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Kenneth Cole

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Well, Tuesday night when I got home (my boyfriend was out again), I moved all of the clothes/bathroom stuff/shoes I would need into the guest room/bathroom on the other side of the house.  I just thought it would be way too hard to stay in the room with him, and I would probably not be able to sleep because it would just upset me too much.  I was exhausted from not sleeping the night before, so I went to bed kind of early.  I'm not sure when he got home, but it was probably around 11 or 12 again.  Well, he got home and just went straight to bed, and the next morning, got up, got ready and left without saying a word.  And I haven't heard from him since.  No e-mails, no calls, nothing.  I got home at about 10:00 last night after meeting with some potential roommates, and he didn't even turn his head when I walked in.  I went straight to the guest room, and he just went to bed.  And again this morning, he just got ready and left, I didn't even see him.


And I just got an e-mail from a counselor we've been seeing on Saturdays, it's actually a group meeting on Saturday mornings that we've been going to, and, he told him that he won't be there.  I wasn't going to go if he did, but, it still hurts that he responded to him and that he won't be there.  I really thought he would want to go.


I just feel like he just is done with me, and just doesn't care at all.  He just is going on with his life already, and is probably happy that he doesn't have to deal with me.  Even though I don't want to be with him anymore, it still hurts to know that he doesn't even want to talk to me.  This is the longest we've ever not spoken or e-mailed in 3 years.  I guess the last things said will be in anger, and the last thing I have to remember is him yelling at me for cleaning up and organizing the mail.


More mind games and more mental abuse, and even though I recognize it, it is sure working!  I just don't know how I'm going to get through these next few weeks.  I need to find somewhere to live, and I'm not having any luck with that either.  This just sucks!  I do feel better being after venting though!



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Marc Jacobs

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oh beachgirl, you poor thing!  i so hate him for you right now!  and i know what you mean about mind games working even though you recognize them.  just stay strong, you're destined for better than this, you know you are.  just have faith and keep on keeping on.  we are here for you! 


also, where do you live?  maybe one of us who lives near you can help w/ the roomate search. 



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Coach

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(((big hugs)))

Beachgirl, this must be so incredibly difficult for you. I got so sad after reading this post - I think I am just sad about the situation and about how he treated you. We are all here for you and we know that you will find someone who treats you like the wonderful person you are.

Hang in there!

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Chanel

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Can you move in with a friend or your family for a while?  No one wants to deal with that, and he is being really insensitive and cold.  My friend had a really bad breakup (screaming, him getting a new gf within a week) and it would have been so much better if she had washed her hands clean of him and got away asap, not answering any of his phone calls or seeing him on occasion.  As painful as it is, this will be so much better in the long run because he's not convincing you to come back to him, thus playing on all your weaknesses, and is instead giving you more reasons to be done with him.  I'm sorry though 

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Chanel

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so sorry to hear about what your going through. try to stay strong and positive (especially in front of him)

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Coach

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I admire your strength in ending a long relationship when you see that it is bad for you, not all people can do that. I am sorry he is being an A-hole right now, but things will get better!

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Dooney & Bourke

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I am so sad for you, too!
Wow, that is tough.

If I were you, I would try to keep as busy as humanly possible. Lean on your friends and family as much as you can, even if you have to do it over the phone. Surround yourself with positive things, the people you love and the things you love (even though it might not sound appealing).
Also, don't let him see you upset (or see you at all, if possible — maybe it would be good for him to wonder where YOU are sometimes).

Hang in there, sweetie.

Someday, this will all be behind you and you will be on top of the world!!
You will.

You'll get there. I know it's unthinkable right now, but it will happen.

Take care, kiddo.

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I'm so sad for you too - this is so hard, i know. I know it doesn't help 100% for us to keep telling you that you deserve better, but boy, it is SO TRUE. I always think you can tell so much about a person by how they handle a break up, and he is definatley showing himself unworthy. When similar things have happened to me in the past I look back on it & think - how lucky was I to be rid of someone who could be that cold. I hope you can look at it that way & know that he doesn't deserve you. You need to get out of there & heal & you are going to be SO MUCH BETTER. We are thinking of you {{{{{hugs}}}}}}}


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Marc Jacobs

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What a jerk! I am so sorry you are going through this! I hope you can find somewhere else to go. But if not, be strong! You're going to come out of this just fine, and he will still be a total creep. Hang in there!

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Chanel

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i'm so sorry! i can't imagine having to live with the person you're breaking up with, especially in your situation. it must be so terrible. but you know what? he's making it easier for you. the jerkier he is and the meaner he is, the more you know you're doing the right thing. think how much more difficult it would be if he was apologizing, begging, being sweet, etc.


and you do deserve so much more. he's a bad person, plain and simple. you don't deserve to be surrounded by bad people. you are so much more than that.


(((hugs))) soon things will start getting better.



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