it through.

Andrea Julia · Coach

I'm totally disappointed. I remember the issue clearly because it really brought back bad memories for me. He doesn't deserve your forgiveness. However, I hope with all my heart that things work out for you and it was truly a bad mistake.

kenzie · Chanel

I remember, too. Good luck, tara t. I completely understand wanting to work things out with someone. My bf and I are doing the same thing (as I'm sure you already know). Keep us posted on the situation.

jess · Kenneth Cole

Andrea Julia wrote:

I'm totally disappointed. I remember the issue clearly because it really brought back bad memories for me. He doesn't deserve your forgiveness. However, I hope with all my heart that things work out for you and it was truly a bad mistake.

My sentiments exactly. I really felt for you & felt angry for you too! I do hope that things work out for the best. If you guys are going to try & move past this, you have to both give it your all & try & leave what happened in the past. Its the most difficult thing to "try & work things out," when something like that has happened. Were your friends upset?

blubirde · Chanel

I remember the issue pretty clearly, too, and like some of the other girls, it brought back some bad memories for me also.

I also forgave my bf (at the time) after something similar happened to me. It was rough but we worked it out. We had some great times after that. However, we ended up breaking up anyway some time later for the very same issues. I felt really stupid for awhile after we finally broke up because I knew he was capable of something like that but in retrospect, everything played out as it should have.

I think people deserve second chances sometimes too. Third and fourth however? Not so much. But the thing is you know y'all better than anyone else does so you gotta do what you gotta do.

It's really easy for us to say what you should or shouldn't do. It's harder to be there and experience everything, ya know? And I'm like esquiress, I feel privileged that you wanted to keep us up-to-date! And like her, no judgment here.