This happened to me. My ex's redneck sister (the family was nice but she was trash) got divorced after 6 months. I gave her a nice platter from Neimans... I didn't get it back and didn't expect it back. BUT the least Redneck Paige could have done was send me a thankyou note, which she never did.
erin wrote: this is sort of awful, but when my sister got married, i told my dad if they didn't last a year, i wanted reimbursed for my bridesmaid dress.
I was shocked when I heard the news of the divorce, but I'm over it. (Almost.)
Thanks for all your replies. Upon reflection I realize that whatever the rules of etiquette might say, this is a painful situation for all. I wasn't invited to the wedding (held in Europe) but DH and I got an announcement afterward. I didn't feel obligated to send a gift, but I sent one because I do wish them the best. I don't expect the gift to be returned, and I think what I would really like is some kind of an explanation of how this could happen, yet I also absolutely feel that the couple doesn't owe anyone an explanation.
My husband has a friend who lived with his girlfriend for two years before getting married, and that marriage lasted less than a year. I just don't understand how a couple could apparently be so close, yet not be able to last until their first anniversary. I suppose there are more extreme cases out there--people who live together for years, have children, then get married, and--kaput!
And I will live with that lack of understanding. It isn't any of my business.
Still, I am left wondering--how could this happen?