STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

I feel terrible for thinking like this, but bad behavior is getting rewarded in my family and it's driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



My sister and her fiancee have a 15 month old son. And, ever since my sister had my nephew she can do no wrong in my parents eyes, even though she is the most irresponsibe person when it comes to finaces (thankfully, she is a great mom, but prior to his being born she's buy a $1400 purse instead of paying her car payment, etc).

For example, they borrowed $8K from my parent to buy a used car right before their son was born because they needed a second car. Then, less than a year later, they announce they are going to buy a house even though my sister makes peanuts, my future BIL is a commission only salesmans and he sucks at his job. They still haven't paid back my parents. But my parents don't care because sis is buying a house. Yippee! Thankfully the deal fell through, because future BIL hasn't made a sale in about 3 months so they wouldn't have been able to make a payment. All summer they spent like Rockefellers because he was making some money, and now they are nearly destitute again bcause they didn't save any of it and he hasn't been making ANY.

Then, my husband wrecked his car a little less than a month ago. We chose to buy him a crappy car for cash because we didn't want to finance and have another car payment. We just redid the kitchen and put an entertainment area in the basement (flat screen, wii, etc.) and at thanksgiving I overhear a snide remark about how we are always doing thangs around the house and buying new stuff. I worked really hard to PAY CASH for the things they were commenting on. I didn't borrow from my parents or anyone else and I am the one making bad decisions?

It just kills me that my folks will rearange their lives to babysit for my sister a few days a week to save her the expense of daycare, and have them over for dinner 3-4 times a week so she doesn't have to cook and grocery shop and save their budget and, in general, bend over backwards to save them time and money and I get crapped on for actually living my life like an adult.

Oh, and sister (jokingly) asked me what kind of drugs I was selling to be able to do all that. I really wanted to tell ber that she'd be amazed at what you can do with a college education and a birth control prescription, but it seems too catty.

I know kids are expensive, and I am glad she had my nephew, but she acts like everyone owes her the help it takes to raise him. The next time she askes me when I'm haivng a kid maybe I'll tell her that my folks can't afford another grandchild!