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rosie_the_riveter


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My grandma is gravely ill. She's been in and out of the hospital for about a month now. She had gone in the first time b/c she had fluid in her lungs so then went to go stay at my mom's for about a week. Well, just this last Saturday she had to be rushed to the hospital - this time it's pancreatitis. Her cardiologist had told us that with her advanced heart disease and limited kidney function that her organs would begin failing on her. I just talked to my mom and she said that my grandma is slowly slipping away and that she is now hallucinating from all the morphine and just looks tired. I've been dreading this for so long and don't know how to deal with it. My grandma and I have always been so close. I just want to go crawl under a rock and not come out.

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I know that it is not going to help you feel better, but I just wanted to let you know that I am very sorry that you are having to see your beloved grandma go through this. It is so hard watching someone you care about being in bad health and feeling helpless about helping them. Let us know anytime you need to talk.

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rosie, i am so sorry. i wish i could give you a hug.  ((((ehugaww))))

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I am so sorry you are going through this.  It is never easy, but try to focus on the many positive times you have shared with your Grandma.  My thoughts will be with you. 

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Rosie, I am so sorry about this.

I know exactly how you feel and what you're going through. What you typed, I could have typed myself last September when my grandmother was going through a similar crisis. If you can be there to hold her hand, and the hands of some cousins and aunts and uncles and others who may be around, and let everyone make goo-goo eyes at your beautiful little girl, it would be a wonderful thing.

Chances are she is not in any pain and is ready to take the next step and have a "blessed event." Because that's what it is, a blessed event.


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I just wanted to say how sorry I am and that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandmother. It is so wonderful that you and she are close and have a true connection that will never be broken. I know you must feel frightened and powerless and I'm sending lots of virtual hugs and strength and hoping it might help a little  {{{Hugs}}}

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I'm really sorry, Rosie. Big hugs to you. My family went through something similar about 5 years ago and it's not easy. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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So sorry to read this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Aw, Cindy -- I'm so sorry.

I really don't know what to say.  I've been there with my mother and it's torture.  Realize the morphine is taking away all the pain.  She will know you're there, and it's important to let her know how much you will love her, will miss her, and how you know you're going to be OK.  With my mother I also talked about everyday things -- let her continue to live as normal of a relationship with you while she's still here, as hard as it is. It's no fun to know you're dying and to have everyone around you spend their last moments with you in a sad/negative way.  Be loving and as close to normal as you can (yes, it takes Herculean strength.)

In the end of all our lives, all that matters is who you love and who loves you - focus on letting her know how much you love her.

I know how helpless and tortured you feel.  I'm there for you if you ever want to talk.  My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Cindy Iam so sorry to hear this.I have not heard from you in a while and I was worried about you. Iam here if you need to talk.  I know its hard to see your loved sick and not be able to do anything but she knows you are there and that you loved her  . ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))  

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Ugh so sorry to hear.. she will be in my thoughts and prayers..

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I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

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I'm so sorry. We went through this with my grandfather, and the one thing I remember is that even amid the hallucinations and the morphine, he did understand that there were people he loved all around him. That's the most important thing. She knows you love her.

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I'm so sorry. My grandfathers funeral was this past Sunday, he died in a car accident. I know how much it hurts.

Be thankful you get to say goodbye. 


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I read a poem yesterday that was written for a woman whose mother was dying and I don't know how you believe but I thought you might find it helpful:

Sweet face so worn and tired now
A distant smile of days long gone
Tread lightly all around her now
This princess almost wears her crown.

Big hugs to you Rosie thru this trying time. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry.

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