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RyanJ


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My bf's family is (almost certainly) moving to Knoxville, Tn in the fall. His dad is being transferred for work. His 16 year old sister does not want to go and if she stays will live w/ my family. I get along w/ her really well and I know she is a little excited that she gets to live at my house.

My first question is just in general how do we make her comfy and feel welcome? Is there anything we should do? She knows my parents, but isn't close w/ them or anything. Her and I are fairly close, but that doesn't change that she is living in a non-realitives house.

The second question is should we decorate her bedroom/bath before she moves in or let her decorate it? I thought it was be nice for her to come and we already have a bedroom decorated for her. I thought that might make her feel a little move welcomed. But she would probably also like to decorate her own room.

Any advice or help anyone could give would be great. Thanks!

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That's really great of your family to let her move in with you.  I would decorate the room for her - I wouldn't think to ask to decorate 'my room' if I was living with non-family.  Other than that, I would just ask her if she needs anything alot - eventually you'll break her (I always say 'no, nothing' just to be polite and because I don't want to be a burden).  Invite her to do stuff with you.  And give her some time - she'll settle in once she's been there for a few weeks.

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Maybe ask her if she wants to bring the stuff from her current home with her. I know if I was going to live in someone else's house, I'd be most comfortable surrounded by my own things. As a teenager, I'm sure she's got a ton of stuff...so maybe give the room a fresh coat of paint and let her make it her own.

OR, if her family is setting up a room for her in the house they move to, offer to go shopping for room decor with her. If she arrives to a room in your house already set up, she may always look at the decor as YOURS. If she picks stuff out herself, she may feel that it's more of HER space.

Just some thoughts. It's incredibly kind of you to care so much for her comfort.

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First off, I agree that it's super nice of your family to let her stay there!


I'd say make sure its freshly painted, but then offer to go with her to pick out stuff to decorate and make it "hers"... I'm with LMonet that I would usually just say "whatever, I'm ok" to be polite, but I think I would love it if you actually brought me out and made an activity of it. Plus, it'll give you time to get to know her better.



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