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Metric · Gucci

embarrassing sex question!

Karina · Chanel

may or may not be for you.. im just throwing ideas out there.

-dressing up

-roleplaying

-threesomes

-different positions

-sending yourself and SO on a surprise weekend getaway

-toys

blubirde · Chanel

Ahhh... the sex-o-meter. And it's totally not an embarassing question. There are always times in a relationship where sex gets mundane, ho-hum, and boring. Or you just plaine old don't do it that much anymore. (I was in a 5-year relationship so I know of which I speak.)

One of my secrets for spicing up the sex life was to think about it. I'd plan something special, like a nice dinner (or even just pizza and some wine). I'd think about sex all day long and then when the time came, we'd both be pretty crazy. And if you have one or two nights like that, it's like an energy pill infused into your sex life. Everything starts getting a little more exciting and entertaining.

Other tips: Go out to a bar or club and pick each other up. It's silly and fun but effective!

Go out to a bar or club with a group of friends and don't wear any undies or something and tell your SO right before you meet to join the group - so much fun!

Get a hotel room for a weekend. Nothing like a big, naughty king-size bed to spice it up.

Go to a sex store and pick up some videos or toys or maybe a sexy game or piece of clothing to wear.

One time I also tried this thing I read in some magazine where you couldn't have sex until like 7 days had passed or something and each day you were supposed to do something instead that built up to sex. Like the first day was touching non-sexual areas and nothing else (not even kissing). The second day was kissing only. The third day was above the waist. I don't remember all the days but by the 7th day we were rearing to go!

Hmmm... sure wish I had a bf to go home to tonight!!!

bex · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: BrazenCanadian
"After you've been with someone for awhile (like 6 years, in our case) any ideas on how you can keep things exciting? I'm pretty much open to anything as long as it doesn't involve other people or the ...ahem..."back door"."

thank you for posting this! we have been together for 3 years and literally have sex like 4 times a month because we are so bored with it and are tired from our jobs...

doesn't that suck????

Metric · Gucci

bex- ugh...yes. that is exactly what we are going through, too

splash · Kenneth Cole

Yes, thanks for asking! It's been on my mind too.

Cosmo's website has quite a bit of this stuff. Don't know how creative it is, though.

Building to it, like blubirde described, is good too. And different locations.

blubirde · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: splash
"Yes, thanks for asking! It's been on my mind too. Cosmo's website has quite a bit of this stuff. Don't know how creative it is, though. Building to it, like blubirde described, is good too. And different locations. "

Ugh - have y'all actually read any of Cosmo's advice? The tips and tricks in there are so complicated I feel like a failure when I can't accomplish them correctly! I mean, seriously. Not only do I have to look at size -4 models who are airbrushed but I also have to twist myself into a pretzel attempting to rub one of his nipples, balls, and lick his ass all at the same time! Give me a break. If I want to know how to blow just the right amount of mentholated air onto his, ahem, while I'm giving him the best, ahem, he's ever had (I won't even go into all the stuff my fingers are supposed to be doing!), I'll go to a real expert for advice, like Sue Johansson. (or however you spell her name - the Sunday night sexpert on Oxygen)

jacL · Coach

I had to smile at your question, because i think a lot of people in general have similar concerns but a lot of people don't want to admit they are not currently having a great sex life. Anyways, I too am in a six-year relationship and the sex is still great, but it comes and goes...great, then boring, then great again...I think everyone had great ideas (i should try some out myself) but i would suggest toys (especially handcuffs or a scarf) and also maybe different rooms in the house. Have fun!

splash · Kenneth Cole

quote:
Originally posted by: blubirde
"Ugh - have y'all actually read any of Cosmo's advice? The tips and tricks in there are so complicated I feel like a failure when I can't accomplish them correctly! I mean, seriously. Not only do I have to look at size -4 models who are airbrushed but I also have to twist myself into a pretzel attempting to rub one of his nipples, balls, and lick his ass all at the same time! Give me a break. If I want to know how to blow just the right amount of mentholated air onto his, ahem, while I'm giving him the best, ahem, he's ever had (I won't even go into all the stuff my fingers are supposed to be doing!), I'll go to a real expert for advice, like Sue Johansson. (or however you spell her name - the Sunday night sexpert on Oxygen)"

lol, the little bit of cosmo's stuff i've read was both basic and doable... but i haven't read much of it.

Karina · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: blubirde
"Ugh - have y'all actually read any of Cosmo's advice? The tips and tricks in there are so complicated I feel like a failure when I can't accomplish them correctly! I mean, seriously. Not only do I have to look at size -4 models who are airbrushed but I also have to twist myself into a pretzel attempting to rub one of his nipples, balls, and lick his ass all at the same time! Give me a break. If I want to know how to blow just the right amount of mentholated air onto his, ahem, while I'm giving him the best, ahem, he's ever had (I won't even go into all the stuff my fingers are supposed to be doing!), I'll go to a real expert for advice, like Sue Johansson. (or however you spell her name - the Sunday night sexpert on Oxygen)"

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!

sephorablue · Marc Jacobs

blubirde that was F-ING hilarious. One of my guy friends was permanently scarred from the one time he picked up Cosmo out of curiosity, started reading the sex tips, and screamed in horror when he read the part where the girl was supposed to stick her finger you-know-where.

RyanJ · Coach

quote:
Originally posted by: bex
"
thank you for posting this! we have been together for 3 years and literally have sex like 4 times a month because we are so bored with it and are tired from our jobs...
doesn't that suck???? "

4 times a month- I would kill to have sex once a week. I can't even remember the last time and we are only 23. Man, my life is sad.

blubirde · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: sephorablue
"blubirde that was F-ING hilarious. One of my guy friends was permanently scarred from the one time he picked up Cosmo out of curiosity, started reading the sex tips, and screamed in horror when he read the part where the girl was supposed to stick her finger you-know-where."

heehee!!! I just wrote this whole thing about guys and their asses but then I deleted it because I'm just not sure if this is an appropriate forum for that kind of talk. Suffice to say, sometimes my fresh manicure is more important than almost anything else.