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kenzie · Chanel

I'm seriously going to lose my mind.

carmenb513 · Coach

Do you like the company you work for? If it's just the location can you ask for a transfer? I hope your string of bad luck goes away real soon! My friend has been having a hard time finding employment, but I find with him is that he doesn't look for a job as if the search itself is a full time job.Something will come up!!!!!!!

P.S. Tell your boss to beat it! I hate when people think because you are salary you should sign away your life.

kenzie · Chanel

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Originally posted by: carmenb513
"Do you like the company you work for? If it's just the location can you ask for a transfer? I hope your string of bad luck goes away real soon! My friend has been having a hard time finding employment, but I find with him is that he doesn't look for a job as if the search itself is a full time job.Something will come up!!!!!!! P.S. Tell your boss to beat it! I hate when people think because you are salary you should sign away your life."

No, I hate the company and I hate the field. I despise retail and never planned to work in customer service of any kind when I graduated from college. And my boss wouldn't transfer me anyway b/c there aren't any positions open for my position in any other locations. I keep telling her how bad it is there and that we need a full-time security gaurd, but she doesn't listen.

Karina · Chanel

HUGS babe. . you know i feel the same way.

Hopefully some good employment karma will be coming our way

Elle · Hermes

There comes a time when you have to take a leap of faith. When BF gets his new job, would he make enough to support you for a little while until you can find something else? Can you start saving a little bit of money now so when you quit it will cushion the blow a bit? Depending on your state laws, you might be able to quit and still get unemployment if you can prove it was an unacceptable work environment. You know you can't stay there - you are slowly killing yourself and they don't deserve the time and energy that you are expending on their behalf. Get out now while you still can. Something else will come along.

(((((((((NylaBelle)))))))))))

honey · Gucci

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Originally posted by: LMonet
"There comes a time when you have to take a leap of faith. When BF gets his new job, would he make enough to support you for a little while until you can find something else? Can you start saving a little bit of money now so when you quit it will cushion the blow a bit? Depending on your state laws, you might be able to quit and still get unemployment if you can prove it was an unacceptable work environment. You know you can't stay there - you are slowly killing yourself and they don't deserve the time and energy that you are expending on their behalf. Get out now while you still can. Something else will come along. (((((((((NylaBelle)))))))))))"

i couldn't agree with this more. i've been kind of hesistant to weigh in on this b/c i've felt it's a tad irresponsible to encourage someone to quit there job, but honestly you should. your sanity and safety are so much more important than any job, and it really sounds like this woman is driving you crazy. i would suggest looking into unemployment and see what kind of documentation you need to provide to show that your work place was unbearable and you were forced to quit. also talk with your bf and your mom (iirc she lives relatively close by) i'm sure that some sort of solution can be worked out so that you can take some time off and evaluate your next steps. hang in there, i know things will get better for you.

kenzie · Chanel

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Originally posted by: honey
" i couldn't agree with this more. i've been kind of hesistant to weigh in on this b/c i've felt it's a tad irresponsible to encourage someone to quit there job, but honestly you should. your sanity and safety are so much more important than any job, and it really sounds like this woman is driving you crazy. i would suggest looking into unemployment and see what kind of documentation you need to provide to show that your work place was unbearable and you were forced to quit. also talk with your bf and your mom (iirc she lives relatively close by) i'm sure that some sort of solution can be worked out so that you can take some time off and evaluate your next steps. hang in there, i know things will get better for you."

I wish that I could just quit. I'll look into unemployment, but I have far too much debt (student loans, credit cards, ect) to not work. My mom can't pay my bills and I don't want my bf to have to deal with that, either. Quitting just isn't an option at all, which makes me even more depressed. And right now, I use all of my extra money to sink into jewelry design. If I don't have a job, I can't finance that, either. It's just an utterly depressing situation. I'll try to look into unemployment, but that really doesn't seem like a viable option.

honey · Gucci

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Originally posted by: NylaBelle
"I wish that I could just quit. I'll look into unemployment, but I have far too much debt (student loans, credit cards, ect) to not work. My mom can't pay my bills and I don't want my bf to have to deal with that, either. Quitting just isn't an option at all, which makes me even more depressed. And right now, I use all of my extra money to sink into jewelry design. If I don't have a job, I can't finance that, either. It's just an utterly depressing situation. I'll try to look into unemployment, but that really doesn't seem like a viable option."

this is why i was hesitant to get involved. when i say "quit" i don't mean just never show up to work again. i meant it more in the sense that you should start thinking of exit strategies above and beyond simply looking for another job. i understand completely that you can't just leave, but maybe there are ways you can save up some extra money so that 2 or 3 months you can quit and take some time to just clear your head. iirc, your bf owns the house you live, could he maybe cut you some slack on the rent, or worst case scenario you can move in with your mom.

i've been in the situation where i felt completely trapped by my circumstances, and the only thing that worked was taking a gigantic leap of faith in the direction i wanted to go in. and just letting things fall where they may. granted it definitely wasn't easy, but it was so worth it, and to this day i don't regret my decision.

bumblebee · Dooney & Bourke

i hear your frustration (((hug)))

just my 2 cents, but much like honey, the one time i took an absolute leap of faith and quit a soul-sucking job before i had anything else in place, i can honestly say that it was the very best thing i ever did for myself. i was really scared and my parents and friends were vocally against it, but i landed on my feet quickly and the boldness of the move gave me confidence to branch out in a new direction. it really helped to have the time and freedom to figure out what i would rather be doing. and you are lucky that you have nearby family (and boyfriend)--they aren't going to let you starve ;)

kenzie · Chanel

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Originally posted by: bumblebee
"i hear your frustration (((hug))) just my 2 cents, but much like honey, the one time i took an absolute leap of faith and quit a soul-sucking job before i had anything else in place, i can honestly say that it was the very best thing i ever did for myself. i was really scared and my parents and friends were vocally against it, but i landed on my feet quickly and the boldness of the move gave me confidence to branch out in a new direction. it really helped to have the time and freedom to figure out what i would rather be doing. and you are lucky that you have nearby family (and boyfriend)--they aren't going to let you starve ;)"

Again, I'll say that I would love to this, but I have to have health insurance (I have asthma and allergies and cannot go without insurance). My mom doesn't live close enough for me to actually move in with her and there are no job prospects where she lives at all. My bf already cuts me slack on rent, but when we move, the rent is going to go up. I have quit a job before that was sucking the life out of me (a serving job during my last semester of college) and it took me months to find a new one (I went completely broke and my mom went into major debt trying to help me). That's how I ended up stuck in retail--I couldn't find anything else. I just can't quit, not even in a few months. I would have to save up tens of thousands of dollars to do that just to be able to pay bills (I still have debt from the last time I was unemployed as well as from my college days).

Thank you all for your opinions and I do understand where you're coming from, but it just isn't going to work. I have to find another job before I quit this one. If anyone has any job ideas/fields/things that I could do (other than looking for a pr/marketing job), I'm open to ideas. Right now, I'm really trying to focus on jewelry design. I'm hoping that I can get that going enough so that I can get a part-time job in non-profit development or marketing (just enough so I get insurance and am doing two things I love). But without my current job, I have no money to fund the jewelry design, so that would make me more miserable. Again, any other thoughts are welcome and thank you for your help.

trixie · Kenneth Cole

Nylabelle - I'm so sorry to hear of what you're going through! It just pains me to hear how miserable you are. I just exited a job that was going south for me (ironically a retail job!), so I know a little of what you're going through. It is tough to just quit when you have all the bills, but you should really put all your anger and frustration into finding something new if possible. The other girls are right - your sanity and health are way too important.

Anyway, what part of the country are you living in now? I have an interest in non-profit work too and in college, I worked part time at a music school. Is there anything like that near you where you could work in development or marketing for a non-profit? Any major businesses or corporations near you that have a community relations type of dept.? That isn't exactly non profit but a lot of times those departments spend a lot of their time giving money to the community and working with community programs that need the company's assistance. Are there any Young Professionals type groups in your area that you meet with and network with others?

Sorry these are sort of rambly thoughts - let me know if there if you have any questions or if you need more ideas. I'll keep brainstorming! Hang in there!

kenzie · Chanel

Trixie, there are some non-profit organizations around here (actually, alot in Philly), so that's mostly what I'm focusing on. I'm trying to send out 5 resumes a day (but I haven't been able to do so everyday this week).

My mom has offered to let me move home and live rent free if I go back to grad school. The only thing with that is that the schools in her area really don't interest me all that much. She also offered to help me get a part-time job in the hospital network that she works in. It's something I'm considering, but I'm still not sure.

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

YOU HAVE PM!

lsubatgirl · Gucci

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Originally posted by: NylaBelle
"Trixie, there are some non-profit organizations around here (actually, alot in Philly), so that's mostly what I'm focusing on. I'm trying to send out 5 resumes a day (but I haven't been able to do so everyday this week). My mom has offered to let me move home and live rent free if I go back to grad school. The only thing with that is that the schools in her area really don't interest me all that much. She also offered to help me get a part-time job in the hospital network that she works in. It's something I'm considering, but I'm still not sure. "

NylaBelle- this sounds like it could be a good thing. I would keep sending out those 5 resumes a day and really consider moving back home. I also wouldn't restrict myself to only non-profits (I'm sure you aren't but just in case) I would apply to every job I might qualify for cause the odds in numbers theory. You could always start school and if you find a job you like just quit school for now and start that job. You can always go back to school.

Keep your head up. If I ever win the lottery i'll be your sugar momma. You'll come out of this. There is an end to it all!