STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

bri · BCBG

lemme hear whats GOOD about the single life...

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

I haven't been single in a while, but when I was I sure did like to be able to smooch anyone that I wanted;).

itsapinkthing · Coach

not single, but at times here's what I miss

~ no agenda, go out come home, be spontaneous, no one waiting for you or to run plans by

~ the excitement of meeting new people and learning

~ dancing til dawn with your girlfriends

~ being able to sit quietly and cintemplate without some asking "what's wrong?"

~ no asking for you to put their heavy ass keys in your purse

~ not having to watch sports you don't want too

~ making eye contact with every cute guy in the bar...beacuse you can

Collette · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: Farrah
"I haven't been single in a while, but when I was I sure did like to be able to smooch anyone that I wanted;)."

I haven't been single in a looooong time and I agree with Farrah, being able to smooch who I wanted.

Wearing really baggy sweats around the house and not worrying that I've worn them like 5 days in a row

Being able to fart whenever I damn well please and not having to worry about polluting his air

Noone to hide my excessive shopping from

Hitting the bars with my girls every weekend

Seeing chick flicks and never having to watch anything with Schwarzenegger in it EVER

Not having to pretend like I care what's on the History Channel ( seriously I'd rather watch Real World) reruns

Ok I have to stop or people are going to think I don't like being in a relationship.

crystal · Kate Spade

ok, so i AM single, and some of the things i LOVE about it are:

1. talking to guys & not worrying about leading them on or having to tell them u have a bf

2. definitely agree on the smooching

3. reading in bed w/ the light on & not having to go to sleep when ur not tired

4. hitting the clubs, dancing, meeting new guys, getting free drinks, etc.

5. girls only stuff like shopping, spas, whatever

6. going on dates to expensive restaurants (usually this dies down when u r in a relationship & u end up eating fast food or cheap stuff all the time)

7. not having to pretend i care about sports, rock climbing, sky diving, collectibles, history (i hear ya collette!)

8. not having to shave every day!!!

9. wearing super cute/sexy outfits to go shopping, out to eat, etc. & not having to worry about attracting attention

10. having the bed to myself!!!

i swear, all us single STers need to have a gathering... we'll have a day of shopping & a night of clubbing, it would be awesome!!

CarrieS · Marc Jacobs

I agree with all of these, and I'm so up to a single's night out!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

not having anyone to answer to.

not having to compromise.

not having to put up w/ someone else's moods.

not having to worry about how my actions will affect "us"

not having to think in terms of "we" all the time.

not having to have someone else's life decisions affect my life.

not having to explain myself.

flirting to my heart's content.

reveling in the possibilities ("hmm, maybe i wanna marry a doctor, no a businessman, no an artist, no a movie star!" etc...:P)

basically, imo the best part about being single is having the freedom to put yourself first without having to feel bad about it.

Vanessa · Kate Spade

I agree with esquiress. In one word: FREEDOM!! I was with someone six years and let me say, I enjoy being single as much as I did being part of a couple.

I love having final say in everything, trivial or not: choosing the food, the bedtime, the decor, the outings, the movie.
I love spending time by myself. I am the best company :)
I love not having a commitment but still reaping the rewards - wining, dining, new shows, movies, smooching, etc. etc. ;)
I love the endless possibilities that await me.
I love flirting back and not feeling remorseful.
I love having time to do the things I really love to do.
I love doing whatever I want with my money without fear of being judged.
I love the lack of drama - no one's feelings are getting hurt, no one is compromising, no one is talking about "the future".

I was at a party last wkd and I must've talked/flirted w/20 guys, danced with three and smooched one. The best part is not having to ever see any of them again. Haven't had fun like that in a while!

mikacat · Coach

being able to buy what i want and spend my money the way i want to

reading/ sleeping with the light on

being able to eat what i want without compromising

kissing anyone --

more energy--where did it go

skinny body--where did it go??

-- Edited by mikacat at 16:59, 2005-05-27

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I love this thread! Thanks for all your answers ladies.. Ok - here's mine:

1) Not having someone messing up my things! This bears repeating: NO ONE TOUCHING MY STUFF - I did not realize how much I hate this until this year, when I no longer come home to a new mess every night - mysterious stains on the couch, a brozen zipper on my Jeep window, documents stamped "IMPORTANT - IRS" stuffed in the trash with the junk mail - now there's no gross sweaty boy rolling in my sheets and making them feel icky even when they were just changed the day before - no gross sweaty boy scratching his balls on the couch - no gross sweaty boy leaving dirty dishes all over the house (and even hidden UNDER THE KITCHEN SINK) - Y'all, my ex was a damn slob! Now my house is a zen haven, always vacuumed, always clean, always smelling good. It's lonely, but I had no idea how much nice space affects how you feel about life.

2) Realizing that I get hit on all the time - everyone flirts! It's funny how when you're in a relationship you don't see it at all... So now it's this whole new world and even ordering coffee is fun every morning. I love watching the guys get all nervous and excited about talking to a cute girl. Hell, I love being a cute girl instead of someone's mom (I'm not literally a mom - I just felt like my exes' mother)

3) Not having to take care of someone else. Not having to answer to someone else. Not having to deal with someone else's shit. I had no idea how often my life was consumed by "Jon, you have to do blah blah blah...or some bad thing will happen..." Then he wouldn't do it and I would nag and nag and nag and then the bad thing would happen and I would yell at him and then I'd have to fix it and it was all this huge drama cycle that is just GONE now.

4) Having more options. Before, I had to stay in a certain area of the country, and configure my life around what he was willing to do. Now I can just pick whatever I want - anything that sounds fun - and there's no one else to worry about.

blubirde · Chanel

GOOD THREAD!!!

I agree with everything everyone else said. I'd like to add:

~ Not having to comfort anyone else (I HATE a SO's drama - can't stand the whining, the crying, the anger, etc.) and I don't have to deal with anyone but me now. This sounds really selfish but it's true. I don't mind helping friends or "being there" but I can't stand being one person's sole source of support.

~ Having "me" time. I get home in the evenings and if I want, I don't have to interact with anyone else. There's no one there to bug me or to insist I run errands with, etc.

~ Doing whatever the hell I feel like! Yeah! If I want to watch stupid tv shows, I don't have the hear it. If I want to listen to crappy dance pop on the stereo while I get ready in the morning, good for me. If I want to drink wine and read a book wearing nothing, I don't have to worry about fighting someone off. It's heavenly!

~ My friends. Being single allows you to cultivate and focus on friendships, rather than boy/girl relationships. It's probably the single best thing about being single.

~ Beauty. I get to focus on me. I have time to take bubble baths, to give myself a facial, deep condition, etc.

~ I'm more of a whole person. I have hobbies and interests I get to focus on instead of a boy. I have thoughts about real things and real conversations - all because I don't have to spend so much of my time concerned with someone else or thinking about the relationship.

~ Drinking, dancing, smooching, living it up!!!! There's no party like a single party - fo' sure!

halleybird · Hermes

I haven't been single for 10 years, but I have to wholeheartedly agree with this one...

quote:
Originally posted by: itsapinkthing
~ no asking for you to put their heavy ass keys in your purse

or the cell phone!

I'll also add:

-watching movies where things don't blow up

-nobody saying, "you don't need another ___"

-being able to decorate your house/apt. however you want

and I think the best part is...

the mystery of not knowing when/how you'll meet your soulmate, what he'll look like and be like, etc.