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bex · Chanel

so blue...

Prissy · Dooney & Bourke

Bex you are definitly having a bad week and I am so sorry to hear that. It's always good to get your feeling out though. I understand you don't want to talk about it but maybe you should share your feelings with someone who really knows what your going through. Possibly someone who has been in your shoes. I went through a world wind of terrible things in a short period of time not to long ago and I found the best people to talk to where those who had been there. I'm sure you have a lot of friends in your corner but I would lean on those who have been there before. You may not think you need to talk to anyone now but trust me it will be worth it in the end. Big Hugs!! :)

bex · Chanel

hey prissy- thanks for the thoughts. i guess i should have said that my two dearest and best friends called me last night to talk. i just am tired of talking about it out loud... does that makes sense?

XtinaStyles · Marc Jacobs

Ugh that is horrible - I have nothing really of value to say except hang in there, be strong :\

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

I'm so sorry Bex. I do understand when you say you are tired of talking about it outloud. It's like re-living the sadness over and over. It sounds like you are having a really stressful time because these things are happening when you are really busy and don't have time to just take a time out. Something I can suggest: When you do get a free day or couple of days, USE THEM! Take some mental health days and stay in your jammies, rent some mindless movies, take some long hot showers, and indulge in whatever your comfort food is. If your husband is feeling similar, maybe share these days with him. Take the time to cuddle with eachother, play some silly games. You both need to take your minds off all the things that have happened and "rest" after the shock of these losses.

If you find it hard not to talk about what has happened, maybe take some time to remember, or honor the people you have lost, instead of talking about the details of the losses. I don't know if you believe in God, but if you do you can pray for the families. If not then talk about happy memories, maybe send a nice card to the families.

It is completely understandable that you shared what you are going through with the people you are training. That is a tough job especially when you have to do it for days in a row with no break. Death is a very rough thing to go through mentally and hopefully soon you can take those "mental health" days and rest and regroup.

Again, I am so sorry for what you are going through, and the families who have lost thier loved ones. I hope you feel better soon.

Boots · Gucci

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. One is bad enough, but handling two deaths at the same time is just awful.

I understand the need to vent to somebody who doesn't know you well. It's easier than having to rehash the same points over and over again or feel like you are "bothering" somebody with your feelings (if they are friends, I'm sure you aren't but I know it can feel like it.)

The worst thing I think you can do is to shut down or ignore the pain. Let yourself feel however you want to feel. Plus, take care of yourself and your husband. Eat well. Exercise. Do something to take your mind off of it for a little while (watch a favorite movie or TV show or read. Anything that lets you escape for a bit.)

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

-- Edited by Boots on Wednesday 6th of January 2010 11:44:07 AM

ico · Dooney & Bourke

bex wrote:

hey prissy- thanks for the thoughts. i guess i should have said that my two dearest and best friends called me last night to talk. i just am tired of talking about it out loud... does that makes sense?

I think it makes prefect sense: you are just sick of hearing all that, even if it comes from you.

It's been a hard couple of days for you. I am really sorry, and I hope you are feeling better.

I can only agree with all the other girls said, and suggest to take it easy and take care of yourself!

ranchera20 · Marc Jacobs

I'm so sorry bex :(
There's not much I can say to make you feel better but just know you, your family and close friends are in my prayers.

bex · Chanel

thanks all~ i appreciate your kind words and prayers...

Suasoria · Chanel

(((Hugs)))

I definitely think it would be appropriate to tell the trainees "Sorry if I seem off my game, I had some bad news about a relative yesterday. So, today we're going to..."

One thing I have learned from my own losses is that you can never judge yourself for how you might be feeling. Don't let that internal voice tell you that you "should" or "shouldn't" be feeling such-and-such a way. Grief is strange. We grieve how we grieve, and it's all normal.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

((((((hugs)))))

member · Hermes

Aww bex, I'm so sorry for your losses. If you're feeling blue and need a friend, I'm right down the road for you

Hermes

Can't add to the advice already given, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your losses -- that's a lot to deal with in a short period of time.

NCshopper · Hermes

Lots of hugs, bex. That's a lot to go through at one time.

carmenb513 · Coach

Sorry to hear...........Good to ummm see you on the board. I haven't been around as much as I'd like.

bex · Chanel

thanks guys again for all of your kind words. i am doing much better. i had a sales conference that took me out of home and my husband met me there after the conference and we spent a relaxing weekend together... it was just what i needed and am coping much better now...